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I have put together a song list appropriate to play at memorials. They are perfect music for the one-hour candle lighting each year on Oct. 15 at 7 p.m. your time if you participate in the International Wave of Light. 

Clicking on the link takes you to the Amazon page where you can listen to a clip. You can also listen without leaving this page by looking in the sidebar on the left and finding the jukebox. Click on it and select the song you want to hear.

Still by Gerritt Hofsink

You Raise Me Up by Josh Groban

Fly by Celine Dion

Angels Among Us by Alabama

Ave Maria by Josh Groban

My Name by George Canyon

Glory Baby by Watermark

Slipped Away by Avril Lavigne

Held by Natalie Grant

Angel Song Lyrics:

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Still
Written by Gerrit Hofsink

An amazing song with a woman's voice, written by Gerrit for his grandson who was stillborn. It is available on Itunes, and CDBaby.com or US residents can download it on Amazon for 89 cents by clicking here. If you'd like to hear the whole song, watch the video Deanna made for Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Day. Gerrit graciously allowed us to use his beautiful song.

I've been waiting for you for such a long time
You're always on my mind
And I'm laying awake most of the night
Waiting to hold you tight
Now that I do, and look at you
MY heart is breaking, this can't be true

Lost you before I found you
Gone before you came
But I love you just the same
Missed you before I met you
On Earth we never can, but in heaven we'll meet again

Close to my soul, close to my heart
Right from the start
Lost in time, lost in space
Can't wait to see your face

Now that I do, and look at you
MY heart is breaking, this can't be true

Lost you before I found you
Gone before you came
But I love you just the same
Missed you before I met you
On Earth we never can, but in heaven we'll meet again

Sometimes I find myself wondering what to do
With this pain that I'm going through
But I know one day, God will take me away
And I'm coming home to you

And when I do, and look at you
My heart is healing, I know it's true

Lost you before I found you
Gone before you came
But I love you just the same
Missed you before I met you
On Earth we never can, but in heaven we'll meet again
In heaven we'll meet again

To Where You Are
Performed by Josh Groban

A beautifully sung ballad about loss and coping.
Click for information about buying the CD with this song.

To Where You Are

Who can say for certain
Maybe you’re still here
I feel you all around me
Your memories so clear

Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You’re still an inspiration
Can it be (? )
That you are mine
Forever love
And you are watching over me from up above

Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know you’re there
A breath away’s not far
To where you are

Are you gently sleeping
Here inside my dream
And isn’t faith believing
All power can’t be seen

As my heart holds you
Just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me everyday
’cause you are mine
Forever love
Watching me from up above

And I believe
That angels breathe
And that love will live on and never leave

Fly me up
To where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
To know you’re there
A breath away’s not far
To where you are

I know you’re there
A breath away’s not far
To where you are

My Name
Performed by George Canyon

An old woman dies, reliving the moment she had a stillborn child, only to be reunited with the lost baby at the moment of death.

Click to see the video of this song.
[Click for information about buying the CD with this song.]

It’s cold in here feels like everything’s upside down
I can feel you talking but I can barely make out the sound
I been kicking around these parts, feels like a year
I’m gonna change this world if I ever get out of here
She wants to dress me in pink, paints my bedroom blue
And I just laugh to myself, because only I know the truth
This love is my only emotion
Haven’t learned any fear any pain
It’s kind of funny with all this commotion
I guess they’ve got me to blame
And they don’t even know my name
And they don’t even know my name

Well I’ve never felt so ready, think it’s finally time
Cause that big old world is waiting, and it’s mine all mine
Just then everything got real quiet, it got real bright
And a man took my hand said don’t worry, your momma's gonna be all right
Then he opened the gate, & I followed him in
Said you can wait right here till it’s your turn again
And his love is the one true emotion
Heaven knows no fear no pain
I never got to set my wheels in motion
But they loved me just the same
And they never even knew name
Didn’t even know my name
You loved me just the same
And you didn’t even know my name

Angels Among Us
Performed by Alabama

Should you decide you want this song for your very own, it is available as a CD single and also as part of Alabama's Greatest Hits No. 3.

[Click for information about the CD single Angels Among Us]
[Click for information about Alabama's Greatest Hits No. 3]

Lyrics:

Angels Among Us

I was walking home from school on a cold winter day. 
I took a shortcut through the woods, and I lost my way. 
It was getting late, and I was scared and alone. 
But then a kind old man took my hand and led me home. 
My mama couldn't see him, but he was standing there. 
And I knew in my heart, he was the answer to my prayers.

Chorus
Oh, I believe there are angels among us. 
Sent down to us from somewhere up above. 
They come to you and me in our darkest hours. 
To show us how to live, to teach us how to give. 
To guide us with a light of love.

When life held troubled times and had me down on my knees. 
There's always been someone to come along and comfort me. 
A kind word from a stranger, to lend a helping hand. 
A phone call from a friend, just to say I understand. 
But ain't it kind of funny that at the dark end of the road. 
That someone lights the way with just a single ray of hope.

Chorus

They wear so many faces, show up in the strangest places. 
To grace us with their mercy, in our time of need.
Oh, I believe there are angels among us. 
Sent down to us from somewhere up above. 
They come to you and me in our darkest hours. 
To show us how to live, to teach us how to give. 
To guide us with a light of love.
To guide us with a light of love.

Glory Baby
Performed by Watermark
Watermark is a husband and wife team who lost a baby to miscarriage. This song was written just for this baby. They have since had a healthy baby boy.

Should you decide you want this song for your very own, it is available on their CD All Things New.

[Click for information about the CD All Things New, which includes the song "Glory Baby"]

Lyrics:

Glory Baby

Glory baby, you slipped away as fast as we could say baby, baby
You were growing, what happened, dear, you disappeared on us baby, baby

Heaven will hold you before we do
Heaven will keep you safe until we're home with you
Until we're home with you

Chorus

Miss you every day
Miss you in every way
But we know there's a day when we will hold you
We will hold you

And you'll kiss our tears away
When we're home to stay
Can't wait for the day
When we will see you, we will see you

But baby let sweet Jesus hold you
'Till Mom and Dad can hold you
You'll just have heaven before we do
You'll just have heaven before we do
Before we do

Sweet little babies
It's hard to understand it 'cause we're hurting
We are hurting
But there is healing
And we know we're stronger people through the growing
And in knowing
That all things will work together for our good
And God works His purposes, just like He said He would
Just like He said He would

Chorus

I can't imagine heaven's lullabies and what they must sound like
But I'll rest in knowing that heaven is your home
And it's all you'll ever know
All you'll ever know

Chorus

Fly
Performed by Celine Dion

Should you decide you want this song for your very own, it is available on Celine Dion's CD "Falling into You"

[Click for information about the CD Falling into You]

Lyrics:

Fly

Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wing of Heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again

Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this memory bittersweet
Until we meet

Fly, fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don't wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget

Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light

This song is sung by The Greenes. Amazon lists this song on a CD, but I can't be positive it's the right one.

Jesus Has a Rocking Chair

Many hopeful moms and dads
Try to have a child of their own
Some will never get the chance
Others do and see them grown
And there are those who are expecting
That precious baby soon
But then it's gone before it ever leaves
The safety of it's mamma's womb

Jesus has a rocking chair
And He holds that precious baby
With oh, such tender care
He takes the place of mom and dad
He's the greatest parent a child could have
Don't worry about the children there
Jesus has a rocking chair

There are those who have a boy or girl
A lovely gift of God
But then sickness or a tragedy
Takes them from their parent's arms
Mammas wish for days gone by
Daddies long for that lost child
But the children are not lost
When you know where they are

She was eighteen and unmarried
Expecting her little one
But in her time of confusion
She took the life of her son
Since then Jesus forgave her
And took all her shame away
Still she cries missing her baby
But she hears the angels say

Jesus has a rocking chair
And He holds that precious baby
With oh, such tender care
He takes the place of mom and dad
He's the greatest parent a child could have
Don't worry about the children there
Jesus has a rocking chair

The Greenes

Where does this information come from?

Many people are concerned about the quality of information they receive on the Internet. It is a growing concern that people are getting medical advice from poor sources. (I especially despise the dozens of sites out there that act as though some product they sell will prevent miscarriage--it is NOT true and the sites are often filled with bad or slanted information.) 

This site is written completely by Deanna Roy, who lost her own first baby in 1998. Since then, she has interviewed doctors, read countless books, researched both print and web materials, and talked with several thousand women about their experiences via email and her site. 

One thing we do know is that no one--from the terrified woman who is miscarrying to the revered doctors publishing well researched articles in the New England Journal of Medicine--totally agrees on many facts surrounding miscarriage. It is the intent of this web site to provide the most general and accepted of facts, while realizing that every woman's experience is different, and that statistics such as 1 in 500 don't mean much if you are the 1.

This site is certainly not infallible. The only person who can really tell you what is going on is your own doctor. If you are worried or experiencing problems, you simply MUST see a qualified ob/gyn or fertility specialist. Research is helpful and empowering, but will not stop your bleeding or tell you exactly what went wrong in your pregnancy.

To see my book and web resources, scroll to the top of this page. I also have Footnotes in newer parts of the site.