Common Questions

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Most Common Questions:


What do these terms on my medical form mean?

What if the doctor is wrong?

Will I ever be able to have children?

How often does this happen?

Why does this happen?

Why can’t anyone tell me why my baby died?

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

When can I start testing?

Why do I have to wait for three miscarriages before testing?

Should I save any tissue that comes out?

What is a blighted ovum?

What causes ectopic pregnancies?

Will I get my baby’s remains?

Will surgery cause damage?

Should I see a specialist?

Questions about Physical Recovery

Why am I so sore after the D&C?

When will my cycles go back to normal?

When will I stop bleeding?

Why aren’t my cycles normal now?

Should I have a follow-up exam?

Will my follow-up exam hurt?

When can I have sex again?

Why does sex hurt now?

What do I do if I get a fever?

Why do I feel sick and totally tired?

Why do I still have pregnancy symptoms?

When will I have a new period?

How will I know if I am ovulating?

I’ve been spotting and cramping for two weeks. When will it end?

Should the bleeding stop and start again?

How  do I get through this?


Questions about Your Next Pregnancy

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

Is it going to happen again?

What are my chances of a miscarriage after one, two, or more miscarriages?

If I already have a healthy baby, does that this miscarriage was just a one-time thing?

How many miscarriages are too many?

How can I get pregnant faster?

Should I get genetic testing on me and my partner before trying again?

Will stress about another miscarriage cause me to lose the baby?

What can I do to prevent another miscarriage?

When will I ovulate again after the miscarriage?

Is is okay to get pregnant again without having a period between pregnancies?

Why do I have to wait three cycles?

I was told to wait a whole year? Why?

Why is it dangerous to get pregnant again after a molar pregnancy?


Questions about Grieving and Coping

Why am I so sad?

Why am I so angry?

Am I going crazy?

Should I be worried about my thoughts of suicide?

Why won’t anyone talk about my baby?

Why isn’t my husband sad too?

Why is everyone saying such stupid or thoughtless things?

How do I handle all these questions?

How do I get through the first day back at work?

How do I tell my children?

How do I tell the millions of people who knew I was pregnant?

How do I get through the holidays?

Why am I so jealous of pregnant women?

How do I handle my best friend or family member being pregnant?

How do I handle baby showers?

Why do other women have babies just fine and not me?

Where is God in all this?


Questions about Memorials

Should I name the baby?

What kind of services are appropriate?

Are there any appropriate songs for the service?

I don’t have any remains. What do I do?

What is a memory box?

How can I name the baby if I didn’t know the baby’s sex?

What do I do if no one supports my memorial efforts?



153 thoughts on “Common Questions

  1. Thank you Deanna for your quick reply. I accidentally deleted the email so I have to respond here :) This gives me a lot of peace of mind having a more clear idea of what happened to me.

  2. Hi I was Hoping that you can help me. I am 8 1/2 weeks pregnant. I fell preg on the mini pill. After a positive test I immediately stopped the pill. I started to suffer with minor back pains and had blood found in urine samples. I was given antibiotics for a suspected UTI. o noticed a little brownish discharge and then brown blood and went to the hospital. A vaginal US showed that I was 8 weeks and the baby was in the right place and has a heart beat. Since then the blood has increased slightly (enough to need a pad but not to soak one)but is now fresh red blood. I have had this for 3 days now and am really worried. Subsequent preg test have shown up positive but I am worried I am miscarrying. How long should I leave this? The hospital are saying unless I soak a pad then not to go back in!?

  3. hi i had my DNC on 9th june and due to some unexpected situations we had intercourse on 22nd june,i dnt want to get pregnant so early after ,is there any chances of getting pregnant,pls suggest me i am really worried abt the incident happened.

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