Common Questions

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Most Common Questions:

 

What do these terms on my medical form mean?

What if the doctor is wrong?

Will I ever be able to have children?

How often does this happen?

Why does this happen?

Why can’t anyone tell me why my baby died?

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

When can I start testing?

Why do I have to wait for three miscarriages before testing?

Should I save any tissue that comes out?

What is a blighted ovum?

What causes ectopic pregnancies?

Will I get my baby’s remains?

Will surgery cause damage?

Should I see a specialist?

Questions about Physical Recovery

Why am I so sore after the D&C?

When will my cycles go back to normal?

When will I stop bleeding?

Why aren’t my cycles normal now?

Should I have a follow-up exam?

Will my follow-up exam hurt?

When can I have sex again?

Why does sex hurt now?

What do I do if I get a fever?

Why do I feel sick and totally tired?

Why do I still have pregnancy symptoms?

When will I have a new period?

How will I know if I am ovulating?

I’ve been spotting and cramping for two weeks. When will it end?

Should the bleeding stop and start again?

How  do I get through this?

 

Questions about Your Next Pregnancy

Why are there so many different answers to “when can I try again?”

Is it going to happen again?

What are my chances of a miscarriage after one, two, or more miscarriages?

If I already have a healthy baby, does that this miscarriage was just a one-time thing?

How many miscarriages are too many?

How can I get pregnant faster?

Should I get genetic testing on me and my partner before trying again?

Will stress about another miscarriage cause me to lose the baby?

What can I do to prevent another miscarriage?

When will I ovulate again after the miscarriage?

Is is okay to get pregnant again without having a period between pregnancies?

Why do I have to wait three cycles?

I was told to wait a whole year? Why?

Why is it dangerous to get pregnant again after a molar pregnancy?

 

Questions about Grieving and Coping

Why am I so sad?

Why am I so angry?

Am I going crazy?

Should I be worried about my thoughts of suicide?

Why won’t anyone talk about my baby?

Why isn’t my husband sad too?

Why is everyone saying such stupid or thoughtless things?

How do I handle all these questions?

How do I get through the first day back at work?

How do I tell my children?

How do I tell the millions of people who knew I was pregnant?

How do I get through the holidays?

Why am I so jealous of pregnant women?

How do I handle my best friend or family member being pregnant?

How do I handle baby showers?

Why do other women have babies just fine and not me?

Where is God in all this?

 

Questions about Memorials

Should I name the baby?

What kind of services are appropriate?

Are there any appropriate songs for the service?

I don’t have any remains. What do I do?

What is a memory box?

How can I name the baby if I didn’t know the baby’s sex?

What do I do if no one supports my memorial efforts?

 

 

153 thoughts on “Common Questions

  1. I am so glad that I finally found a web site that has lots of answers to my questions. I had a d&c last monday for a missed misscarriage 4-6 weeks ago. I did not get any advice from the hospital and was very scared as I did not know what to expect. This is a wonderful web site and has so much helful and calming information.

    Thank you

  2. My water broke when i was 18 weeks but the baby survived until i was 26 weeks and i delivered my baby on march 28th but she passed away on march 30th I’m 35 years old and I’m diabetic too how long do i have to wait to try to become pregnant again?

  3. Hi, i just wanted to say thanks for your info, i had an MC on 1st Feb then found your website, i followed your plan, sperm meets egg,it was exhausting but fun! Today i got my BFP! I just hope this pregnancy will be ok. if any other ladies are reading its worth a try.

  4. HI deanna,
    this is a wonderful site. I am sure that this site will touch many lives.
    I hope you continue to bring people together across the miles.
    Your old site has helped me so much.
    Ali

  5. Hi

    I just had my 2nd miscarriage 2 days ago. I was 9 weeks but my baby stopped developing at 6 weeks. My beta HCG levels were low and never doubling and my progesterone level was low. Is this miscarriage caused by hormonal problems or is this likely to be another case of genetic defect? Should i see a specialist as my OB/GYN has not been very helpful and sympathic at all.
    But i am truly thankful to have found your website.

  6. Hi Deanna. I had a m/c 2 years ago and i posted a memorial on your original site, i then became pg with my daughter very soon after, and she is now 16 months old. We started ttc when she was 7 months and it took a few months, and i became pg, had an u/s at 6 weeks and saw HB, but 5 days later i m/c, i felt unsupported from my health service, and was told that they wont investigate until ive had 3 m/c in a row (without a live child in the middle).
    Im now pg again, 10 weeks and things are ok so far. Obviously, im very anxious, my doc and midwife have been totally unsupportive, esp my midwife. I have good days and bad days. We are having our first u/s tomorrow and i am terrified, im so scared of things going wrong again.

  7. Thank you so much for this wonderful site. I had a d&e this morning and consulted this site many times before and as i sit here recovering, wondering what is next. i know everyone is different, but i feel a great sense of relief that this is over with. the weeks of waiting to see and decision-making were absolute torture. I am 39 tomorrow, this was my first pregnancy, it happened quickly, and I hope I can have one that works once everything is ready. I can’t thank you enough for all this information you have put together and for the support.

  8. Hello Deanna, I found your website last week while looking for info on a miscarriage that i was told was coming. on thursday 5-1-08 i had a D&C my body was so sore it hurt to move. now im wondering is there any way we could get our little ones remains to bury in our own family cemetary. i was almost 9 weeks along. otherwise the plan is for our baby to get buried october 11 in a cemetary where they want to bury the little one.

  9. I lost twins at 8 weeks in Feb. 08. I got pregnant again after one cyle in April 08. Today (May 5th), I lost this baby too at 5w 5d. I just want to be a mommy so very bad!! This is site had been really helpful in information and understanding. I’m so sorry to hear of all the women that have loss their angel babies.

  10. I was actually looking at sites today because my niece just miscarried and although I miscarried 2 years ago and am in the medical profession, I am at a loss as to how to advise my niece. She lives in Florida and her doctor sounds like a hack. She’s a student without health insurance and I don’t think this doc has a clue as to what he’s doing. Any advise or better yet the name of a good doctor in Miami? I’m worried for her immediate health and future ability to conceive a child.

  11. Hi Deanna,
    I started my period on the 2nd of May, and on the 6th of May (i was still on my period) my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. Since i was on my period we thought I couldn’t get pregnant. Later, we found out that I could. I took the ‘Morning After’ pill, on the 7th, and my period ended on the 8th of May. Now its the 11th, and im starting another period. at first i thought i was just spotting..but now its red-dark red blood and some clots. Was i pregnant? Did i have a miscarriage?

  12. Deanna,

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for your dedication and generosity in creating and maintaining this site. I’m 38 and going through a miscarriage with my first pregnancy.

    I appreciate the level-headed and reassuring tone in which the articles are written. Your compilation of so much useful and helpful information has helped to ease the confusion and distress my husband and I are experiencing.

  13. Deanna,
    I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks in dec. I have recently found out that I was pregnant again and am 6 1/2 weeks along. I am having to take shots of lovenex everyday for a protein s defieciency that I was diagnosed with. Yesterday I bled enought to feel 1/2 of a pad but no clots or cramping then today I have spotted a little at times when I wipe it is a slimy pinkesh red and then it is a brownish color at other times. Am I for sure having a miscarriage?

  14. Thank you so much for working on this site. I miscarried two weeks ago, and I so wish that I had found this site before it happened. I knew my hcG levels had dropped and was waiting for it to begin, but I had no idea that it was going to be as painful and horrific as it was! This site was so informative, reassuring, and encouraging. Thank you for giving me the space to feel “crazy” and for the hope that things will get better.

  15. It has been one week since I lost my baby ( @8 weeks). This site has been so very helpful. I wanted to share a song that has been a comfort to me this past week.

    What Hurts The Most by Rascall Flatts

    I can take the rain on the roof of this empty house, that don’t bother me
    I can take a few tears now and then and just let them out
    I’m not afraid to cry
    Every once in a while even though goin on with you gone still upsets me
    There are days
    Every now and again i pretend i’m okay but that’s not what gets me

    What hurts the most, was being so close
    And having so much to say
    And watchin you walk away
    Never knowing, what could have been
    And not seein that lovin you
    Is what i was tryin to do

    It’s hard to deal with the pain of losing you everywhere i go
    But i’m doin it
    It’s hard to force that smile when i see our old friends and i’m alone
    Still harder gettin up, gettin dressed, livin with this regret
    But i know if i could do it over
    I would trade, give away all the words that i saved in my heart that i left unspoken

    What hurts the most, is being so close
    And having so much to say
    And watchin you walk away
    Never knowing, what could have been
    And not seein that lovin you
    Is what i was tryin to do

    What hurts the most, was being so close
    And having so much to say
    And watchin you walk away
    And never knowing, what could have been
    And not seein that lovin you
    Is what i was tryin to do

    not seein that lovin you
    that’s what I was tryin to do

    I hope it helps someone else find peace as well.

  16. Just as a note–when a comment includes a question, I do try to always send an email with the answer. I don’t publish all of these answers as many times the topic is covered on this site.

    Flo, your email bounced, so for the statistics question, yes, a heartbeat takes your likelihood of loss down to 5% even if you lost the last baby, since a very large percentage of miscarriages are genetic and lost before development of a strong heartbeat. Getting to that development stage is a big milestone.

  17. i lost my baby in oct 07 at 8 weeks. since then i had been online a lot looking for answers, strength and help. i thought i was recovering already but in feb 08 i was diagnosed with cervical cancer and had to have cold knife conization done in march. i just had quite a bit going on. losing the baby started me on a roller coaster ride, with the surgery and now with the ttc issue. i have an 18-year old beautiful daughter. i was so young when i had her that i never really got to appreciate and enjoy the pregnancy itself. it’s such a wonderful experience raising her that now that i am ready at 35, i want to be given the second chance to be better. i would love to enjoy pregnancy from day 1. i was enjoying my chance last year until i lost the baby at 8 weeks. now we’re trying again. it is difficult and emotional to see a period start every month with a negative hpt.
    thank you all for being around, posting and sharing on this site. you have no idea how much you have helped women everywhere through this heartbreaking situation. more power to you deanna.

  18. well im a teen and i thought i was pregnant but im not sure because i didnt get my period the whole month of december and then i got really sick and i started bleeding but only for two days then i didnt even get my period in febuary and not until march is when i got it

  19. Hi, I’m Meghan. I’ve been pregnant for about 2 months.. I’m fifteen I know I’m young. But I woke up and went to the bathroom and found out I was bleeding it was hardly anything but it was very light pink . Its not heavy. Did I have a miscarriage??

  20. Hi,
    I started reading your site about a year ago following our miscarriage (12 weeks) I found it inspiring and comforting and referred to it often. Our last 9 months of trying have been unsuccessful. We’ve had very little help from our doctor who tells us to try until July and then will refer us to Infertility. I’ve had numerous blood tests. I ovulate every month. I track my temperature (appropriate spikes, etc.) I have “normal” periods. I was able to get pregnant once, so why isn’t it happening again? I know these things take time, but it’s been almost another year and still nothing. I’m patiently waiting to speak to the Infertility Specialist but am very frustrated at the lack of answers. I’m also terrified to think of miscarrying again, but that won’t even be a concern until I can get pregnant. Any thoughts?

  21. hello everyone,

    I am 21yrs old and was pregnant with my first child! i found out that i was going to lose the baby around 8 weeks pregnant. The baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and i had my D&C may 7, 08 at 10 1/2 weeks. the babys heart beat was low 60-70 and then it went down to 10-20 and then back up to 70 it would beat then stop and beat then stop. i do not undstand how the heartbeat could go all the way back to 70 beat and stop. it has been 3 weeks tomorrow since i had a D&C. I have some slight cramps like i am on my period and a little discharge. the doctor said nothing looked wrong with the baby nor me and we can try as early as 3 cycles so that i can grieve and heal. i am just wondering why the heartbeat my have come and gone the way it did and also if this may happen again with our next pregnancy. my husband and i are going to start trying again in august to start our family but i just dont understand the heart beat should i worry the next time i get pregnant(even though my doc said she is going to watch me the first 5-20 weeks??)

  22. I just came across your site while looking for HCG levels. I had a natural miscarriage in April. The bleeding completley stopped on the 25th, with the worst day pain and bleeding wise being the 23rd. I had my blood drawn on the 24th to check my levels and they never called back so I assumed they were low enough. Two weeks ago I had very light spotting and I thought I was starting my period and we had sex. I have started to feel pregnant again so I took a test on Saturday and it said I was pregnant. I called the doc and they said my HCG levels were 341 on the 24th of April and that I needed to have them drawn again. Yesterday they were 36. I am so concerned the doc is not sure if my levels are going down still. Or if I am pregnant and they are coming back up. The page that had the levels was very helpful for me, but I could see it both ways still. Thanks for the page.

  23. Thanks so much for this amazing site. It has been incredibly helpful for me as I’ve gone through the miscarriage process. It’s brought me comfort and sanity during a time when almost nothing made sense. Thanks so much for your amazing information; it is written in such a caring and informative way that helps put everyone at ease. You are wonderful!

  24. Hi. I just found out through an ultrasound that my baby’s heartbeat has stopped and the baby is not growing. I am 8 weeks and, at this point, am going to try and let things happen naturally. I have 3 other children but was so excited and overjoyed to have another little one. Now I am grieving and your website is a comforting source of help. Thanks for everything on your site. I have a supportive husband and many friends and family who are caring and have said kind words, but I just feel like no one can truly understand the deep sense of loss I am feeling. I lost my mom only 8 months ago and am still grieving for her too so none of this is easy. Just wanted to say thanks for your website.

  25. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in 2005, 2 months later pregnant & had ectopic pregnancy. Luckily I did not loose my tube. I was so scared to get pregnant again. 2 months later I got pregnant again & I now have a beautiful baby girl Lucah who was born at 37 weeks weighing 1.980kg. She was in NICU for a whole week before coming home. I would not give up & my miracle happened. Was well worth all the pain I went through.

  26. Dear Deanna,

    as i sat at the computer looking for some hope and inspiration i stumbled across your web site. i miscarriage at 7 weeks. i’m 35 and had been trying to conceive for nearly 5 years. i’ve had 2 ivf cycles, 3 iui’s, laporoscopy for endometriosis and fell naturally with the help of chinese herbs and a huge commitment to excercise and eating healthy. thank you for creating this web site. i’ve been surfng the net for answers and not one site has come anywhere near enough to the information you have provided. thank you. i will definitely continue to read the pages as i get close to trying again, hopefully becoming pregnant again and the fears associated with it. you are a god send.
    best wishes to you and your family.

    athena

  27. Hi, it’s Carol again, The one who had three babies,two miscarriages,two babies, and 7 years later have had two more miscarriages. I was wondering , with my second last miscarriage if it was possible that my cervix is damaged. Because with the birth of my 5th child she weighed 9lbs1oz., and came so suddenly (when she was ready), that I was not completely on my back when she came out (without me pushing). Could that have caused a 15 week pregnancy to end in a labour type situation. Thank-you again

  28. Hi, My name’s Casey. I wrote last at the end of May when I was told I lost the 2nd of what was essentially twins. One was in my uterus and I lost it just before 8 weeks (3-17-08) and with the second they couldnt see it in an ultrasound still by may. On May 25th my right tube ruptured. My doctor told me and my follow up appt that I had what’s called a heterotopic pregnancy. He said that they are very very very rare. I was just wondering if anyone had any information about these pregnancies. I’m kinda curious since this means that I was pregnant with twins will my hances of twins be higher when we start trying again and could this ever happen again. It’s hard loosing 2 at once. Don’t think I could handle that again. Thanks for the help!

  29. Hi Deanna , It’s Carol, I want to thank you for answering my questions. You are a truly wonderful person. I have one more question. With my second last miscarriage I was told the placenta had not attached properly. Its that possibly the reason I lost it at 15 weeks. Nobody can give me info on this. And I can’t see an ob gyn until september. Thank you again, Carol

  30. Carol, I’m going to go ahead and post an answer here since it might help others and isn’t directly addressed on the site.

    The placenta not attaching properly and causing such a late loss could fall under several categories, some that are more worrisome than others.

    1. Genetic. This placenta/cord did not form properly from the beginning and was unable to grow and support the baby over time.

    2. Infection. Something infected the lining of the uterus and disrupted the implantation site.

    3. Septate or severely bicornuate uterus. The section of the uterus where the placenta attached did not have sufficient blood flow to keep the pregnancy going during that critical growth period early in the second trimester.

    #1 cannot really be tested for or ever truly known. But it won’t necessarily ever happen again. #2 is not likely, and it’s too late to test for that now, as you’ve very likely kicked any infection from then. Also not likely to recur. #3 is the most troubling, as it could be a recurring problem. If you have not had an HSG yet, where they put dye in your uterus and x-ray it, you might ask your OB about it in September.

    Hang in there.

  31. I was 12 weeks but my baby stopped growing at 5 weeks. I had no signs of a miscarriage. No blood, cramps, etc… Each week I would go in they would do an ultrasound. The first week was 5 weeks. They tell me I’m about 5 weeks I thought I was 7. They bring me back in 2 weeks later and I have an ultrasound and I am still only 5 weeks, this time we hear the heartbeat. They bring me back in 2 weeks later and there is nothing. I had a D&C on May 19th and I’ve never really stopped bleeding. Spotting most of the time. I thought I had started my period on May 13th and it lasted until May 20th. After reading your web site I realized it must not be a period b/c I haven’t stopped bleeding for 20 days. I stopped for 5 days now from May 20th until May 25th and all of the sudden I had really bad bleeding. Today I wake up and nothing. I stopped bleeding. My doctor told me to take 800 mg of Ibprophen and keep a pad count. What do you think is going on?

  32. I just wanted to thank you for your website. It is the first one I found that addressed several of my questions about my miscarriages and I have been searching for a couple months. Thank you again.

  33. Thank you so much for your website. I just had a D&C yesterday because I miscarried twins, and every one, except my husband, is annoyed that I am as sad as I am. My own mom let me down. Thank you for your “hug” of a website.

  34. Your website helped me get through THE most difficult experience of my life. I went for my 20 week ultrasound extremely excited to find out the sex of the baby and was told instead that they baby was dead. I blamed myself. I thought that perhaps I could have done a million things differently. I thought there HAD to be reason… maybe I was being punished for something, surely these things don’t just happen. Your site helped me understand that they do ‘just happen’. I know I did everything for this baby to be healthy… but it was beyond my control. Your site helped me understand that and I was able to cope with things so much better.

  35. Thank you for your website. I needed to be here now. I have two beautiful children, but have just experienced my second loss at 13 weeks, both babies measure just over 12 weeks. In both cases we saw a great heartbeat at around 8-9 weeks. Now I seriously considering never trying again. I can’t find any other posts/info from other women who feel this way. Maybe you know a site to check out. Thanks for your help.

  36. Amanda,

    I am so sorry for the losses of these babies. Families experiencing losses after children are in a unique position–you don’t feel like you belong to the childless and grieving community, and yet, you are having the same problems.

    If you aren’t aware of it, there is a term for moms who are in your position — secondary infertility. This refers to women who have one or more children and then find they cannot get pregnant again or cannot carry another child to term.

    Resolve has a secondary infertility community, and if you start Googling that term, you will find many resources geared toward you.

    The loss of a baby is hard no many how many little ones might be hat home. Hang in there.

  37. I’m visiting today in rememberance of my Calvin who was lost on July 14, 2002 at 13 weeks. He likely died at 10 weeks, since that’s all the bigger he was. This site helped save my sanity and I will always be grateful. I experienced two more losses, six months apart, in 2005 and again I relied on this site to help me deal with all of it. The medical community, family members, and most people in general were of little or no help. No one else, including my husband, usually remembers the dates of our losses, but I won’t ever forget. Today was also the due date of our third loss (nicknamed “Cougar” in the hope of making him strong) which took place November 28, 2005, so it’s a double “whammy” day for me.

    I want to express my sympathies to all of you who are just now going through this and for those of you who know exactly what we’ve all been through. I want to offer encouragement to everyone that there is peace to be found. No, I’ll never be “okay with it,” but I have found peace with it. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, how to grieve, or how long it should take. Draw strength from Deanna (to whom I owe a great debt for creating this site) and the others who come here to work through it. You have more strength than you know and I promise you will come through the hard times. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

    In loving memory of Calvin, Angel, and Cougar

  38. Thank You so much for your website. I had two miscarriages in the past 6 mths. The first pregnancy ended in six weeks and the second one in ten weeks. I am feeling very lost and scared.

    The success stories on your site had given me hope. Thank You once again..

  39. Hi Deanna,
    Thank you again for your website. I had a natural miscarriage in June 08 at 7 weeks gestation and have found your information very informative and healing. Please excuse me if you have already published this info, but my computer skills are very limited and can’t seem to find answers to these questions below. You mentioned that the next period may come between 4-7 weeks after the miscarriage. I have been experiencing period like syptoms and pain since week 3 and i am at week 5 now; however there is no periosd yet. My recent blood test showed hcg levels basically down to zero and ultrasound is all clear.
    Is this normal to be experiencing these symptoms? i just want them to come already!
    Also in regards to early testing before a next pregnancy. Your information suggested progesterone testing.
    How often in the cylce should this blood test occur and what especially to look for?
    In my previous post i mentioned that i have had ivf and iui treatments, only to fall pregnant naturally after trying for nearly 5 years. I was also on chinese herbs.
    What is your opinion on chinese herbs?
    Thank you if you’re able to respond.

  40. Deanna, I’m so glad I found your site. The story of Casey made me cry as we went through something almost identical last week.. went for our 18 week scan and bub had died, probably at 16 weeks. I was induced and we named our little boy Ethan. It was so amazing to read your story and I hope to be as brave as you were.
    Nic

  41. Our Daughter Morgan (14 years) was killed in a ferry disaster on Sydney Harbour and on the anniversary of her death we created Live It Keep It. It is a FREE site to store family memories of those lost and those living in a dynamic interactive family tree. It is not a social webiste it is about storing memories we should never forget. It might help your subscribers in there grief – everyones grief journey is individual and painful.

  42. What a fantastic web site. I have experienced a missed miscarriage (resulting in a d&c), fullterm still birth (Bella was stillborn at 39weeks and 5 days), ectopic pregnancy (lost my right fallopian tube) and an early miscarriage. I feel desperate, having children is all we have ever wanted. We have dealt with the worst possible circumstances to do with pregnancy loss. This web site has reassured me and given me the strength to keep trying! Thank you so much.
    Emma (Australia)

  43. To “Lisa” and others,
    I also just suffered a miscarriage after 5 years of secondary infertility. It “just happened” on its own and we were thrilled at the dream of having a child together. I am 44 and married to my soulmate. We are so blessed, but this was our icing. I have experiences so much kindness from my family, friends and co-workers. I have also heard some of the most heart wrenching comments and they cut deep. All I could do to get through it, was to concentrate on the good. It has helped, but the emptiness remains. Warm thoughts and big hugs to all you beautiful mtb (mothers to be). Because I truly believe it will happen.
    D~

  44. My heart goes out to all these people who have lost their babies. Yesterday I lost my baby at 8 weeks gestation after spotting and bleeding for 13 days. This is our second miscarriage and fifth pregnancy. I’m having to deal with it alone since my husband lives and works in another province, and my family just doesn’t get it. I realized that after the first miscarriage. Yes, I have three healthy children, but that doesn’t mean my lost babies should be discounted. I loved my babies from the moment I suspected I was pregnant. With this baby I was able to save the remains and “hold” my child. Incredibly heartbreaking and wonderfully heartwarming at the same time. The baby was well formed for 8 weeks, but I will sorely miss holding the hands that started and looking into the eyes that were visible.

    It has been a healing experience to read these posts and know that, although I feel completely alone and isolated, it is not the case. I see so many who have lost their babies around the same time I did (the first m/c was at 7 weeks). The grief I felt then and feel now is consuming, and I share it with each person here. Thank you all for reaching out.

  45. Thank you so much for this website. It is the first I have found that addresses more than just the plain facts.

    We were expecting our second child, when I miscarried last week. I had cramps early in my pregnancy and nausea seemed to get less and less. I was reassured that this was all normal since I was not bleeding. I went in at 10 wks and only measured 6 wk 5 days with no HB. After an agonizing week, we had blood tests which showed HCG dropping and US showed no HB, no growth. I had a D&C shortly thereafter.

    This by far has been the hardest experience for me and my husband. It is also very lonely as our friends/family are afraid of saying the wrong thing, so they say nothing. While it is very sad to see so many have had similar experiences, it is comforting to read that we are not alone. Thank you again.

  46. My husband and I have bee trying for a few years not but chalked not concieving to a huge amount of stress stemmed from his parent being very sick and both dying over the span of 2 1/2 years. I have been following your plan for the last couple months and I am sitting in the 2ww right now 8DPO. I am using a ovulation monitor and I am noticing a pattern. I start peeing on a stick cd6 or 7 and on cd 6 or 7 I also notice my cerbival mucas. I start our every other day at this point. Someone told me not to start trying until the monitor reached two bars but that is usually only 2 or 3 days before my monitor peaks. From what I understand when it peaks I should ovulate within 12-24 hours. I usually get me period 14 days for the day it peaks. Generally I start every other day earlier cd7, do three days in a row when my monior peaks and then break one day and then bed once more. After I notice my CM on cd 7, usually it tapers off after a day or two. I tried a cough syrup that has expectorant and I did not ntice much of a difference in my CM. I have tried preseed this last cycle. Is that ok? Knowing that it is all about timing, I am hoping for some advice.

  47. I have a question about fertility after a miscarriage and a D&C. I’ve heard that your fertility actually increases for the few months following a miscarriage. Is this true?

  48. So I went to the hospital on DEC 29 and they told me that my blood work came back positive for pregnancy however they said that my HCG levels were a little low and they weren’t sure if that was because I am really early or it could be a misscarrage happening. They said it was at 121 and than went to the doctors the day after and they took more blood and they said that it had drop to 92 which is a misscarrage however I have been bleeding for 3 weeks and it’s none stop. So I went back to the doctors and they took more blood and they said that my HCG levels were at 42 four days later so they are wanting me to wait another 2 weeks to make sure that the levels gone down to a complete zero. I just don’t understand why I am still bleeding for this long. I have had a misscarrage before and the bleeding lasted for only 6 days and I went through a lot of pain but this time I don’t even feel like I misscarraged at all. I knew that my levels hasn’t gone down all the way because I could just feel that extra hermone. I wondering what is going on.

  49. Great site! Thank you for all this wonderful information. I am wondering if I had a miscarriage and would like some help from folks to figure it out:
    I had sex on the first day of my period. Exactly one month later, to the day, I began my ‘period’ with some light spotting, brown, and no cramping. I thought it was unusual, perhaps dysmenorrhea, because I almost always have severe cramps when I have my period, the heavier my bleeding, the more cramps I have. The next morning, I put in a new tampon and noticed I had bled a some more, then drove 1.5 hour commute to work. Again, with no cramps or signs, I bled, but so heavy that I had bled through my tampon and to my pants, as if I had peed my pants! There was a lot of blood clots with the blood. I was a little scared when I saw the blood and it made me feel like I was dying, event though, hey, it’s my period, so I went out to the store and bought pads to supplement the tampons. I bought leak-proof night guard super pads, and within 3 hours I had bled through them and there was blood on the floor in several places where I had been crouching removing some labels from jars. Throughout all this I had no pain or cramping. I had not a thought in my head I could be pregnant, but I did notice before any of this had happened that my cognitive function had been impaired, and I couldn’t call people their correct names, and called saws drills and stairs ladders, and was more open about things I would have normally kept private. The only time I could recall having acted similarly was when I was drunk, not when menstruating or under stress.
    I think it’s a toss up as to whether I was pregnant or not; anyone have expert knowledge on this that can give me some peace of mind and definitive answers about this situation?

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