Comments on: How to Cope

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:40:29 +0000

I just miscarried last week and I have found this site to be extremely helpful. I do have a daughter and this was to be our second child. 4 days after having my 8 week songram I lost my baby. I have never known such pain. I do not understand the why and I wish there was an answer. But there just isn’t. I have found myself in the past week repeatedly coming back to this site. My daughter has really helped me get out of bed each day. Without her, I would not know how to carry on. I didn’t know that at only 8 weeks I could still feel this much sorrow over my baby being gone. I saw it, heart beating and all…and now…my baby is gone forever. When will it get better? I so desperately want more children… but I don’t think I am strong enough to try and to go through all the emotions that go with that…UGH! Anyways.. Thank You for this site

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:35:47 +0000

I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd baby Feb.2, 2010. March 3rd I had a u/s and there was no growth or heartbeat. My Doctor suggested a D&C for the next day. He actually made it seem like that was my only choice. Waiting would be detrimental to my haelth. I have had 2 healthy pregnancies already. I really don’t understand what happened, and my husband has no interest in trying again. (This one was un-planned) But i loved it like it was already here. I feel like if Im sad over the loss Im annoying to him and my family. They think Im nuts for ever wanting a third baby. He wants 1 more but in a few more yeays. Im ready for the last one. But it seems what i want and how I feel about anything doesn’t even matter…

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 13:39:11 +0000

I have just miscarried for the 2nd time in 9 months. this time i didn’t tell anyone i was pregnant. My family was unsupportive last time. just wondering how to bring it up with those friends i think will be helpful.

By: Joy

Joy — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 07:00:05 +0000

Where was this site when I needed it. This site is awesome!!!

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 02:51:12 +0000

I found out today that I had a blighted ovum and would miscarry, I’m 8 wks pregnant and this will be my 3rd loss this year. I am only 19 and I’m devastated, I want a baby so bad but I realize it won’t happen. I don’t know what else to do besides give up….

By: grace

grace — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 00:29:53 +0000

my email from above wrong its getctt2223@yahoo.com

By: grace

grace — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 00:27:12 +0000

i found out that i was pregnant in march my first child and i was so excited everything was going ok until may i was 9 weeks and lost my baby they said it quit growing at 5 weeks i was devestated. my head understood it but my heart will never understand it no matter what. i had a d&c and we have being trying again since july and nothing yet its just hard every month to keep going through it, i thought it would not bother me as time went on by it does more than ever and i dont know what to do about it, i feel like im crazy and a mess all the time and i feel like it affects me and my husband like we are not as close but he says it all in my head that he love me and he is there for me. i just want my life to be normal again if anyone has any insight please email me at getctt@yahoo.com,,thanks

By: kasey

kasey — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 01:54:22 +0000

I am 18 years old, and when i found out i was pregnant and that my boyfriend wanted nothing to do with me or the baby i was devestated. Eventually god came into my life and made me realize how amazing this was. and thankfully i was blessed with a caring family. I was starting to get used to the fact that id soon be a mommy, and happy. Until i found out that at my 11month check up that my baby had stoped growing at 8 weeks. It was the worst day of my life. . . the mistake that turned into my only love and greatest blessing was gone. I had the actual miscarriage two days ago. and although im trying to be strong. i think about my angle every day no one could ever feel this feeling unless they had actually lost something that was growing inside them. my ex still hasnt called. he dosent know. i tried to call but he wont answer. the only thing that keeps me going in this is that god knows why things happen he has a reason…even though i dont understand. And maybe he wanted me to wait to be a mom at a time i could handle it and have support of a husband. All i know is, the baby i never had. will always be my first child. and sometimes i think, since god knows how alone i am right now, he decided to give me an angel. my prayers are for all of you going through this. im sorry. remember. god has a plan.

By: naomi

naomi — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 19:11:08 +0000

i lost my first baby a few days ago me and my boyfriend were devastated but my bofriends brothers gf went threw the same thing a couple om months back and didnt tell no one not even her boyfriend but confided in me wen it happend to me i found the best way to cope is to never forget your baby but dnt spend so much time greiving i no that may sound really bad but the more u grieve the worse u feel and i do care abpout my baby i love my baby even tho i never got to see him but he will always b in my heart and i will never forget him

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 04:23:35 +0000

I had a miscarrige at 8 weeks in January of 2007. It was the most horrible experience of my life. By the time I had got to the hospital the process was almost complete and the ER doctor had the nerve to tell me I was never pregnant even though I had had an ultrasound at my OB’s office 3 days before that to confirm my pregnancy. We had to fought with the hospital about what the doctor had put in my charts because our insurance company would not pay for the ultasound since he said I was never pegnant. Even though my OB’s office called that doctor and told him I was pregnant he refused to change the code. I pray that no one ever has to experience what I went through. If it wasn’t for the nurses and my regular OB I would have never had my baby this year (Jan 08) at that hospital.