Comments on: How to Cope http://pregnancyloss.info Tue, 07 Feb 2012 04:44:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: allison http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-14078 allison Fri, 12 Aug 2011 02:10:09 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-14078 I am 23 my husband and I have been tryin to get pregnant for a while now. I have pcos which makes it harder. I found out I was pregnant when I went to dr for a horriable pain I was having only to find out that the pain was me having a misscarriage. We are so depressed and don't understand. I take care of myself eat right been takin all the pre natials that I am suppose to and it still happens. I don't know what todo.. had to explain to my family yes I was pregnant but lost the baby at the same time. I was 5 weeks along and miscarried with my first. I am 23 my husband and I have been tryin to get pregnant for a while now. I have pcos which makes it harder. I found out I was pregnant when I went to dr for a horriable pain I was having only to find out that the pain was me having a misscarriage. We are so depressed and don’t understand. I take care of myself eat right been takin all the pre natials that I am suppose to and it still happens. I don’t know what todo.. had to explain to my family yes I was pregnant but lost the baby at the same time. I was 5 weeks along and miscarried with my first.

]]> By: Charlie http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-12332 Charlie Thu, 07 Jul 2011 04:08:49 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-12332 I am 37 and slightly more than 2 weeks ago, I discovered and was confirmed of my first pregnancy. I was elated, so did my husband as it was to be our first child. The pregnancy was smooth, symptoms of pregnancy arisen but I was coping well until spotting started happening few days ago. Just yesterday, the bleeding became heavier and I found a huge blood clot slipping out of me uncontrollably. I knew it was gone. I was totally numbed and didn't know what to think about until my husband sent me to our doctor for a check. I can't stop crying. Sometimes, I seems to be fine, but weeping non stop at times. Near 7-week baby, gone just like that. Griefing is needed and we'll always remember this little gift. And we trust that God will bless us with more in the future as He knows best. And we keep, all those who are griefing like we do, in prayers. I am 37 and slightly more than 2 weeks ago, I discovered and was confirmed of my first pregnancy. I was elated, so did my husband as it was to be our first child. The pregnancy was smooth, symptoms of pregnancy arisen but I was coping well until spotting started happening few days ago. Just yesterday, the bleeding became heavier and I found a huge blood clot slipping out of me uncontrollably. I knew it was gone. I was totally numbed and didn’t know what to think about until my husband sent me to our doctor for a check. I can’t stop crying. Sometimes, I seems to be fine, but weeping non stop at times. Near 7-week baby, gone just like that. Griefing is needed and we’ll always remember this little gift. And we trust that God will bless us with more in the future as He knows best. And we keep, all those who are griefing like we do, in prayers.

]]> By: baby Tsukuba http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-8486 baby Tsukuba Mon, 14 Mar 2011 04:59:54 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-8486 Hi, I'm 33 yrs old. My hubby and I had been trying very hard to get pregnant but it didn't happen naturally. We ended up doing IVF instead. The eggs transfer was done on the Feb 16, 2011 and we were so happy that I was finally beginning to feel pregnant for the first time. We were so excited until the doc told us that my hCG level was very low. After the second blood test was taken, my hCG level had improved just a bit but still lower than a normal pregnancy. On the 5th week, I did a urine test at home and it was negative. I couldn't see the positive line anymore. I was so afraid and devasted. We told our doc and he asked me to come for u/s on my 6 weeks. One day before the u/s I had a very bad stomach ache and cramping. I felt something stabbing underneath my belly button. I went to pass urine and wiped... My heart sank when I saw very faint blood on the tissue paper. I knew that it was going to happen but I didn't want to believe it. I couldn't wait for my u/s appointment in the next day and I went to see my doc that afternoon. He scanned me and told me that the embryo will fall when my lining is shedding. My hubby and I put a very brave faces and thought that we accepted the news. Back home we just hugged for a long time and cried and we didn't talk much about it. On March 12, 2011, I experiened a very bad cramping. I couldn't breath properly and was lying on bed. 2 hours later I went to wash room to change my panty liner. I was bleeding heavily and a thick red blooded embryo came out from my vagina. I couldn't help myself anymore I broke down and crying. We didn't tell our families that we went for an IVF. We buried my undeveloped embryo under a growing manggo tree behind our house. I still questioning myself what went wrong and found myself still crying a lot. I will always remember our first baby and we will always grief for our baby. We try to be positive and we will never give up trying. Hi, I’m 33 yrs old. My hubby and I had been trying very hard to get pregnant but it didn’t happen naturally. We ended up doing IVF instead. The eggs transfer was done on the Feb 16, 2011 and we were so happy that I was finally beginning to feel pregnant for the first time. We were so excited until the doc told us that my hCG level was very low. After the second blood test was taken, my hCG level had improved just a bit but still lower than a normal pregnancy. On the 5th week, I did a urine test at home and it was negative. I couldn’t see the positive line anymore. I was so afraid and devasted. We told our doc and he asked me to come for u/s on my 6 weeks. One day before the u/s I had a very bad stomach ache and cramping. I felt something stabbing underneath my belly button. I went to pass urine and wiped… My heart sank when I saw very faint blood on the tissue paper. I knew that it was going to happen but I didn’t want to believe it. I couldn’t wait for my u/s appointment in the next day and I went to see my doc that afternoon. He scanned me and told me that the embryo will fall when my lining is shedding. My hubby and I put a very brave faces and thought that we accepted the news. Back home we just hugged for a long time and cried and we didn’t talk much about it. On March 12, 2011, I experiened a very bad cramping. I couldn’t breath properly and was lying on bed. 2 hours later I went to wash room to change my panty liner. I was bleeding heavily and a thick red blooded embryo came out from my vagina. I couldn’t help myself anymore I broke down and crying. We didn’t tell our families that we went for an IVF. We buried my undeveloped embryo under a growing manggo tree behind our house. I still questioning myself what went wrong and found myself still crying a lot. I will always remember our first baby and we will always grief for our baby. We try to be positive and we will never give up trying.

]]> By: JetRavenBlack http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-7774 JetRavenBlack Sun, 13 Feb 2011 09:09:20 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-7774 I'm 24 years old. I had my miscarriage in 2006, September 1st to be exact. 28 days before my own birthday. I was just coming to an end on my first trimester, the last check up I had they said my baby was the size of a raspberry. Not a night goes by I don't cry. I feel just as depressed as when it happened. It's going on 5 years and I'm afraid it will never get easier. I am a prisoner to depression and grief. I’m 24 years old. I had my miscarriage in 2006, September 1st to be exact. 28 days before my own birthday. I was just coming to an end on my first trimester, the last check up I had they said my baby was the size of a raspberry. Not a night goes by I don’t cry. I feel just as depressed as when it happened. It’s going on 5 years and I’m afraid it will never get easier. I am a prisoner to depression and grief.

]]> By: emmanence http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-7554 emmanence Wed, 26 Jan 2011 09:17:19 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-7554 thank you for your site, its one of the most comprehensive I've found so far, but there's still a BIG gap for me. I miscarried about three weeks ago, disconcordant twins, my first pregnancy ever and one which my husband and I were unbelievably excited about, looking forward to, and loving. Having been a trauma counsellor and written books about dealing with loss and other emotions I've had a fair idea of what to expect, been allowing myself to grieve, having days of weeping, writing about it, and one horrible nightmare, and my regula having problems expressing anger, but I always have, and generally experiencing everything as it comes. The thing I REALLy want to know though is information about the level to which the fluctuation in hormones has an impact, and what kind of impact? Like I've for the first time in my life having difficulty going to sleep, and it doesn't feel like its coming from a place of emotions. Like I keep getting shooting pains in my breasts, and I'm assuming its because they're adjusting back to their pre-pregnancy state, but I can't find any information. Like is the fatigue and regular headaches hormone related? And how do I tell the difference between stuff that's my body just re-adjusting, and things I actually have to worry about? My bleeding recovery was fine, and I'm still waiting for my first period, sex is fine (in fact great), but really how do I quantify the hormonal impact? thank you for your site, its one of the most comprehensive I’ve found so far, but there’s still a BIG gap for me. I miscarried about three weeks ago, disconcordant twins, my first pregnancy ever and one which my husband and I were unbelievably excited about, looking forward to, and loving. Having been a trauma counsellor and written books about dealing with loss and other emotions I’ve had a fair idea of what to expect, been allowing myself to grieve, having days of weeping, writing about it, and one horrible nightmare, and my regula having problems expressing anger, but I always have, and generally experiencing everything as it comes.
The thing I REALLy want to know though is information about the level to which the fluctuation in hormones has an impact, and what kind of impact? Like I’ve for the first time in my life having difficulty going to sleep, and it doesn’t feel like its coming from a place of emotions. Like I keep getting shooting pains in my breasts, and I’m assuming its because they’re adjusting back to their pre-pregnancy state, but I can’t find any information. Like is the fatigue and regular headaches hormone related? And how do I tell the difference between stuff that’s my body just re-adjusting, and things I actually have to worry about?
My bleeding recovery was fine, and I’m still waiting for my first period, sex is fine (in fact great), but really how do I quantify the hormonal impact?

]]> By: Claire http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-6482 Claire Sat, 06 Nov 2010 09:56:27 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-6482 Hi everyone, I had a tiny spot of blood at 10 weeks and was sent for a scan just as a precaution. At the scan they discovered I was carrying twins but they were smaller then they should be and there were no heartbeats. They told me to go back in a week for another scan to see if anything had changed. It had not and while they were doing the internal they were really rough. That was 5 days ago and I have been bleeding heavily ever since. I went to A&E last night and was told there was no more active bleeding and that I must have passed the baby's but after I left I was bleeding heavily still and passing clots. I called the hospital and they told me I must have only passed one baby and this must be the second. I don't know how to feel, I am confused and because they could not be certain about anything. A part of me won't let go of the idea of being pregnant and because I had my daughter only 9 months ago I can't accept I have not been able to complete this pregnancy. Hi everyone,
I had a tiny spot of blood at 10 weeks and was sent for a scan just as a precaution. At the scan they discovered I was carrying twins but they were smaller then they should be and there were no heartbeats.

They told me to go back in a week for another scan to see if anything had changed. It had not and while they were doing the internal they were really rough. That was 5 days ago and I have been bleeding heavily ever since.

I went to A&E last night and was told there was no more active bleeding and that I must have passed the baby’s but after I left I was bleeding heavily still and passing clots. I called the hospital and they told me I must have only passed one baby and this must be the second.

I don’t know how to feel, I am confused and because they could not be certain about anything. A part of me won’t let go of the idea of being pregnant and because I had my daughter only 9 months ago I can’t accept I have not been able to complete this pregnancy.

]]> By: lisa http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-5996 lisa Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:43:33 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-5996 Hi everyone it's been 5 year since i lost a baby i was six months, i had him on the streets, i died, had full blood trans fusion. i named him Jacob and i truly believe he is my angel that watches over me every day i try my hardest to keep it together a round the time of year i just wonder what he would look like and his personally likes dislikes, I'm a writer so every year i write him a little something, have a meal, and light candle and let it burn till it goes out. then this past October i lost a baby , due to the swine flu, i was 4 months along. but for some reason the first one bothers me more and i don't no why that that is maybe because it has been a year or maybe i feel the pain for both i just don't know it? i do believe everything happens for a reason an god places our babies in better world i have been blessed with one child he is 19years old. thank for reading and any advice you may have and i hope that this helps out one of you ladys Hi everyone it’s been 5 year since i lost a baby i was six months, i had him on the streets, i died, had full blood trans fusion. i named him Jacob and i truly believe he is my angel that watches over me every day i try my hardest to keep it together a round the time of year i just wonder what he would look like and his personally likes dislikes, I’m a writer so every year i write him a little something, have a meal, and light candle and let it burn till it goes out. then this past October i lost a baby , due to the swine flu, i was 4 months along. but for some reason the first one bothers me more and i don’t no why that that is maybe because it has been a year or maybe i feel the pain for both i just don’t know it? i do believe everything happens for a reason an god places our babies in better world i have been blessed with one child he is 19years old. thank for reading and any advice you may have and i hope that this helps out one of you ladys

]]> By: Catherine http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-5530 Catherine Fri, 28 May 2010 06:47:00 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-5530 Thank you for this site. I read it everynight i think it is how I greive. You have made a difference to my life. Two things I have found that may help other people; one reason you may feel alone or why your husband does not seem to get it, causing trouble in your marriage is because people can not see the lose you feel physically. I found people really close to me only got it when I showed them the ultra sound picture then they realize it is a real baby . Secondly I think there is a balance between grieving and ruminating I have not found yet. Thanks again! Thank you for this site. I read it everynight i think it is how I greive. You have made a difference to my life. Two things I have found that may help other people; one reason you may feel alone or why your husband does not seem to get it, causing trouble in your marriage is because people can not see the lose you feel physically. I found people really close to me only got it when I showed them the ultra sound picture then they realize it is a real baby . Secondly I think there is a balance between grieving and ruminating I have not found yet. Thanks again!

]]> By: Ama http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-4387 Ama Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:01:11 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-4387 I still dont know how to cope and I lost my baby 5 and a half months ago. I suppose if i had other children to motivate me it would be different, but I dont. My husbands gone for work early and I cant drag myself out of bed til at least noon. I work evenings. When I get to work, I put on my happy face which is exhausting so am pretty tired all the time. Pretending to be happy when miserable is hardwork. I deleted my facebook account cause was tired of hearing about friend's pregnancies and pics of newborns and children everywhere. Trying to conceive again and being disappointed month after month takes it's toll too. My doctor wont see us for fertility options until at least May which seems like an eternity. Hopefully something happens soon. I want a child and I want to feel happy again. I have no other interests at the moment besides being a mom. I still dont know how to cope and I lost my baby 5 and a half months ago. I suppose if i had other children to motivate me it would be different, but I dont. My husbands gone for work early and I cant drag myself out of bed til at least noon. I work evenings. When I get to work, I put on my happy face which is exhausting so am pretty tired all the time. Pretending to be happy when miserable is hardwork. I deleted my facebook account cause was tired of hearing about friend’s pregnancies and pics of newborns and children everywhere. Trying to conceive again and being disappointed month after month takes it’s toll too. My doctor wont see us for fertility options until at least May which seems like an eternity. Hopefully something happens soon. I want a child and I want to feel happy again. I have no other interests at the moment besides being a mom.

]]> By: Kristin http://pregnancyloss.info/how-to-cope/comment-page-1/#comment-4194 Kristin Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:40:29 +0000 http://www.pregnancyloss.info/?page_id=67#comment-4194 I just miscarried last week and I have found this site to be extremely helpful. I do have a daughter and this was to be our second child. 4 days after having my 8 week songram I lost my baby. I have never known such pain. I do not understand the why and I wish there was an answer. But there just isn't. I have found myself in the past week repeatedly coming back to this site. My daughter has really helped me get out of bed each day. Without her, I would not know how to carry on. I didn't know that at only 8 weeks I could still feel this much sorrow over my baby being gone. I saw it, heart beating and all...and now...my baby is gone forever. When will it get better? I so desperately want more children... but I don't think I am strong enough to try and to go through all the emotions that go with that...UGH! Anyways.. Thank You for this site I just miscarried last week and I have found this site to be extremely helpful. I do have a daughter and this was to be our second child. 4 days after having my 8 week songram I lost my baby. I have never known such pain. I do not understand the why and I wish there was an answer. But there just isn’t. I have found myself in the past week repeatedly coming back to this site. My daughter has really helped me get out of bed each day. Without her, I would not know how to carry on. I didn’t know that at only 8 weeks I could still feel this much sorrow over my baby being gone. I saw it, heart beating and all…and now…my baby is gone forever. When will it get better? I so desperately want more children… but I don’t think I am strong enough to try and to go through all the emotions that go with that…UGH! Anyways.. Thank You for this site

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