How to Cope
The emotional recovery from a miscarriage is not easy. Few people may even know about your loss, and others may brush it aside, even your partner. You are not alone, and you may be surprised to see in these topics that what you are feeling is normal and expected.
Topics Under How to Cope
| Despair and suicidal thoughts | |
| Anger | |
| Going crazy/Feeling neurotic | |
| Guilt | |
| No one understands | |
| My partner isn’t supportive or grieving like me | |
| Jealousy of pregnant women |
| Telling Your Friends and Family | |
| Telling Your Children | |
| When No One Will Talk about Your Loss | |
| When People Say Things that Upset You | |
| Mean and Petty People |
| Ways to Memorialize Your Baby | |
| Naming the Baby | |
| Holding Services |
| Managing the Holidays | |
| Going back to Work | |
| Baby Shower Invitations |
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I am 27 and have lost a set of twins right before christmas and I am learning to cope with it but it is still hard and I thank you for having some real ways on how to get through all of this by myself and to know that I am not alone.
I found out I lost my baby on March 7 2008. It is now one month later and I don’t feel any better. The past week I have been writing poetry and found that it helps a lot in expressing surpressed feelings. I wanted to say that it is so nice to be able to find others to relate to in such a difficult time. Thank you for making this site, it is helping me honour my baby and relieve grief.
On Monday, I found out that I was pregnant for the 3rd time. On Friday, I found out that I was losing my pregnancy for the 3rd time. I’ve been trying to be tough for my husband but I just broke down. I appreciated seeing this website because it helps remind me that God is always there and he’ll never leave us. I take comfort knowing that I am not going through this alone either. My prayers go out to all who wish the same dream that I have.
This website has helped me look at things in a new way I lost my baby at 17 weeks and had to have vaginal delievery due to to placenta abruption. we are going to bury her and have a little sevices. I just want to thank you for all the advise on this page.
I had a miscarrige at 8 weeks in January of 2007. It was the most horrible experience of my life. By the time I had got to the hospital the process was almost complete and the ER doctor had the nerve to tell me I was never pregnant even though I had had an ultrasound at my OB’s office 3 days before that to confirm my pregnancy. We had to fought with the hospital about what the doctor had put in my charts because our insurance company would not pay for the ultasound since he said I was never pegnant. Even though my OB’s office called that doctor and told him I was pregnant he refused to change the code. I pray that no one ever has to experience what I went through. If it wasn’t for the nurses and my regular OB I would have never had my baby this year (Jan 08) at that hospital.
i lost my first baby a few days ago me and my boyfriend were devastated but my bofriends brothers gf went threw the same thing a couple om months back and didnt tell no one not even her boyfriend but confided in me wen it happend to me i found the best way to cope is to never forget your baby but dnt spend so much time greiving i no that may sound really bad but the more u grieve the worse u feel and i do care abpout my baby i love my baby even tho i never got to see him but he will always b in my heart and i will never forget him
I am 18 years old, and when i found out i was pregnant and that my boyfriend wanted nothing to do with me or the baby i was devestated. Eventually god came into my life and made me realize how amazing this was. and thankfully i was blessed with a caring family. I was starting to get used to the fact that id soon be a mommy, and happy. Until i found out that at my 11month check up that my baby had stoped growing at 8 weeks. It was the worst day of my life. . . the mistake that turned into my only love and greatest blessing was gone. I had the actual miscarriage two days ago. and although im trying to be strong. i think about my angle every day no one could ever feel this feeling unless they had actually lost something that was growing inside them. my ex still hasnt called. he dosent know. i tried to call but he wont answer. the only thing that keeps me going in this is that god knows why things happen he has a reason…even though i dont understand. And maybe he wanted me to wait to be a mom at a time i could handle it and have support of a husband. All i know is, the baby i never had. will always be my first child. and sometimes i think, since god knows how alone i am right now, he decided to give me an angel. my prayers are for all of you going through this. im sorry. remember. god has a plan.
i found out that i was pregnant in march my first child and i was so excited everything was going ok until may i was 9 weeks and lost my baby they said it quit growing at 5 weeks i was devestated. my head understood it but my heart will never understand it no matter what. i had a d&c and we have being trying again since july and nothing yet its just hard every month to keep going through it, i thought it would not bother me as time went on by it does more than ever and i dont know what to do about it, i feel like im crazy and a mess all the time and i feel like it affects me and my husband like we are not as close but he says it all in my head that he love me and he is there for me. i just want my life to be normal again if anyone has any insight please email me at getctt@yahoo.com,,thanks
my email from above wrong its getctt2223@yahoo.com
I found out today that I had a blighted ovum and would miscarry, I’m 8 wks pregnant and this will be my 3rd loss this year. I am only 19 and I’m devastated, I want a baby so bad but I realize it won’t happen. I don’t know what else to do besides give up….
Where was this site when I needed it. This site is awesome!!!
I have just miscarried for the 2nd time in 9 months. this time i didn’t tell anyone i was pregnant. My family was unsupportive last time. just wondering how to bring it up with those friends i think will be helpful.
I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd baby Feb.2, 2010. March 3rd I had a u/s and there was no growth or heartbeat. My Doctor suggested a D&C for the next day. He actually made it seem like that was my only choice. Waiting would be detrimental to my haelth. I have had 2 healthy pregnancies already. I really don’t understand what happened, and my husband has no interest in trying again. (This one was un-planned) But i loved it like it was already here. I feel like if Im sad over the loss Im annoying to him and my family. They think Im nuts for ever wanting a third baby. He wants 1 more but in a few more yeays. Im ready for the last one. But it seems what i want and how I feel about anything doesn’t even matter…
I just miscarried last week and I have found this site to be extremely helpful. I do have a daughter and this was to be our second child. 4 days after having my 8 week songram I lost my baby. I have never known such pain. I do not understand the why and I wish there was an answer. But there just isn’t. I have found myself in the past week repeatedly coming back to this site. My daughter has really helped me get out of bed each day. Without her, I would not know how to carry on. I didn’t know that at only 8 weeks I could still feel this much sorrow over my baby being gone. I saw it, heart beating and all…and now…my baby is gone forever. When will it get better? I so desperately want more children… but I don’t think I am strong enough to try and to go through all the emotions that go with that…UGH! Anyways.. Thank You for this site
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