Comments on: Recovery from a Miscarriage

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 18:14:59 +0000

I have just started a suspected miscarriage and am devastated. I have two children already and never expected this to happen to me third time. I have a scan on Monday to confirm what has happened. This web site as been so helpful as well as reading everyone’s comments.

By: Ellen Muratore

Ellen Muratore — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 14:21:22 +0000

I am a nurse at PRMC in Naples, Fl and am looking for some support information or any local contacts in this area for women experiencing misscarriage.

Thank you

By: Caroline

Caroline — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 05:22:06 +0000

January 18, 2011
I just experienced my second miscarriage last night. I was 12 weeks along. During my 11th week I noticed some dark red bloody discharge which continued for about 5 days before I had a complete miscarriage today. I had some very mild menstrual-like cramping during the days leading up to the miscarriage but nothing that worried me too much; I just assumed it was the changes that my uterus was going through. Exhausted, but feeling ok in general, I fell into a deep sleep that night, but only after a few hours of sleep I was awakened by the sharp uncomfortable pains of my uterus contracting. I felt a little leaking and got up and rushed to the bathroom. Then it began to happen- the start of my miscarriage. Still cramping, I began bleeding heavily with large clots coming out. With each large clot that I passed I was sure it was the fetus, they felt so large. I looked in the bowl to see if I could identify “parts” but thankfully all I could see was a bunch of dark blood clots in a sea of bright red water. When that wave of bleeding was over I returned to bed and continued sleeping, as I was still extremely exhausted. But the bleeding and cramping would not let me rest so I was up and down for the next 2 hours. I was still unable to get any rest and before I knew it, it was time to wake my boys up for school. So I made sure they were up then returned to bed and tried to get more rest but could not. So I went down to the kitchen to make breakfast and pack their school lunches… a mom’s work is never done! Then I felt another wave of bleeding coming on and I rushed to the bathroom. This time I broke into a cold sweat, feeling extremely dizzy and came close to fainting as I was sitting on the toilet, but I kept my head down as far as I could and managed to crawl to the couch where I did in fact faint. I saw stars and blacked out for about 5 minutes. Once I regained consciousness I heard both my boys getting their supplies ready for school and I called out to them to not forget their lunches and have a great day and asked for a kiss before they left for school. I remained on the couch for several hours, passed out, and finally got several hours of uninterrupted sleep. When I woke up I tried to stand up but was still extremely dizzy and ended up plopping right back down on the couch. My head was also throbbing with a migraine. That was definitely the worst I’ve ever felt physically. I had not been seen by my OB/Gyn during this pregnancy so I don’t know when fetal death actually occurred but with my first miscarriage they determined via ultrasound that the baby had stopped growing around 7 weeks and I miscarried that pregnancy at around 9 weeks. This miscarriage was much worse physically for me but the first one was much worse emotionally. I am trying to get my strength back and have been eating and drinking normally all day. My appetite hasn’t diminished despite the dizziness which has really incapacitated me this time. With my first miscarriage I didn’t have any dizziness, just the bleeding. I have not told anyone about this pregnancy, not even my husband, but I will eventually. I just have a different coping mechanism (keeping to myself) which he doesn’t agree with and I wasn’t up to pleading with him not to tell anyone about my problems. Sadly we will not be trying again, as I cannot go through this trauma again, and because of my age (I am now 45) I know the odds are against me and the likelihood of another miscarriage is so high. If I were 10 or more years younger I would definitely keep trying and I encourage others who are still young to keep trying. You will have that wonderful baby you’ve dreamed about someday. I am thankful for the 2 sons I have been blessed with and I’m lucky to have a loving husband and a wonderful life. Good luck with your pregnancies and my thoughts are with all of you who have suffered losses.

By: Mel

Mel — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:47:52 +0000

We fell pregnant as a result of IVF (second cycle) so one can imagine the excitement! My Hcg levels were not great and eventually I miscarried in the 7th week. The most surprising aspect of the whole thing was that no one actually talks about the physical aspects of a miscarriage. It felt so odd, uncontrolable, almost primitive. I was at home and I found myself walking through the house in a dazed state for a few hours. It’s all over now and I’m quite fine with it. It does have a positive side for us – at least we fell pregnant and we’re looking forward to trying again in the new year. There is one symptom however which has been bothering me and I can’t find any information on it. It’s the state of my skin… I know that that talk about pimples pales in significance when discussing miscarriage but, It’s a constant reminder of what my body has gone through. Has anyone had similar symptoms? my forehead, chin and chest are covered in little bumps and I can’t seem to clear them. Would love to hear from others…

By: mariec

mariec — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 21:47:46 +0000

I just found yesterday at my 18 week ultrasound that my baby was dead. I have two children and four previous miscarriages but they had all been in the first trimester. This time I had no symptoms that anything was wrong and I still feel pregnant. I feel the loss of my baby boy much more deeply than the previous losses because I felt safe in my second trimester after multiple healthy ultrasounds and a normal genetic test. To all of you who have had a miscarriage – don’t give up. I am suffering but I have also been blessed with two beautiful children.

By: Liv

Liv — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:30:48 +0000

I took my first pregnancy test on 12sept, went to my doctor got my blood work done and he confirmed the pregnancy.
I am now 9-10week pregnant and hav started having light bleeding and mild cramps, I went to the hospital today n they took blood again (my white blood count is a little high?) n I hav to get my first ultrasound tomorrow, I’m jus hoping everything is ok because I hav wanted a baby for so long and hav hav the most amazing boyfriend who can’t wait to be a daddy!

By: Kristina

Kristina — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 17:28:51 +0000

I miscarried one week ago today at 13 and a half weeks. This was my first pregnancy. We had been married for 3 years and had been trying to get pregnant for a year and a half. We really wanted the baby and were very excited. We had just recently finished telling our entire family, extended family, and finally all our friends and acquaintances that we were expecting a baby. All along, I tried to be emotionally prepared for a miscarriage, because I knew the statistics. But I really didn’t think it would happen to me. Yet somehow, when it happened, in a way I didn’t feel surprised and amazingly didn’t take it nearly as hard as I imagined I would. It was so frightening at first, that once we were in the care of the hospital, I think my husband and I were relieved and actually in good spirits. We got an outpouring of support from everyone. But I’ve found that as the days pass, I’m finding it much more difficult to stop thinking about the miscarriage. I have trouble sleeping because as soon as I close my eyes at night, terrible visual memories jump into my mind…the heavy bleeding and clots, doubling over in pain, and the two most disturbing…looking at my tiny baby that looked so strange and almost scary…and remembering the D & E to remove my placenta, which I felt in full as if I had no pain relief at all, and seemed like something out of a nightmare. Like many here, I feel full of doubt about my ability to carry a healthy baby all the way to term. The loss of innocence and unmarred joy of pregnancy is a big blow. I know that if there’s a next time, and I hope there will be, I’ll probably feel I should wait until the baby’s born to tell people I’m pregnant, although I won’t want to. I worry especially because mine happened relatively late, at the very end of the 1st trimester…there won’t be a point during my next pregnancy where I’ll breathe a sigh of relief and feel “safe.”

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 11 Sep 2010 20:01:04 +0000

This website has been amazingly helpful. My miscarriage began on Tuesday night, and I was 12 weeks. I could tell by Wednesday morning based on the bleeding that my body was processing it naturally so opted not to fill the prescription for Cytotec the doctors gave me. When this morning the cramping and bleeding had stopped, I was relieved and feeling like the physical process was nearing its end. But then mid-day today, the bleeding and cramping started back up and I’m back consulting this website for the ump-teenth time and feeling so thankful for it, understanding that this start and stop bleeding is normal. At this point, I’m just worried that I should have taken that darn cytotec….worried that I’ll still have to have the d&c anyway…and just tired and sad and frustrated. Thank you to Deanna and everyone who has shared their feelings and experiences here.

By: alisha

alisha — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 11:20:29 +0000

I have just had my 2nd miscarriage. First was in May and I had a D & C at 12 weeks. The 2nd I passed last night at 9 weeks. I never thought it could happen again. I feel so lost and devastated. All I want to be is a mommy and I feel like I may never be. I have cut my sister out of my life b/c after the 1st loss she got a boyfriend knew him 3 days and informed to evryone she was trying to get pregnant. This was 3 weeks after my loss and of course she got pregnant and of course they guy and her never worked out. I got pregnant again in between all of this and lost another and she is still pregnant. It’s sooo unfair I have a loving husband and we are ready to be parents but it seems soooo far out of reach. I’m trying to keep faith with God but I can feel it slipping away. Thanks for such an amazing website.

By: Lulu

Lulu — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 02:16:51 +0000

I just had a miscarriage two weeks ago. I have waited a very long time to have the right person in my life to have a baby with. I was so happy when we found out, also so scared and nervous, but in a good way. The minute I found out I was pregnant I shed my skin. I wasn’t the same person. I felt so blessed, so lucky to have turned that page and start a new chapter in my life. Now it is so difficult to go back to the person I was before I got pregnant. Definitely feel alone, depressed, and sad. Finding it hard to enjoy life, even though I truly loved my life prior to getting pregnant. This is difficult. I know it will pass though. I thank god for having miscarried early at about 6.5 weeks……seems like nothing but it’s not. It is a big deal. A very big deal. My hubby is trying to understand me but I think he has no clue. I truly think he feels more bad for me than the actual loss of the pregnancy. I’m ok with that, he is a good person but just truly doesn’t understand. I hope this passes soon….. Thanks for all your posts. They truly helped me feel better, just knowing I am not alone. Best to you all and much luck for the future!