Causes of Miscarriage

Most early miscarriages (as many as 60% of first trimester ones) will remain unexplained. It is usually assumed these losses are genetic, where the chromosomes simply did not replicate correctly. Many people will assume that something that happened recently, such as an illness, fall, or exposure to something will have caused the miscarriage. This is rarely true, since by the time a miscarriage is diagnosed or begins, the baby has been lost for quite some time. Hopefully this section will help you understand the causes; you should also read the section on myths.
There are several categories of miscarriage causes:



When we talk about a hormone problem, you have likely miscarried in less than 10 weeks. After that, the placenta has taken over hormone production and any normal deficiency you have is not a factor.

Low progesterone, the most common problem, is not as easy to treat as you might hope. Progesterone suppositories, while frequently prescribed, are not proven to be helpful and often actually cause a nonviable pregnancy to last longer than it should.

The only situation where progesterone is a sure solution is with a luteal phase defect, where the corpus luteum, which is formed along with egg at ovulation, does not produce the hormones needed to sustain a pregnancy. For most women, however, this is usually not an every-month problem. Usually the situation rights itself with the next egg and the next corpus luteum. This problem, if it is a permanent one, can be diagnosed through two separate endometrial biopsies. Progesterone must be started 48 hours after ovulation to work. By the time you have missed a period, it is too late to save a pregnancy with a luteal phase defect.5

Low progesterone, however, is usually a symptom of an nonviable pregnancy, and not the cause. Doctors often prescribe progesterone suppositories out of patient pressure when the hormone levels are low, but their use is controversial and usually completely ineffective. A common treatment for a suspected progesterone problem is Clomid, a pill taken for five days early in your cycle to rev up your hormone production. Not everyone is a candidate for Clomid, and 25% of women will have decreased cervical mucus, which can actually make you less fertile. See the Sperm Meets Egg Plan for more information.

Other hormone problems may be created when you have an untreated thyroid disorder. Your thyroid function can easily be tested, and this problem is very treatable.

Chromosome Defects

There are many factors that come in to play when the egg and sperm unite and form that first cell. Even if both the egg and sperm come with perfect chromosomes, the first few cell divisions can see an abnormality crop up that would certainly be devastating. Chromosome defects that cause a newly fertilized egg to die can account for as much as 60 percent of early miscarriages.

You can usually find out if you had a baby with a chromosome problem through testing tissue from the miscarriage. This must be done RIGHT AWAY when the tissue comes out or the cells cannot grow and the test won’t work. If this is your first miscarriage, however, do not go to great lengths to save tissue. Very few doctors will test it, and a chromosomal cause for the miscarriage will be assumed without testing.

Even when you have a D&C and the doctor sends the tissue immediately, the test still might not work. (Mine didn’t.) But if you do find your baby had a chromosome defect, find a small measure of comfort in knowing that although you lost this one precious baby, the chances of it happening again are extremely small. Another threshold will be crossed, however, at age 35. At that point, your eggs will begin to age, and your odds of a chromosomal miscarriage will begin increasing dramatically.

After the 2nd trimester begins, the number of miscarriages caused by genetic factors drops to less than 10 percent.3 If you have had several miscarriages in a row, then your odds of this being your problem are quite low, about 7%.42 

Physical Problem with the Uterus or CervixSome women have a uterus that does not have the usual shape. Others have a cervix that may be weakened by a number of causes, including multiple D&C procedures or their mother taking DES when she was pregnant (although note that DES was discontinued in 1971 and most DES daughters are leaving their childbirth years behind.) Both of these problems can cause early labor, usually during a critical period from 12-24 weeks. This cause is responsible for 12 percent of miscarriages during this time period. As the baby grows, especially during the very rapid growth spurt during this time frame, the irregularly shaped uterus may not be able to expand or the weak cervix may start to open up and let the baby out. There are treatments for both of these that are quite effective—corrective surgery on the uterus and a cervical stitch that holds the cervix closed. This problem WILL REOCCUR if not treated.

A uterine abnormality often causes a miscarriage due to early labor, but it can also cause fetal demise, which is what happened to our Casey. Sixteen weeks into my pregnancy with Emily, we had an abnormal AFP screening. Since we were near the point of the pregnancy when Casey died, naturally we were frantic. We saw a perinatologist, who discovered I had a septate uterus. When I was a fetus, the two sections of tissue that normally fuse together to form the uterus only fused on the bottom. Therefore, there is a huge wall going down the middle of my uterus. When Casey implanted, he chose the middle wall. This section, however, has little blood flow. As Casey grew and required more and more blood and nutrition, this area could not support him. Although Emily chose a better implantation spot, this problem caused her to be breech and required a c-section. While I did have the surgery to correct this problem, my next pregnancy still had complications, and I was not allowed a vaginal delivery.

Be aware that there are varying levels of septums. Some are paper-thin and simply move out of the way for the baby, causing no problems. Others, like mine, increase your chance of miscarriage significantly. Only a high-level sonogram or an HSG dye test can uncover this problem.

Immune Disorders

While many experienced and well respected reproductive endocrinologists specialize in this field now, many “regular” ob/gyn doctors are quite resistant to the idea of this type of miscarriage cause and its treatment. Specialists in immune disorders claim up to an 80% success rate with women who have had three or more miscarriages, but there is still much skepticism even among infertility and reproductive specialists.

Antiphospholipid antibodies can cause blood clots in the placenta that block or slow down the baby’s blood supply, causing growth to slow or the baby to die altogether. Your blood can be tested for these antibodies. These tests are called anticardiolipins or the associated lupus anticoagulant. These are inexpensive tests, and sometimes you can get them after only one miscarriage. If antibody levels are thought to be high enough to affect the pregnancy, treatment involves baby aspirin and sometimes a blood thinner called Heparin. In rare cases, the woman is actually found to have Lupus, which may be mild enough not to affect her, but needs management anyway to protect her pregnancies (see antinuclear antibodies). While a miscarriage due to this problem can happen at any time, often the baby will grow past the first trimester. 10 to 15% of recurring miscarriages are caused by these antibodies.

Antinuclear antibodies are caused by an auto-immune problem, in Lupus or a Lupus-like syndrome, where the body attacks itself. The treatment for this problem is Prednisone, a corticosteroid, which calms down the inflammatory process of auto-immune disease. Prednisone, however, is really a horrible drug and will cause all sorts of terrible side effects, including swelling, bruise marks on the face, and discomfort. You do not ask for this drug without really needing it.6

Fetal-Blocking Antibodies work to protect the baby from the mother’s immune system, which will recognize the father’s genetic material as foreign to her body and attack it. When the sperm penetrate the egg, it provides foreign material, but it also contains histocompatibility locus antigens (HLA). The sperm’s HLA will “talk” to the mother’s HLA, which would normally attack the baby, and stimulate the mother’s body to protect the baby. In some cases, however, the father’s genetic material is too similar to the mother’s. In that case, the mother’s response is weak and insufficient to prevent her white blood cells from attacking the new cells. Standard testing for this is not yet available, and you would have be accepted into one of the few elite clinics working in this field. If your tests show you and your partner’s DNA to be too similar, you can receive injections of your partner’s white blood cells, in hopes of getting enough of his HLA in your system to stimulate a stronger protective response. This is an expensive and controversial tactic, but allegedly (a word I use since there isn’t solid 3rd party data to support it) succeeds 80% of the time.7, 42 This type of problem usually causes an early miscarriage, well before 12 weeks, and is often suspected when several miscarriages have occurred at the exact same time in the pregnancy

The average OB/Gyn may not be up to date on these immune issues. Read up on it yourself and find a specialist who can determine if this is a problem that might be affecting your babies. You are not usually a candidate for the more involved testing, which is expensive and not typically covered by insurance, until you have at least three losses.Premature Rupture of Membranes and Early Labor

Many miscarriages begin with cramping and labor-like symptoms, but true PROM and Early Labor are usually associated with babies that are in the second or third trimester. Early labor can often be treated with drugs that relax the uterus and women are placed on bed rest either at home or in the hospital.

Sometimes, however, the baby comes anyway. This is one of the most traumatic of losses, technically a stillbirth and not a miscarriage after 20 weeks, because you will hold and see your baby and beg him or her to breathe. For some women, the baby will even be born alive, but only live for a few minutes, hours or days. There really is nothing harder in life than this.

PROM is defined as your water breaking prior to 37 weeks, the age that is considered full term. Most women who have leaking or gushing amniotic fluid will be placed on antibiotics and placed in the hospital because the risk of infection is very high. Once an infection comes, the baby will almost always have to be delivered.

Babies must weigh 500 grams, or about a pound, to survive. Because I was at high risk for PROM and early labor, I kept this day on my calendar and waited with fear for it to pass. For women expecting a normal pregnancy, suddenly having your water break is very frightening. Your are stuck in the hospital, having to rely on what people tell you, and unable to get information on your own. It is scary.

PROM is thought largely to be caused by infections or inflammation of the uterus or fetal membranes. How these infections come or why they cause the membrane rupture is not completely understood. Pelvic exams and yeast infections are NOT considered to increase your risk for PROM. I do know, however, just in reality through talking with women, including a close friend of mine, that PROM tends to recur. Knowing you are at risk and taking all the appropriate precautions is essential to keeping your baby in the uterus as long as possible.

Fortunately, even though PROM cannot always be treated or prevented, most babies are able to make it far enough to survive and lead normal lives. If you have experienced unexplained PROM, I highly recommend finding a doctor with experience with this sort of pregnancy.

Others — Infections, Age, Chronic Disease

Many infections can cause miscarriage, but they are the big ones like syphilis, mycoplasma, toxoplasmosis, and malaria. An upper respiratory infection is NOT going to cause a miscarriage, even though it may worry you to death. Viruses are the same. Normal illnesses like the common cold will not cause a problem, but AIDS and German Measles can. Infections that directly affect the uterus are bigger risk. This does NOT include yeast infections, which are extremely common in pregnancy. See the section on Premature Rupture of Membranes for more information on these infections.

There are a few common illnesses that can cause a miscarriage or fetal malformation if you get them for the FIRST TIME during pregnancy, including Chicken Pox and Fifth Disease. The vast majority of women already have immunity to these diseases, however, and should not be concerned about exposure to them during pregnancy. If you think you may not have immunity, ask your doctor to run an antibody titer to see if you have a live antibody, or only an old antibody to the disease in your blood. Only the live antibody without the old antibody present is a danger.

An infection that causes a fever of over 101 degrees Fahrenheit should be treated immediately, however. There is a small risk that prolonged fever can affect your baby. Take Tylenol to keep your fever down and stay in touch with your doctor.

Age is only a factor in miscarriage when you consider what aging can do to your body. The first and most common is with chromosomes. It is not YOU who have a problem, it is likely your egg or sperm, which have also aged. Age can, however, bring other problems such as poor health, disease, or hormonal imbalance that can make a pregnancy harder to sustain. You don’t start seeing these problems in great numbers, however, until after 40.

Health problems in the mother can create problems with the pregnancy. Diabetes, heart problems, and thyroid disorders are just a few that may complicate the pregnancy. Having these does NOT mean you will certainly have a miscarriage. You will simply have to be more careful and make sure your treatments are adapted if needed during pregnancy.

Accidents typically do not cause a miscarriage. The baby is well protected in its amniotic sac, surrounded by fluid, and even a hard blow to the abdomen will likely only rock it. Most women who have a car accident, even with a certain amount of trauma, have their babies just fine.

The Unknown

The hardest thing to accept is no reason at all. You live in fear, wondering if the same terrible cause of your first baby’s death will cause another one to die. You scarcely dare to try again. I have been in this situation and I tossed my doctor’s statistics aside. I had already been on the wrong side of the statistics; I didn’t care for anymore. But I do know this. One miscarriage hardly raises your chances to miscarry again at all. You are simply back at square one. Try to put the risk as far back in your mind as possible and enjoy another pregnancy. But I understand if you can’t.

Blighted  Ovum, Ectopic Pregnancy, Molar Pregnancy, and Stillbirth

Sometimes a pregnancy ends unhappily, but it is not technically a miscarriage. This section will touch on these types of situations.

Blighted Ovum is a condition (with a terrible, unfortunate name) where the gestational sac grows, the woman gets all the pregnancy symptoms, but the baby itself never develops. The sac will continue to grow and grow, and most women do not know there is no baby until an ultrasound is done. The bleeding, if that happens before the blighted ovum is found via ultrasound, is slow and brown. Your pregnancy symptoms will seem to go away. A blighted ovum is believed to be caused by an egg or sperm with poor genetic material. When the egg is fertilized, instead of creating both a sac and a baby, the part that should be a baby never grows. A D&C is almost always needed to empty the uterus, because the body is very slow to realize there is no baby. Some women do experience more than one blighted ovum, but most women go on to later have a baby.

An Ectopic Pregnancy is a normal fertilized egg that gets stuck in the fallopian tube (although occasionally it will fall into the abdominal cavity) and implants there. This type of pregnancy cannot survive and puts the mother at great risk for severe hemorrhaging and possibly even death as the baby grows and eventually bursts the tube. When the ectopic is discovered based on pain and symptoms rather than an early ultrasound, the mother will immediately have surgery to remove the baby. Things will happen very fast, and most likely if this has happened to you, you are reading this after it is all over. If you are afraid you have an ectopic, the symptoms that you really want to watch for are: sharp, intense pain in your abdomen or possibly in your shoulder; a pregnancy test that is positive, then turns negative a few days later; and spotty red bleeding that continues day after day.  Ectopics that are caught early can be treated with a cancer drug called Methotrexate, which will end the pregnancy safely and without surgery.

Ectopics are usually caused by scar tissue in the fallopian tubes that could have been caused by: previous surgery in the pelvic region, uterus, or tubes; a pelvic infection such as chlamydia or pelvic inflammatory disease; or endometriosis that blocks the entrance to the tubes. If you have had one ectopic, your risk increases for another one. See additional information on treatment.

A Molar Pregnancy is a very rare type of pregnancy where an abnormal mass forms inside the uterus after the egg is fertilized. The baby usually does not form, but the uterus is filled with big bubble clusters.  A molar pregnancy is caused when a sperm fertilizes an empty egg (called a complete molar pregnancy) and no baby grows, or when two sperm fertilize an egg and both the baby grows a little as well as an abnormal placenta (called a partial molar.) Even if a baby does grow, it cannot survive. The longest documented molar pregnancy I have seen was a 24-week stillbirth, and most molar pregnancies will be diagnosed and a D&C performed before the end of the first trimester. If a molar pregnancy has been diagnosed, your medical condition will be carefully monitored. In about 15% of molar pregnancies (usually complete molars and not partial), the moles spread to other parts of the body like cancer. A mild form of chemotherapy will have to be used (with methotrexate), but rest assured that the cure rate for this type of disease is very high. The signs of a molar pregnancy include: bleeding in the 12th week of pregnancy, a uterus that is larger than normal, and hCG levels that are too high. The molar pregnancy is removed by a dilating the cervix and gently suctioning out the clusters. Women who have had a molar pregnancy are usually advised not to get pregnant again for at least a year to ensure the cancerous form is not present. It is absolutely essential to follow doctors orders on when to try again with a molar pregnancy diagnosis. Do not cheat, and have regular follow ups even after your hCG is zero, to make sure it does not rise again.8,9

A stillbirth is technically any pregnancy that ends after the 20th week and the baby does not survive. Some babies die in utero and are discovered when the heartbeat is not found. The most common causes of this are: uterine abnormalities, a knot or other umbilical cord accident, infections of the lining of the gestational sac or cord, and placental abruptions that cause the placenta to pull away from the uterine wall. These babies are usually born through the induction of labor, although some babies are small enough to be taken by D&C or D&E procedures.

Other babies are lost through early labor. The causes of early labor are Premature Rupture of Membranes, uterine abnormalities that make the uterus too small to hold the baby, and anincompetent cervix, which opens up and lets the baby out. Sometimes a stillbirth occurs during the birth, by an umbilical cord that gets pinched between the baby’s head and the cervix, or the cord wraps around the baby’s neck. Repeat stillbirths are extremely rare and are almost all related to uterine or cervix problems, which can be fixed or treated once found.


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106 thoughts on “Causes of Miscarriage

  1. I have just gone through a silent miscarriage. Went for an ultrasound last week where I should of been around 13 weeks and found out my baby has passed away at 10 weeks. The sad thing about this is that at 9 weeks I have an ultrasound, there was a heartbeat and it was so strong, also I saw my baby move a little. I am naturally very upset and can’t understand why this has happened. I am 33 and this would of been my first baby. I can only take comfort in knowing that I am not on my own and that this is something women are facing every day. The only way I can get through this is to have hope and not get down. I am going to give it a couple of months then start trying, I really hope that one day I will have a beautiful healthy baby to hold in my arms, love and best wishes to everyone that is or has gone through this xx

  2. I’am 26 and Just had my first m/c last Monday. This preganacy was my first and a surprise. I just started to get excited and started telling family and friends. I was between 7-8weeks and started bleeding at work. I had no pain at ,then started having some cramping. I went for a sono the next day and it was confirmed, I had lost the baby. The sono tech said there was’nt much left in my uterus. It’s been an emotional roller coaster. First scared that I was pregnant and not ready, then scared cause I was bleeding and then terrified and so sad to find out I had lost it. All I can think about is getting pregnant again. I know I just need to trust in God and except things. I’am just scared this will happen again. I feel better knowing that I’am not alone. I pray for you guys and know that your not alone.

  3. hey, i do all have the symptoms about being pregnant, but im just soooo much worried, i dont wanna dissappoint my parents, i know its a SIN of miscarryng a baby, im so depressed. i have done 2 PT already and all r positive, 🙁 i know i should be happy about it, but it seems like the situation worsened, i do have the symptoms of a stomach “cancer” yellowing of eyes, vomit wat u have just eaten . i dont know wat to do. its like everything is not going well. im afraid of my situation right now, im afraid to consult a doctor, and frankly speaking im loosing up my weight, everybody does notice it. i dont even want to eat. i do have the neck pain, 🙁 we tried to miscarry this baby, we did wat we can do, but nothing happened, the only thing happened is that my stomach is in pain like almost everyday. neck pain every day also and vomitting, everyday, .. my classmates do tell me my eyes wre already yellow and im loosing my weight so fast.. can anyone help me about it..

  4. i discovered my pregnancy when i was 7 weeks. a week after i started bleeding, i was admitted and the ultrasound could not track the heartbeats and i stayed at hospital for a closer supervision as the doctors suspected it was a blighted ovum or early pregnanncy, after a week i had the had a scan again, the beats were there, i was released and came back after a week ( 03 march 2011) and i was told my baby is fine and its growing very well. the hands and feets were growing quite well. three days after the scan i felt like i had a bigger bubble filled with the water that was shaking when i try to walk. i felt the bubble bursting and the next minute i was covered with blood. i went back to hospital, they jst put a finger in my vagina and the baby came out together with blood. my heart is so broken. nobody told me what could have caused the miscarriage

  5. Hi I have seen a lot of issue that im having on here so im very nevous about my situation my period was like 2 days late and i only spotted when it did come on and then it went off but now its on like I have a regular period and I took a home pregnacy test it was positive so i went 2 the dr. that one was positive but that same night i started bleeding like my period was on bright red but i took an exam and my cervix was still closed just worried about the bleeding cuz i heard its possible 4 u 2 have a period while u r pregnant and they carry the baby full term without any complecations i got some blood work done 2day and get the results tomorrow but before i started the spotting my stomache was hurting like i had gas or a uti but it hasnt cramped like that since i have a 4 year old and never did bleed with him im hoping 4 a good outcome and it be ok but im a lil worried cuz i was lookin foward 2 pregnacy again and the excitement

  6. Hi, I’m 32yrs and had a misscarriage 2wks ago. I was going to be 16wks when I had the D/C. Our firs pregnancy we misscarried, but it was earlier and a baby had never formed. On my last ultrasound, my baby had a strong heartbeat, arms and legs and was developing wonderfully. I couldn’t wait to find our what our precious baby was going to be. We have two sons, 6yrs and 20 mths. This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. After the D/C I had the same feelings as after I had my boys. I wanted to hold my baby terribly bad. I just couldn’t accept that I was no longer pregnant, but didn’t have a baby. My arms felt so empty. When I lay down at night I can hear it’s little heartbeat. The only comfort I have is to know I will see my baby one day in Heaven! This is the only thing I can share with you who can’t seem to find any comfort. I’m still having a very difficult time, not sleeping much at night, but I try to focus on the future. As bad as I want to hold another baby, I just can’t go through this again. Those of you who have been through this numerous times, my heart goes out to you! I thank God everyday for the boys he has given me. My goal now, is to raise and love these boys, and make sure we live a wonderful Christian life so one day we will hold our sweet baby!!!!

  7. Hi I’m 6 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I already have a 6 year old daughter and my pregnancy with her went fine. When I went to the doctor I found out I was 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant and a week later the doctors have already done 2 quant test on me and they are saying that my level has dropped 24 points in 48 hours:( they said i’m gonna miscarry. Is there anyway possible for me not to miscarry? Is there anyway possible that i can carry this baby to full term? I don’t want to give up. If something was wrong shouldn’t the doctor have seen it when he done my sonogram when i found out i was pregnant at 5 weeks and 2 days? Wouldn’t he have known then?

  8. Hi i was ur stories, i had same problem. I miscarried 6 times in a row with no reason. I know what u ladies r going thru, all i can say is dont loose hope, have faith. I dont have a child and i know 1 day GOD will give me a child. Its so sad what we go throught especially if they cant find the reason why.I pray that GOD answer my prayers 1day,,,lets be strong ladies

  9. Hi everyone I have had one. Miscarriage I know that’s not much but I know how u ladies feel but please don’t give up cuz ur day will come I promise I had my miscarriage when I was sixteen ya I know that’s young but I am now eighteen and 25 weeks and 2 days pregnant with a beautiful healthy baby girl and if is what I did. To stay pregnant is I put myself on bedrest I know it sounds stupid but I feel like it helped cuz I was so scared of having another miscarriage and I didn’t want to go threw that again well good luck ladies I give u my best wishes

  10. Hey everyone I read all of your stories and I really do feel 4 all of you…my story is a lil diffrent…I’m 27 weeks & I been haveing mixed feelings about haveing this baby..I really don’t want to have it I think its just going to ruin my life even more …with reading all of your stories I wish I was in y’all shoes….I’m not being mean or hateful I don’t think that I’m ready for all of this but I been doing everything that I shouldn’t in this pregnancy except drinking & smokeing..I don’t have anybody to talk to about it b/c then there going to think I’m a mean person…I really am a nice person just not ready 4 all of this…..please somebody tell me whut I should do???

  11. Hi there im about 4 and a half months pregnant, and im still having lots of difficulty with eating, even when im hungry its sooo hard to eat anything i feel like everything is going to make me throw up (usually does) so im left with an empty and painful stomach im very very concerned about my baby and their developpement im scared that im hurting him but theres nothing i can do about, do u have any helpful tips?
    thank you,

  12. hi evryone! im abby from philippines im really sad ryt now because of ol the bad things happening with me year 2003 i gave birth to a beautiful baby after 3yrs 2006 i got pregnant fullterm and after i gave birth my baby died cordcoil but before i went to operating room the nurse chk d heartbeat of my baby and she was ok 3days b4 dey told me dat i loss d baby bec.dey wer so worrid abt me it was a cesarian.i dnt understnd myself its very healthy den it just died d pathologst told us dat d baby was dead overnyt already its very hard to beliv coz i still feel dat she’s alive and kicking me so after dat year its very hard for me to recover im always sad i dont talk i strting hating myself blaming my husband evrything fall apart .yr 2009 i got pregnant agen i dont knw wat will i feel coz of d trauma of experiencing my 2nd baby died so i just pray dat dis one will be ok after 5wweeks der is no heartbeat im strting to cry and cry and cry…. so,i experience dis time d miscariage it was so so so painful i canot forget d pain now my life is so disaster i do things dat r bad i made myself to be a different person bec i cannot acept d 2 loses until now im still searching for answers if dey wer alive i am the most happiest and perfect mother to them i will love them ..pls.sumbody give me a reply i just need a sumbody ryt now pleaseee…. let me understnd evrything.

  13. here is my story may 5th 2011 was my first day of my period i did not have a period for over 17 weeks so i went to a specialist to have blood work done on the 8th of august. he was wondering cause all my child bearing life i was told i have PCOS but did not have none of the symptoms. so he checked my thyroid, my ovulation, to see if i really have PCOS,come to find out everything was normal i ovulate normally, NO PCOS at all. no thyroid issue at all everything was on September 8th 2011 was the first day of my period normal as always. i have not seen my period yet and today is November 89th 2 week ago another doctor did my blood work and it said negative a level <2. i have all pregnancy symptoms that im suppose to have in the correct stages of pregnancy for some reason is there a chance that its a lab error. my past history is molar pregnancy in 2001, son born in 2009 c-section, a few months later lost twins at 5 weeks January 30,2010 worst pain in my life. then in jun 2010 another molar pregnancy. what can wrong should i get another blood test done. i just got out the shower and for some reason i had a sharp pain in my lower abdomen and cervix im 10 weeks 2 days late today from my period im not sure if im pregnant or not but i dont have an appointment until dec 2nd ANY ADVICE PLEASE…..

  14. I recently lost my baby , i was 9 weeks along . I had a Missed misscarege and had to have a D&C done . I saw my OBGYN yesterday for a follow up and he said the loss was most likley a chromosomal problem . ( they found extra tissue when they did the D&C ) and that the chances of me having a second misscarege are extreamly low . But he will not know for sure for a nother 3 weeks . ( the testing on the baby takes about 3 weeks to complete ) This has been the hardest thing i have ever goen trough … im so scared i wont get to ever be a mommy

  15. I’ve just had my second m/c both were at 10 weeks, first was Christmas day last year and this one my youngest son 3rd birthday. I already have 3 beautiful children which I carried to term with no problems and now 2 miscarriages in a year. People say at least I have children And that is a comfort, but it also means i know what I have lost. I look at my children and wonder if it would of looked like them. It’s torture.

  16. i’m so glad that i have found this website. i have had my natural m/c 5days before Christmas. i have expected the worst because during my ultrasound i couldn’t see my baby only the sac (i was about 10 weeks). the doctor gave me two weeks before my next review to see if the baby is there or not but just a week later i started to see some spotting. it was not much but i started to worry. the spotting didn’t stop and continued for five days. i didn’t experience any pain but on that fifth day i decided to visit the doctor and have an early check-up.

    She said it might be a sign of a m/c but just to be sure she did another ultrasound and it was still the same, we couldn’t see the baby. She gave a choice whether to wait for a natural m/c or go for D&C. I went for natural m/c, still hoping that i can save my pregnancy. The next day I started to have terrible cramps with little bleeding. By 4 i was in the e.r, i can feel the clot coming out but far from over. It was not until 5.30pm did the doctor examine me and took out the sac. I didn’t went for D&C but it was painful and frightening since i was awake.

    I am glad my husband was being very supportive and helped me. I know he is feeling sad just as i am but i am sure nothing is impossible as long as we keep our trust in Jesus. To all mothers out there who had experienced the same thing keep on giving your support, it really help knowing that we are not alone. God Bless All.

  17. Hello everyone,
    I am 30 and on the 26th of December I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and 3 days at home. This was my 4th one and the farthest I have ever gotten and he was a tiny little boy. I understand everyone’s fears cause I have the same ones and I really wonder if it will happen for me. I really like this site and hearing everyone’s stories make me feel like I am not alone in this. I am going to do all of the very expensive testing and I believe in my heart I will be 100% normal. I have made the decision to arm myself with knowledge so that when I do go for the testing and have more babies I will not be ignorant to the information that is going to be given to me. I have also made a promise to myself that I will find a Dr. That is going to be aggressive and make sure that I will be heard. Please ladies let’s continue to be encouraging and report our progress whether it is success or set back. I love the site and thank you for this creation.

  18. can anyone tell me why do cord accidents happen? i have 2 m/c with the same problem 1st my baby is almost 5 months old and the cord choke my baby because the cord coil in my baby’s neck this second im 24 weeks pregnant and the cord coiled again near my baby’s belly button so the blood did not flow through what seems to be the problem? is it me? or the next i will get pregnant i should be put to bedrest? its so so sad because i got 2 m/c in just 1 yr. please help..i pray GOD will give me a chance to have a baby.

  19. Hi there, I’m so sorry to hear all the miscarriages people have been through, it is really a devistating thing to have happen to anyone.

    I didn’t know I was pregnant then the hospital told me I had miscarried. I’m just worried that because I’ve had one that it will happen again.

    I feel like I’m ready to try again although that horrible thought of miscarriage will always be in the back of my mind. The hospital said it was nothing I had done wrong that it just wasn’t the right time and these things happen. Should I just keep living life thinking that next time everything will go to plan?

    I feel like I’m ready to be a mum but is it too early to even think about it as I had the miscarriage about 2/3 months ago?
    .. Any answers would be great to put my mind at rest! X

  20. So I have had 6 m/c I have been thinkinking if me and my husband should try again or not. I know I am meant to be a mother. I have always wanted to have kids and so does my husband. I am so scared to try again cause I have that fear of losing the baby, but at the same time I want to keep trying and trying until we have a baby. I always told myself to never give up on hope, that I have faith in having a healthy baby, but lately I have been thinking about all of my babies that I had lost, and started to wonder,if I will ever have children. Any advice or any thoughts I would appreciate it. Thankyou for listening, and God Bless You.

  21. I recently got married late last year and decided to get off the pill in the middle of December. My husband and I were open to the likelihood of having a baby but we didn’t really expect it would happen straight away. I began to feel pregnant around late January. My husband didn’t think I could get pregnant that quick. I took a pregnancy test on the 30th January 2012 and it was negative. I still believed I was pregnant. I took another pregnancy test on the 11th February and it was positive. I was so happy and finally my husband could believe it. Then at work on February 15, I noticed some bleeding when I went to the bathroom. My heart sank. Went home straight away to see a doctor. Cried all the way there because I felt in my heart and mind that I was losing the baby. I did a urine test at the Doctor’s and it was negative. I had an ultrasound and they couldn’t see anything. Maybe I wasn’t pregnant after all?? I was still bleeding but not enough to fill a pad. Everytime I peed, stringy blood would come out. I noticed a clot on my pad the next morning. I started the blood tests. The first blood test came out positive but my hcg was too low so they said I will likely miscarry. I had another blood test in 2 days. The result was that my hcg level dropped from 19 to 4. Devastated. I had kept a journal from the moment I suspected I was pregnant until the day the miscarriage was confirmed. It’s so hard to deal with but I am slowly starting to get back on my feet. One day at a time. It’s only when friend’s announce their pregnancy at the same time as I would have been and when people ask us “are you pregnant yet?” that it gets so upsetting. All I can do is put on a brave face and say ‘not yet’. It’s such a private and silent thing to go through but God sees our tears and hearts and he holds our babies ever so dearly in his arms. They are loved and treasured in heaven. Let’s all stay strong and know that getting pregnant is life’s most mysterious miracle. Yes, our miracles were shortlived but it was still a miracle and the mystery of our miscarriages teaches us that our hearts can’t grasp the full complexities of life because it is so unique and beyond our seeing, feeling and knowing. So let’s keep it simple. One day at a time and don’t ever ever lose hope. God bless us all.

  22. I found out about our miscarriage at our 12 week scan. It was horrible..i remember thinking why it was taking the technician so long to find our baby. When she said there was no heartbeat, my heart broke.. I couldnt speak..i didnt even was just too surreal.. For the past 6 weeks i had been suffering from morning sickness,fatigue and my breast were soo could this woman now tell me it wasnt a viable pregnancy??!! The docs did confirm that i miscarried..and i had a d&c on the 29th of feb.. Its a lie when they say ‘the sicker u r the healthier ur baby’..nothing is ever forsure..i have now lost 3 babies..but am so thankful for my little healthy man who is now 2 and a half..he keeps me strong and i know God will bless me with another healthy baby..i just have to be patient and believe that it will happen. I have read through all the experiences shared on this website and my heart goes out to you all that have lost precious angels. Be strong and dont lose hope.

  23. I had a bad dream that M/C. Then I lost weight and started ti crap then spot. The doc said baby stop growning at 8 1/2 weeks . That was the same week and of my bad dream. At my 12a week appointment. They did a D&C on me. Im still in so much pain even with the pain meads. Its only been 3 days buy when will it get easier. It hurts so much I can’t even pick up my 2 year old. Alli want to do is hold him and thank god I have one healthy boy

  24. Hi I am 47 and found out I was pregnant on 14/3 My husband and I were so happy, we had never given up hope that we would have another child. (we have two 11 and 6). Two tests and a test with do all positive, I had usual symtoms but no sickness. Then on sun, Ap fools I started bleeding. Went to EPC and a scan showed nothing, no sac, but the test showed raised levels of Hcg now I have to wait for a week to see if levels keep rising and if a sac appears in case my dates were wrong. I have bleed since sunday, sometimes it stops for a while, I passed some big clots but the hosp said it wasnt fetal tissue and that my lining is still thickened so there is still a chance. I dont think I can face another scan showing nothing and watching this small smigeon of hope being whisked away. I didnt realise how much I really wanted another baby until this happened. I cant believe that God would be so cruel as to let this happen and then whisk it away again. I havent had any pain but \i do feel very light headed this morning. \i have been resting and trying to take it easy; Do you think there is really any hope for this wee one?

  25. It feels so good to after reading this website. I was thinking all these years that I was the only one faced with this problem. But all women has gone through at least 1 m/c in their lives.

    I have gone through 09 m/c. And I still don’t have a healthy child yet. It is so depressing and sad. Being the only child in the family, it is even nore upsetting. Sometime even friends don’t understand what you are going through, if they have not faced the same situation.

    With all my 9 m/c, the doctor said nothing is really wrong with me. But I am unable to carry the baby more than 12 weeks. Between the 6 -8 weeks the heartbeat stops. The dr says since this is happening within the 12 weeks, it is due to natual causes and nothing can be done about it. All relevant tests were done on me. But everything seems to be negative and normal. So All what I can do is, wait for the right moment and pray. Because God knows best and the correct time. All the best to all of you and keep praying. Don’t ever give up hopes. All the best.

  26. Hi, Im 27 and have had 3 m/c but i also have 2 beautiful children.
    I m/c at 13wks with my first, then went to term with my daughter, had my son at 25 wks and since him 2 m/c. my dr is looking into uterine auto immune disease. but im struggeling to find info. this site helped lots. the fact i had a prem plus 2 m/c in a row seems to fit the profile, but now it makes me question trying again for our 3rd child, which i desperately want. How do i know when to let it be?? Im greatful every day for the children i have but dont quite feel compete. am i being selfish??

  27. Any advice on this situation would be most appreciated. I recently found out I am newly pregnant. I called my mother and was planning to call my sister, but my mother told me she had just suffered a miscarriage at 10 weeks after a previous one at 6 weeks (and I wasn’t supposed to know). Now I’m thinking maybe I should hold off on telling my sister for a while. Is that the right thing to do even though I would have told her if I hadn’t known (and am not supposed to know)?

  28. Hello,

    I found out I was pregnant when I was 2months along. It was unexpected and I was scared and not ready. Though I knew in the months to come I would prepare myself with the support of my boyfriend and my family which I had and I felt blessed. With this being my first pregnancy at age 21 I was nervous and of-course kept praying to G-d to let me have a healthy baby and pregnancy. I relocated to be closer to my parents and everything seemed fine. On July 23-2012 , I heard my baby’s strong and healthy heartbeat. The doctors said it sounds great and we planned a ultrasound on Wed 25-2012. Everything seemed fine. I felt fine. Nothing out of the normal happened to me . I went to the ultrasound and it showed that my baby which was 16weeks had no visible heartbeat and that the amniotic fluid had decreased. The doctors don’t know why and are shocked why I lost the baby since I am healthy and had no cramping or bleeding what soever . I had D&C on Saturday 28-2012 to remove the baby and they will be running test to see if they can find any answers to why my baby passed away. I am so heart broken and what nothing else but to have my baby back but I know that is not going to happen and G-d has a plan. I crave to be pregnant again as soon as possible. I cant think of anything else. For so many reasons I want to be pregnant again to see if I can carry full term to have and hold my baby. Is that normal to feel and think like that? I know having a new baby will not replace my angel who I lost. I know I will be worrying about the future when I get pregnant again. When can I try again? I know the doctors kept telling me that I don’t need to worry about this ever happening again. That makes me not so sad but that doesn’t help me with the loss of my baby now. Things happen for a reason and when it is my turn It will happen I know that.

  29. Im waiting to have my m/c that cant be stopped the docters say found out i was preg 16wks well now 17 and 3 days heave a heart beat ulrta sound looks good but i have been bleeding since the beging i was on lo lo estrin fe took it every day didnt know i was preg i also had chemo for a yr and was told to wait.Well i feel like im waiting for the worst thing ever when will my baby die my fluid began to leak monday passed a lg clot cant stop crying can hardly look at babys the father is married i didnt know another shady cop! this is like a bomb waiting to go off that will blow up my heart at the same timei hope babys do go to heaven if ur not married

  30. I had my 1st m/c yesterday at 9 weeks. I was told by the doctor that my hcg level was showing me only 2 to 4 weeks so I assume that the baby was gone for awhile. I cried at first but as the day progressed I realized that it just wasn’t meant to be. Sometimes in life things happen for a reason we can choose to dwell on it and be sad and hide away or we can accept it for what it is and move on. I truly believe that it happened for a reason so I am going to move on.

  31. Thank you for writing this so sensitively, This is the first time i have read an article that refferred to them as babies, I appreciate that greatly, We have ad 6 MC, and have one daughter who is two, We are currently pregnant for the 8th time and are 15 weeks along.I was diagnosed with Lupus Anticoagulant and am taking ‘baby’ aspirin – 75mg and Clexane injections daily. I am scared to death but this is the furthest we have got since our daughter in 2010 and i wont give up hope yet

  32. Hi. I have suffered 5 m/c. 3 being very early and 2 being at 16 and 17 weeks. With my first late m/c, the baby had been gone for a while and the placenta and umbilical cord was deteriorating and with my 2nd late one, the cord was wrapped around his neck 4 times. I had all the genetic testing done to make sure there was nothing else wrong with them and all testing was perfect. My last loss was in October of last year. I am now wanting to try again, but am terrified of what could happen. I already have 4 healthy children. The older 3 being from a previous marriage. My 4th child is with my current husband. I am happy to read that some on here have gone on to have healthy babies after such horrible losses. It gives me hope!

  33. I found this website after suffering my 2nd miscarriage in 3 months (after 5 healthy pregnancies). I was quite concerned to read that your first period should be at least 20 days after the bleeding from the miscarriage has ended. I stopped bleeding from my first miscarriage on January 7 and started my next period January 24. I conceived again during my next cycle in February and lost that baby to miscarriage at the end of March. Now I wonder if possibly my early return to cycles in January indicated a hormonal problem that affected the next baby. The doctor drew my progesterone levels both time which were in the normal range.

  34. I had my first miscarriage at 9 weeks on June 4, 2013. My husband and I went to our first ulstra sound that day and found that there was no baby. It had not progressed past 4/5 weeks. I chose to take cytotec to get the miscarriage process started as I didn’t think I could handle waiting for it to start naturally. I am now waiting for AF to arrive so that we can start trying again. I found the link to this website from a community boad on babycenter. I found it yesterday and have already read your sperm meets egg and Babydust books. Both were great but I found so much comfort from reading Babydust. Thanks so much!!

  35. I found this site after searching for answers as to why I have lost another pregnancy. My husband and I were married in 2008 and we were so excited to find out we were pregnant two months later. I had a wonderful pregnancy, no complications, no spotting, no worries. I went past my due date and had to be induced. About 9 months after his birth we found out we were pregnant again. This pregnancy lasted only 5 weeks. The dr was convinced it was just an isolated incident so we tried again. The next pregnancy lasted only 6 weeks. The dr ran some tests and found out I had MTHFR and Thrombophelia. So my next pregnancy I would need Heparin, baby aspirin and Folbic. I got pregnant again and after doing all of the things I thought I should be doing we m/c at 6 weeks. I had to know more so we went to see a maternal fetal specialist and he didn’t have many answers other than it was a blighted ovum. So reluctantly we tried again and we were slightly terrified to find we were pregnant again. Expecting the same we waited for the bleeding to start and when it did I was not even sad, I expected it! I had heard of a dr in the area who might be able to help us. We went to him and found out my husband has chromosome issues and that could be the reason these pregnancies could not get past 7 wks. About two years after my last m/c my endocrinologist discovered I would need thyroid meds to help bring me up to normal level. He also said since we were having trouble conceiving and that was not normal this might help. I was on the meds for two months when I found out we were pregnant again. We were shocked and overjoyed, we thought our journey was over and we would be parents of one amazing little boy! I had my first u/s and we saw a heartbeat. We were over the moon excited! We went the following week to hear it and found out it has slowed and so we couldn’t hear it. I still had hope since I had no spotting. We just found out yesterday the heartbeat is gone and I may have to have a d&c. We are completely devastated and don’t know where to go from here! Please help!

  36. I have had 3 miscarriages in total, one at 6 weeks about 7 years ago, one last year at 19 weeks and one just over a week ago at 15 weeks. One thing that is really hard is that when you say you have had a misscarriage people assume you have lost the baby early and although sad at least it happened early but with later misscarriages they dont realise you have to give birth to your baby, which is a much more emotional thing as you get to ‘meet’ your baby and have a funeral. the term ‘early stillbirth’ should be used to help people understand how much further on you were and you have to have the baby etc etc. This said, I am NOT saying at all that early misscarriages dont mean anything, i’ve had one so i do understand but there is a marked difference in how people deal with you as to how to say whats happened. Not sure if any of that made sense!

  37. I lost my baby two days ago. This was my first pregnancy.I was five weeks and four days along. I found out on Monday I was pregnant and lost it on Tuesday. To say im devastated is an understatement. People keep saying its not my fault but I have myself convinced that it is. Im so afraid to try again. I dont know what to do with myself.

  38. Hello there, my name is Jeni and I have had three successful pregnancies resulting in four beautiful children. I am 26. With my daughter, last healthy pregnancy I had a C-Section. Sense then I have had three MC, lost one at 6 weeks then 13 weeks and now this time I need to go in and have labor induced today. I am 20 weeks and found yesturday there is no heart beat. Baby wasn’t moving either on US. Right now I can’t imagine going through this again. I thought after 16 weeks we were in the clear. All four of my children were with me at the clinic for the ultra sound. Thank God for the staff as they were so wonderful to them. However now I fear all the hormones raging inside afterwards. I have always had post partum. I might also add friends I see weekly there are like 7 of them all due within 6 weeks of eachother. Will I be able to face them and be happy for them? Nervous, as to what will be after I hold my little angel. Will I be able to let go? Do I try again, give myself a good 6 months to a year before trying… I don’t understand this, all I know is God is in control and my babies are now in his arms. Yet the pain of not seeing them or watching them grow in this earth is so heart wrenching… I am so sorry to all of you who have had losses. There are no words to express the pain and heartache any of US have been through. God bless you all and your families.

  39. I am 37 .and I had 4 miscarriages in last 2 yesrs with no duccessful husban d a nd I want a healthy baby badly .l am so so so worried that I never have my own child .any helping story…

  40. i have had 2 m/c in 1year the first at 19weeks and 3days with my water breaking and the 2nd i had a cervical cerlage and at 17weeks my water broke again and was rushed to the hospital where i was placed on antibiotics and after 3weeks i had a cord prolapsed even with all the bed rest i had and lot of drinking of water due to water breaking. pls am so scared and don’t know what to do due to the constant pprom and due to that i dont know if it will still happen again, advice me on what to do am in desperate need to solve these situation

  41. Hi Ladies! Feel sorry for the loss of our babies…it truly was devastating…silent tears still continue to flow…I know we will never be the same after our losses…but there is HOPE…warm hugs to each one of you who have suffered through this difficult situation!

  42. Hello,
    To everyone, I pray your sadness heals and these shared experiences provide you with comfort and hope. I just found this site searching for a way to cope. I had a d&c today after finding out I was pregnant and miscarried on the same day (last Fri 4/18). We were not trying to conceive, but I have always wanted at least one more child. I am 38 and my husband doesnt want anymore children. We have 2 healthy children 4&7. I know I am truely blessed and more fortunate than most. I had an IUD and was concerned it was out of place in Jan 2014 had it confirmed by US, however I remained suspicious so I took 2 pg tests in Feb and one mid March all neg, but no period. As much as I wanted to have another baby the timing was not ideal as I was scheduled to have shoulder surgery for a torn rotator cuff that had not healed by all other treatment attempts which I had on April 2 2014. I did not feel like myself that week even considered taking another test but didnt because I knew they would in preop. It was also neg. I start bleeding like a nl period again on April 7th wich lasted for 10 days with a few large clots and cramping so I made an appointment to see my OB. The amount of guilt and sadness I feel is so overwhelming. I am not even sure how many weeks I was since the pregnancy was detected after I miscarried. I know in time my heart will heal. I just hope I can forgive myself for not taking the test I considered. Maybe that one would have been positive and things would be different. My HCg lev e ls were so high my Drs. Said the test just over 2 weeks ago should have been positive.

  43. hi my name is Bonnie and I had a m/c on Nov. 5th. I was so happy to have found out that I was expecting because me and my husband have been trying for almost 5 years now when I found out I was expecting It was Sep. 21st I found out I was 15 weeks at the time and that I was was going to be having twins I was so happy so was my husband than we found out we where having a girl & a boy so we picked out names and had everything we need the room we had it all set up I went to the doctors the day before it happened they said everything was fine than I went home and woke up the next day covered in blood went to the hospital but they said there was nothing they can do I had miscarried my twins I lost it I didn’t know what to think or how to act this was my first pregnancy after 5 yrs of trying these where our miracle babies and to find out now there gone it is the hardest thing to go through it has been almost 6 months now and I still feel the same as I did the day I found out to make things worse my husband gets made at me any and every time I bring them up he tells me its my fault that I lost our babies so I feel so alone I don’t know how to even start to heel from this yes I am only 22 yrs old people tell me you can have more babies well yes but that doesn’t bring back the twins I lost my heart hurts so much all the time I have break downs at work or really anywhere its hard to see little babies out there knowing that mine are gone
    but I did find out the there is a day to remember our twins and everyone else’s babies that have been lost its on Oct. 15 at 7 pm you light a candle for all the babies around the world so this year I will be doing this
    thanks for listening to my story I had no where else to turn to to let out how I feel

  44. I have m/s on 4month 4days of my pragnancy on 8th may’2014.Still doctor is not clear about the reason.This is my first pragnancy after seven years of marriage.Kindly suggest me to go ahead.
    S.P Sahu.

  45. I have m/cs on 4month 4days of my pragnancy on 8th may’2014.Still doctor is not clear about the reason.This is my first pragnancy after seven years of marriage.Kindly suggest me to go ahead.
    S.P Sahu.

  46. I see no one has posted on here in a while. I am 38. Have a healthy almost 12 year old boy. My husband and I started trying last year to get pregnant. Found out pregnant July 2013. A happy occasion was soon changed to walking on egg shells. They couldnt figure how far along I was so I was doing ultrasounds and blood work weekly. At one point the doc said she found a heartbeat..a week later I had cramping went in to see the doctor and no heartbeat. Was told that I had miscarried. Was sent home..the next day I was in the emergency room doubled over with labor contractions…they never told me I was going to experience that. If you have had kids, you know that it is a pain you would never forget, but usually at the end of that you have a baby to hold in your arms. I had a D&C. Was told to wait at least 2 menstrual cycles before trying again. Dec 2013 found out pregnant again…it went as far as fetal pole…Feb 2014 miscarriage d&c. I gave up…decided would start working on exercising with hubby doing p90x 3. Mar 18 this year noticed hey I should of started my period..test positive pregnancy. UNPLANNED. Because of my history went in for ultrasounds weekly…3 weeks ago got my first heartbeat 7 weeks 3 days pregnant. We videotaped it. The doctor even hugged me smiling. First time he has ever seen me with good news. I went yesterday for our 10 week 3 day ultrasound…no measured 7 weeks 6 days. Scheduled for a d&c tomorrow. Words can not describe how I feel, I am numb. This was going to be our first kid together. My son is from my first marriage. I know I am 38 years old…..old old old. If I hear again about my old eggs…I am going to scream. I have seen and know people that are 43 that had a healthy pregnancy and I am pissed. I told my husband I am done. I am sorry I cant do this again. He says I will change my mind…but I dont think so. The heartbeat was our first hump. I actually had ob orientation yesterday also before the ultrasound. The technician told us we didnt need to have another ultrasound cuz we had a heartbeat 3 weeks ago. I asked her if she just could for a piece of mind. My son was in there to see his brother or sister on the tv. When she said we need to do a vaginal and he needed to leave the room. I knew something was wrong. I wish I could write a letter to God. Why give us life then take it away. If it wasnt meant to be then I should of never gotten pregnant.

  47. Hi I’m
    Samantha and I’m 17. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and a few months ago I found out I was pregnant. 4-6 weeks. 4 days after I found out I started bleeding. I had a miscarriage. Emotionally it tore me apart. Ever since then, I’ve been angry and just depressed. I’ve been feeling better lately except I’ve been having baby fever bad. The pregnancy wasn’t planned at all but now the thought of having a baby is just something I keep thinking about like constantly. I know I need to wait a few years and I’m terrified to possibly miscarry again. But I can’t get the thought out of my head. It’s crazy. Any advice?

  48. Brittany, I can relate to your experience.

    I’m 22 and this past February I found out I was pregnant for the very first time. I was immediately frantic because I was so close to finishing school and I knew how hard it would be being pregnant and going to school full time as well as working for a living. I had somewhat of a rocky relationship with my boyfriend at the time and was so scared to start this journey, not knowing how everything would work out. After we broke the news to everyone, quite early, I began to get really get excited. I was only 6 weeks along. I started trying to eat better, take vitamins, wouldn’t lift trays at work, etc. One day at work on my lunch break I noticed I was spotting blood and immediately went to the emergency room. They just flat out told me that I was more than likely miscarrying because I was experiencing stomach cramps along with the blood. I was absolutely devastated from this hospital visit, the pain I was in for the next week, and the overall experience of my first loss. It was really hard for me to get over and even though in the beginning I wanted to keep trying for a baby, I eventually lost all excitement to try again. It’s been 4 months and to my surprise I just found out (after missing a period) that I’m again pregnant and it’s around the same time (4 weeks). I’m so excited but mostly scared because of the first miscarriage, it still haunts me. We’ve decided not to tell anyone until I’m in my second trimester.

    Thank you for this website. It has offered great advice and healing. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you and please keep me in yours as I’m really needing them at this moment.

    -Larissa, West Virginia

  49. Oh my, ladies…. I am currently preg, ive ran into issues, i dont know how or why i decided to go on this site. I have only had ome miscartiage in my life and working on my fourth full term live birth. I am sitting here, sadly reading all of your posts and questions and stories with tears in my eyes. All i keep thinking is, you womderful ladies, hard times come and go but i feel for you all. This is a topic not to be taken lightly. And you are all so strong. I will forever keep you all in my prayers. If i could give each and every one of you my body ti bring u a life i would withouy a second thought. May love ne with you all and the touch of God.

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