December 22, 2009 at 1:27 pm
· Filed under Grief, Holidays
So many of you are writing me lately. I don’t mind at all, but I do worry about the sudden increase in despairing moms who have lost their babies during what is supposed to be a happy time of the year. The joy and laughter around us can make us feel more isolated and alone. Remember you do not have to put on a brave face, and you can take time away from the big groups to remember what you have lost.
I have a whole section on managing the holidays, but mainly, just do the best you can. It’s all anyone can ask.
A little video reminding us that it is okay to grieve:
Casey Shay Press is the publisher of In the Company of Angels, a memorial book for babies lost to miscarriage or stillbirth.
I wanted to tell other sad moms about the Baby Bunny Memorial site. I ran it a couple years ago for over 10 years and had to close due to problems but this Christmas felt called to bring it back even if it meant re-doing all the files I lost. It is a free site, no charge to place a memorial in memory of your baby. I lost five babies myself (4 to miscarriage, 1 stillbirth). The site offers memorials and also virtual gifts to place on your memorial whenever you want, especially during the holidays. I hope this helps other sad moms. Be at peace. Our babies are in heaven!
This site is the best I have read on miscarriage, I lost my baby at 14.5 weeks two months ago and this site has been wonderful.
the descriptions of how one feels after the loss describes my feelings exactly.
I cried when I read it cos it was kike reading about myself…the medical information was also very reassuring.
At this site you will find information and a place to come in your dark and frightened hours. The special features of the site are listed in the next column, as well as topics ranging from causes of miscarriage, to prevention, to when to try again for a new pregnancy.
A Reminder:
The only person who can really tell you what is happening to you is your own doctor, who peers into you with a light and a speculum, who samples your blood or urine, or who presses a sonogram paddle into your belly. If you are in trouble, bleeding, scared, or more depressed than you think you can handle on your own, you must find help. Read and research all you can, but remember that the one-on-one assistance of a real doctor is the only thing that will give you answers that count. If you don't like or trust your doctor, then find one you can.
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