Comments on: Post-Miscarriage Sex and Hysteria

By: Stacie

Stacie — Sat, 20 Jan 2007 18:25:26 +0000

Definitely a necessary part of the book I think because so many women go through it. It is different, and, of course, better for some, but this type of situation seems to be more common.

By: melody

melody — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 22:33:05 +0000

Yes, it is a difficult topic, but I do think you handled it well, Deanna. I don’t have this type of flashbacks exactly, but sometimes something clicks in my brain (maybe it’s like Dawn said–a smell or other reminder), and I remember something from that time.

I thought Melinda’s fear of Jake’s reaction was very real. It really spoke to me when you said he couldn’t bear her weakness.

By: Dawn Lewis

Dawn Lewis — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 02:28:04 +0000

Such a touchy topic, yet necessary in a book about miscarriage. I recall crying during sex the first time, I just couldn’t do it. My husband was much more sensitive…and we didn’t finish that first time after. Later, I became disgusted with condoms. I just couldn’t stand the seperation from him, the fear of pregnancy angered me. I was sick of trying to stop something and taking pregnancy for granted.

I am so glad I didn’t experience flashbacks that seemed real. I have had physical rememberances such as smelling the same smell (of the hospital) or pains in my abdomen…or feeling the tingling breasts and feeling still pregnant. I recall my period afterward being extremely emotionally painful. I just couldn’t see blood anymore, it felt like death again in my body.