At this site you will find information and a place to come in your dark and frightened hours. The special features of the site are listed in the next column, as well as topics ranging from causes of miscarriage, to prevention, to when to try again for a new pregnancy.


A Reminder:

The only person who can really tell you what is happening to you is your own doctor, who peers into you with a light and a speculum, who samples your blood or urine, or who presses a sonogram paddle into your belly. If you are in trouble, bleeding, scared, or more depressed than you think you can handle on your own, you must find help. Read and research all you can, but remember that the one-on-one assistance of a real doctor is the only thing that will give you answers that count. If you don't like or trust your doctor, then find one you can.

If you are not sure where to start, begin by clicking on your situation:

• I am pregnant and worried
• I am waiting on a miscarriage my doctor has said is coming
• I miscarried recently
• I am not sure if I was pregnant and miscarried or not
• I miscarried a long time ago
• I am a teenager
• Someone close to me just lost her baby

This site was created by Deanna Roy, who lost her first baby at 20 weeks gestation and a twin at 10 weeks. Learn more about her on About this Site.

You can also join our community on Facebook called Facts about Miscarriage.

How do I know if I am having a miscarriage?

Can I stop it from happening?

What are the signs of miscarriage?

What do I do if I’m bleeding?

What happens when you miscarry naturally?

What is a D&C?

Should I wait or have a D&C?

What causes miscarriage?

When will I feel better?

How soon can I get pregnant again?

Will it happen again?

What did I do wrong?

Why did God let this happen?

How do I explain what happened to others?

How do I tell my children?

Are there books I can read?

How can I prevent it from happening again? 

How do I get through this?

General Questions

What do these terms on my medical form mean?

What if the doctor is wrong?

Will I ever be able to have children?

How often does this happen?

Why does this happen?

Why can’t anyone tell me why my baby died?

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

When can I start testing?

Why do I have to wait for three miscarriages before testing?

Should I save any tissue that comes out?

What is a blighted ovum?

What causes ectopic pregnancies?

Will I get my baby’s remains?

Will surgery cause damage?

Should I see a specialist?

Questions about Physical Recovery

Why am I so sore after the D&C?

When will my cycles go back to normal?

When will I stop bleeding?

Why aren’t my cycles normal now?

Should I have a follow-up exam?

Will my follow-up exam hurt?

When can I have sex again?

Why does sex hurt now?

What do I do if I get a fever?

Why do I feel sick and totally tired?

Why do I still have pregnancy symptoms?

When will I have a new period?

How will I know if I am ovulating?

I’ve been spotting and cramping for two weeks. When will it end?

Should the bleeding stop and start again?

How  do I get through this?

Questions about Your Next Pregnancy

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

Is it going to happen again?

What are my chances of a miscarriage after one, two, or more miscarriages?

If I already have a healthy baby, does that this miscarriage was just a one-time thing?

How many miscarriages are too many?

How can I get pregnant faster?

Should I get genetic testing on me and my partner before trying again?

Will stress about another miscarriage cause me to lose the baby?

What can I do to prevent another miscarriage?

When will I ovulate again after the miscarriage?

Is is okay to get pregnant again without having a period between pregnancies?

Why do I have to wait three cycles?

I was told to wait a whole year? Why?

Why is it dangerous to get pregnant again after a molar pregnancy?

Questions about Grieving and Coping

Why am I so sad?

Why am I so angry?

Am I going crazy?

Should I be worried about my thoughts of suicide?

Why won’t anyone talk about my baby?

Why isn’t my husband sad too?

Why is everyone saying such stupid or thoughtless things?

How do I handle all these questions?

How do I get through the first day back at work?

How do I tell my children?

How do I tell the millions of people who knew I was pregnant?

How do I get through the holidays?

Why am I so jealous of pregnant women?

How do I handle my best friend or family member being pregnant?

How do I handle baby showers?

Why do other women have babies just fine and not me?

Where is God in all this?

Questions about Memorials

Should I name the baby?

What kind of services are appropriate?

Are there any appropriate songs for the service?

I don’t have any remains. What do I do?

What is a memory box?

How can I name the baby if I didn’t know the baby’s sex?

What do I do if no one supports my memorial efforts?

In the Company of Angels is a memorial book to document your baby's life, even if you were only pregnant a short while.

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Our favorite healing song is "Still" by Gerrit Hofsink. Click for information.

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart
Deanna's Favorite Book on Miscarriage
Click for more info about Empty Cradle, Broken Heart.

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