Comments on: Flashback to Stella’s first loss http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/ Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:18:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Kris http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-371 Kris Tue, 02 Jan 2007 04:26:00 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-371 Wow, that was hard, but written so well. Last year I had my daughter, stillborn at 27 weeks. I was alone in the house, and decided to bury her, after holding her for hours. It was so hard to decide, just like these characters. It feels right that they were able to choose together what to do. You have written such a great and compassionate book, that will help so many others c`ome to terms with their loss, and the decisions they made. Thank You. Wow, that was hard, but written so well. Last year I had my daughter, stillborn at 27 weeks. I was alone in the house, and decided to bury her, after holding her for hours. It was so hard to decide, just like these characters. It feels right that they were able to choose together what to do. You have written such a great and compassionate book, that will help so many others c`ome to terms with their loss, and the decisions they made. Thank You.

]]> By: kathy http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-370 kathy Tue, 12 Dec 2006 20:20:36 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-370 Wow Deanna, I feel honored in a way that you chose to use part of my personal story for such a pivotal character and critical part of the story. It felt really strange reading it (I couldn't wait, I am here at work in my office), like I was watching myself and dh all over again but as a bystander, although in my situation I was the one to bring him the tissue that I passed in a port a john and it was his idea to burn it with some sage that he had collected. All through my miscarriage, my biggest fear was that my baby would be flushed down a toilet and that just seemed so very wrong to me. I am glad we were able to say goodbye to our baby in such a ceremonial way. I have never shared that experience with anyone (family or friends) but now with you and I am glad I did. Wow Deanna,

I feel honored in a way that you chose to use part of my personal story for such a pivotal character and critical part of the story. It felt really strange reading it (I couldn’t wait, I am here at work in my office), like I was watching myself and dh all over again but as a bystander, although in my situation I was the one to bring him the tissue that I passed in a port a john and it was his idea to burn it with some sage that he had collected. All through my miscarriage, my biggest fear was that my baby would be flushed down a toilet and that just seemed so very wrong to me. I am glad we were able to say goodbye to our baby in such a ceremonial way. I have never shared that experience with anyone (family or friends) but now with you and I am glad I did.

]]> By: melody http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-369 melody Mon, 11 Dec 2006 18:59:32 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-369 Heartwrenching, but it has it's own beauty. Good for Stella and Dane. Heartwrenching, but it has it’s own beauty. Good for Stella and Dane.

]]> By: Dawn Lewis http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-368 Dawn Lewis Sat, 09 Dec 2006 23:48:07 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-368 Duh, Stella's first loss. Ignore the above statement about it being their first loss. Blah! Duh, Stella’s first loss. Ignore the above statement about it being their first loss. Blah!

]]> By: Dawn Lewis http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-366 Dawn Lewis Fri, 08 Dec 2006 16:44:50 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-366 I think it says a lot about these characters that they did eveything in nature. It was their loss, not the ob's this way. They got to decide what happened to their baby. I still find Dot's exerpt to be harder. With this as a follow up to Dot's it's like a vindication. These parents gave themselves some control over the situation. Probably because it wasn't the first loss. I think it says a lot about these characters that they did eveything in nature. It was their loss, not the ob’s this way. They got to decide what happened to their baby.

I still find Dot’s exerpt to be harder. With this as a follow up to Dot’s it’s like a vindication. These parents gave themselves some control over the situation. Probably because it wasn’t the first loss.

]]> By: babychaos http://pregnancyloss.info/2006/12/flashback-to-stellas-first-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-367 babychaos Fri, 08 Dec 2006 13:14:58 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?p=41#comment-367 It's good. My baby was too small to see, the size of a grain of rice but there was a lot of other stuff. This is probably the wrong place to say this but at that particular hospital the chaplain does a special service over babies like mine - not with the parents, just alone, with a nurse, before they're sent to a bigger hospital to be incinerated. It's a background fact, something they do - not a usual thing but it might be something you could use somewhere.... Keep on trucking ;-) Cheers BC It’s good. My baby was too small to see, the size of a grain of rice but there was a lot of other stuff. This is probably the wrong place to say this but at that particular hospital the chaplain does a special service over babies like mine – not with the parents, just alone, with a nurse, before they’re sent to a bigger hospital to be incinerated. It’s a background fact, something they do – not a usual thing but it might be something you could use somewhere….

Keep on trucking ;-)

Cheers

BC

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