Comments on: Chapter Five Excerpt–Dot’s Loss

By: AMR

AMR — Sat, 03 Feb 2007 21:22:22 +0000

I am crying. I am sick to my stomach. I am so glad you are writing this book…these stories need to be told.

By: Moo

Moo — Thu, 01 Feb 2007 15:51:05 +0000

I cried and cried while reading this.

By: Sabrina Peschke

Sabrina Peschke — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 04:14:19 +0000

I’m SO GLAD I insisted I be asleep for my D&C. I was terrified, and it was all too horrible. I FREAKED out when I saw all the instruments on the table, and being moved over to the table with the hole in it, and I don’t remember much after that. Hang in there Deanna!
Hugs

By: Stacie

Stacie — Fri, 05 Jan 2007 21:58:12 +0000

I can’t believe people have to go through that. I kept hoping it wouldn’t happen. That she could refuse and they could let her have a labor and delivery.

By: Angb

Angb — Thu, 30 Nov 2006 06:04:38 +0000

yes that was very sad. Very good writing though Deanna. I still wish that I hadnt’ read it just yet though. It’s very good of you to put the warning about not reading it if we weren’t up to it, but I wish I had listened. I’m so sorry for your experiences.

By: Rachel R

Rachel R — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 22:02:07 +0000

Oh, Deanna, I rememeber reading your story about Casey when I first visited this website during my m/c…in your story you asked about the baby coming out that way, and you said he looked kind of sad. It touched me so much, and reading this just made my heart ache that you had to go through this. Thank you for writing about this, so people understand what some of us have to go through and how painful it is.

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 20:18:00 +0000

While reading this at work, I was trying very hard not to cry but it didn’t work. I had to terminate my first pregnancy at 14wks, but ‘luckily’ they put me under at the hospital were it was done. This brought back the vidid memories of waiting in the office of the dr doing the procedure and crying my eyes out because I was surrounded by very happy, very pregnant women talking about feeling their babies move and I had not ever felt my angel at all. For the most part, I had compasionate caregivers, the nurse that assisted with the laminaria held my hand and let me cry. I would like to share more, but snce I am at work and my eyes are already red and puffy, I don’t think I can go on. Thank you for telling this painful (not that any loss isn’t)side to loosing a baby.

By: Kaye

Kaye — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 09:06:52 +0000

Goodness me, I am just cold all over. That anyone should have to go through that is the most unfair, tragic, saddest thing I have ever had to think about. I am so sad that I read this, but grateful that I have a bit more understanding of what some women have to go through. Thank you.

By: melody

melody — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 17:51:30 +0000

I really feel Dot’s desperation with wanting Barry to feel the baby just once. She really wanted someone to acknowledge that she actually had life within her. I can’t comment on anything else–just too difficult.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 14:40:27 +0000

Wow, that actually made me feel sick. Even after suffering through two m/c’s, I can not imagine what it would be like to have to terminate a pregnancy like that. What a chilling, chilling chapter. You are doing a fantastic job, Deanna. Thank you so much for this.

Vicki