Comments on: Managing the Holidays without Baby

By: Ann

Ann — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 04:48:25 +0000

Ironically, the very action of holding a child or hanging out with your pregnant friend is God’s plan to help you become pregnant again – hormones. Just as women’s menstrual cycles become in sync with others over time when in close proximity so too does a woman’s fertility cycle “increase”. If you cannot bear to attend a baby shower etc go in the spring to a farm and frolic with the newborn lambs etc. This too can help relax and even out hormones according to some doctors. I went through a miscarriage very recently and am 40. I gave birth to a healthy baby 2 years prior so the reality of losing this child did seem easier but naturally at times I do second guess myself and wonder if I accidentally caused it (overheating, careful caffiene intake but intake nontheless). It is hard not to define ourselves by the number of children we have if we want them. But we are not really more or less important by how many children we desire, not in others eyes and not in God’s eyes.

By: Ginger

Ginger — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 02:51:41 +0000

I know just how you feel! I lost a baby at 3 mos. back in May and would have been due on Dec. 17, 08…I became pregnant again! and sadly miscarried on the due date of the previous baby. Eventhough I have 7 children, I still felt an extreme loss. After 4 miscarriages I still feel like someone is missing. Trying to hold back tears as I watch my pregnant sister’s belly grow and see pictures of her sono on her fridge. Maybe I’ll have another…not getting any younger-I’m 40.

By: Rose

Rose — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 17:55:22 +0000

I am so glad that I found your site. I only wish I would have found it earlier. This is another holiday season for me, in which I feel this same way. It’s really hard because our baby would have been a year old. All of the emotional rollercoasters going on with the pregnancy loss and struggle to conceive again is unbearable at times. Your site, especially during this time, is helpful.

By: libby

libby — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 14:02:59 +0000

I wish I had read this earlier! This is exactly how I felt over Thanksgiving – and I have not been looking forward to Christmas for that reason. Thank you for sharing this. Your website has been such a blessing to me. It’s the best miscarriage site I’ve found!

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 22:12:24 +0000

Thanks for posting the above in regards to the holidays. I’m having such a terrible time adjusting to the holidays this year, since losing our daughter 10/06/08. The above suggestions are so reassuring…I just hope that my family will understand why I’m not ‘in the mood’ this year.

By: amy g.

amy g. — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 17:05:23 +0000

Hollo,

That was so well said. Everything you said hit right on the mark. It’s been a little over 4 months since my m/c and I still have some bad days (more good than bad).

With everything that has happened this year, my family switched things up and my parents and my husband and my dog and myself drove 10 hours to my sister’s place for thanksgiving. I was so glad for the change. I didn’t want to be around any preg relatives or new babies. This way it was just my immediate family and a few of my sister’s friends.

Love you web site. Thank you for the wonderful information. I hate the fact that you and I and so many more women needed this site. God bless.

Amy G.