Sperm Meets Egg Plan

Sperm Meets Egg PlanThis information and MUCH more is in my FREE eBook on getting pregnant after a loss.

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Deanna’s Plan

Whether you are trying again after a miscarriage, or frustrated that you can’t seem to get pregnant again after a successful pregnancy, the sperm meets egg plan is for women who have gotten pregnant in the past, and therefore do not have significant infertility problems that need to be tested and treated. It is also a good plan to try for a first pregnancy if you want to do something serious to increase your chances before finally going in for a doctor visit about fertility.

Even if you have had an easy time getting pregnant in the past, pregnancy tends to change your hormonal makeup, so sometimes timing is not the same as it was before. This plan will ensure that sperm gets to your egg. Whether or not a viable pregnancy results (the odds are about 1 in 4 even if you time it right), is up to nature.

Be prepared for a month of serious loving!

The Plan

Short Version:

  • “Try” every other night starting Day 8
  • Buy 10 ovulation predictor kit sticks
  • Begin ovulation testing on Day 10
  • When test is positive, “try” that night, plus two additional nights in a row
  • Skip one night, then do one last “try”
  • Take a home pregnancy test 15 days after your ovulation test was positive, if your period has not begun
  • If your ovulation test never goes positive, continue “trying” every other night until Day 35, then do a pregnancy test if your period has not begun.

Statistics coming in from women who write me show that about 40% of post-miscarriage women will get pregnant on the first try if they are faithful to the plan, about double the number of the normal population who are not on the plan. This assumes, of course, that you waited for a normal cycle to begin after your loss, and did not begin trying before having a period after a miscarriage. Many women do not ovulate in that first cycle.

Detailed Version:

On day 8 of your cycle, counting from the first day you bled, begin “trying” every other night. Begin taking Ovulation Predictor Kits (or continue with your Ovulation computer) on Day 10. Buy two five-packs so as not to scrimp on taking them and stop too early. To make sure your OPK is working well, take your test in the afternoon or after work and do not drink any liquids or go to the bathroom for at least four hours prior to testing. (Morning is not a good time for OPKs, which look for the LH surge, which usually happens during the day.) Read your OPK instructions carefully, as usually a faint line does not indicate a positive, you need a line that is darker than the test line. LH is produced throughout your cycle and will only predict ovulation when it has a big surge. When your OPK turns positive, begin trying every night for three consecutive nights, skip the fourth night, and then once more. Then you can stop! (It is fine to continue just for fun, though!) The waiting begins.

Take a home pregnancy test 15 or 16 days after your OPK was positive if your period has not begun. Do not buy internet pregnancy tests or tests that claim to work before your period is expected. They are not well manufactured and are not reliable. They will only cause you more anxiety than you already feel in wanting to know. Please resist the urge to do a blood test at your doctor’s office just to find out sooner unless you have a medical reason to know early. Fertilized eggs that do not grow are actually a terrible but normal occurrence as much as 75% of the time, and seeing a very low put positive blood test in the first 14 days can place you on a terrible emotional roller coaster. By the time a home pregnancy test is positive, your baby has safely implanted and your odds of miscarriage are down to a normal 10%.

Should your OPK never become positive, keep the every other day trying going until day 35. I recommend at that point taking a home pregnancy test, but even if it is negative, you might want to take a quantitative hCG blood test at your doctor’s office. Remember that not every women will ovulate every month. I personally did not ovulate for two months following my first miscarriage.

As you are trying, make sure to “release” the sperm in your partner at least once during the gap between ovulation and new cycle Day 8 so that no more than 10 days elapse without new sperm production. Sperm is also a cause of genetic damage, not just eggs, so keep it fresh! If you are not successful the first month, it is not because your sperm did not get to your egg. 75% of eggs are lost within the first 14 days due to normal genetic damage or failure to fertilize. Just keep trying!

Here are a few facts that may surprise you:

  • Many books tell you that sperm can last for 5 days and the egg for 24 hours. While this is technically true on the very long end (and something to follow if you trying to NOT get pregnant), most sperm will only last about two hours if you do not have fertile-quality cervical mucus for it to swim in. The sperm will struggle to swim up to your uterus, use all its reserves, and not make it. The egg typically lives only about 12 hours, so it cannot wait for long. You can now see how important that cervical mucus is! You will never get pregnant with sperm living two hours and an egg only twelve. This information is really just to make you feel better if you’ve been trying a long time and all your infertility testing came back normal. If the Deanna-plan does not work and you are faithful to it for three months, take a dose of plain Robitussin cough syrup (or any cough medicine that says “expectorant” and NOT “antihistamine”) each day (preferably a few hours prior to “trying”) starting around Day 10 until the day after your ovulation predictor goes off. It should help make all the mucus in your body runnier, including that produced by your cervix. (Oh the gruesome details required in baby-making!) The sperm in the runnier mucus will live about two days, and will be up there and ready for the 12-hour life of the egg. A NOTE ABOUT CLOMID: Clomid causes cervical mucus to dry up in 25% of the women who take it. If you notice your mucus is not plentiful as it was before taking this drug, take the Robitussin and call your doctor to make sure your really need the Clomid. If you are ovulating on your own and do not have a documented luteal phase defect, you most likely do not need it.
  • “Trying” too often can actually do more harm than good. Do not try every night! You will get exhausted and sore, and your mucus–both for fertility and for lubrication–will dry up, and you will stop trying too early in the month or miss an important day. Every other day is absolutely sufficient, with three nights in a row during peak time sealing the deal.
  • Don’t worry about stress! Regular old worries about getting pregnant, and if you will ever have children, are perfectly normal and do NOT affect your fertility. Ignore those people who tell you just to relax and stop thinking about it. This is not their problem! The only thing that could actually affect you is serious stress, like moving to a new house, losing your job, family deaths, and other things that make you physically ill or depressed. This can delay your ovulation, or make you not ovulate in a cycle, since you will produce an excess amount of the stress byproduct called prolactin. It will not affect you for long, and the next month you should come back and be normal again.
  •  An early period is not an indication of an early miscarriage, even if you know you timed your trying perfectly. Usually it means that the egg was not fertilizable, and so progesterone was not adequately produced. This shortens your cycle. Sometimes eggs simply don’t develop properly during the ovulation process. It is usually a one-month problem. If you are regularly seeing that fewer than 10 days are passing between ovulation and your period, however, it’s time to be tested for a luteal phase defect. You can read more about that under hormone causes of miscarriage.

Good luck to everyone. Baby dust, baby dust, baby dust!

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75 thoughts on “Sperm Meets Egg Plan

  1. Hi i have followed your plan and got positive ovulation test on days 14 & 15 and 2 days before my period was due i tested positive on a urine test it was very faint so i have tested everyday since and have all been positive and have got darker. I started bleeding yesterday 30 days after lmp i went to hospital where i was examined and they couldn’t reach my cervix they said it was so high and they done urine test which was faint positive & blood test which has come back today at 6 they said i wasn’t pregnant, i asked how have i had so may positive urine tests and they said i could have had a chemical pregnancy and to do another urine test in 2 weeks just to check. Could i still be pregnant i really don’t know what to think and don’t want to keep hoping i could be to find out in 2 weeks i’m not we have been ttc for the last 8 months and this is the 1st time trying the plan and i was so happy when we got positive results x

  2. Ok heres the deal, i had unprotected sex november 7th to november 11and kept having sex up until i started my period on the 18th of November. i realized i was suppose to have my period November 10 and it didnt come. I was 11days late before i had my period and it only lasted 3days and wasnt heavy. I took two pregnancy tests when i was 7days late they were negative. When i got my period it was strange. I didnt cramp or anything. The night before i had sex on the 17th and that morning is when i started. It was just so odd to me. I have been havin headaches,dizziness etc. but no morning sickness or nothing. If i eat i can eat like the bites and feel so full. Should i be concerned of being pregnant?

  3. Hi hCG test is passing after 8 days delayed period time. Is it advisable to intercourse everyday to get pregnancy or it may lead any harm to fertilized egg, Please guide me.

  4. Hi Deanna,
    We’re on CD 8 just about to start SMEPing when DH has had to go away for the night for work reasons so we haven’t had chance to BD. I have just had my first period after my miscarriage and before my miscarriage i was getting positive OPKs on CD 13 so assume i ovulate on CD 14. My question is that we will not be starting SMEP until CD 10 now but as i shouldn’t ovulate until CD 14 are we still in with a good chance?
    Thank you so much

  5. I Was suppose to ovulate on the 2nd or 3rd if oct i had sex on the 1st 2nd an,4th of oct with my bf but on the 4th i had sex with this guy hrs later does he come into play from.dates An facts he doesnt mind u on the the 1st before i had sex with my bf i was feeling nauseous an getting Hedaches an my sex drive Was up.. is that A sign of ovulation an i think i had cervical mucus too because wen he put it n it was slippery i need help i jus dont think the the other guy plays a role from my knowledge an everything i kno?

  6. Your plan sounds great and I’m going to give it a try next month but I wonder if its worked out for a ‘normal’ 28 day cycle. I have a rather short cycle of 24-26 days and often seem to ovulate the day or the day after AF stops. I think if I left it until day 8 I might miss out. Is there a way to recalibrate the plan for a shorter cycle?

  7. Hi! We miscarried Jan 3rd and ive had two periods since so we decided to try this month.

    I didnt realize you had to take the opk in the afternoon and ive been doing it in the morning.

    So my question is, i took opk March 21 at 7am and it detected lh surge. Does that mean i actually began ovulating on the 20th?


  8. Hi

    My question is, if your husband has a normal sperm count
    but did not have good quality sperm, is this plan ok?
    He has been on stamino grow for 1 month, will the frequency
    of making love when getting a positive for ovulation not
    be a problem?

    Thank you

  9. Hi,
    I am new to this site. I’ve done the BD thing every other day until i tested positive for LH surge on CD15. We had more BD on CD15, and CD16. My poor hubby was exhausted so we didnt have any BD on CD17. Has this greatly reduced my chances of getting pregnant?

    i had a miscarriage in Feb of this year and I’m currently having acupuncture to try to relax my mind and hopefully increase my chances of conceiving. i really hope this is our lucky month.


  10. I’m sorry to bother you, I know you must get so many questions!

    I am trying again following a miscarriage. I ovulate early, either day 10 or 11. Do you suggest I do anything different to your plan, ie start it on day 6 instead of 8 or do it exactly as you suggest?

    Thank you for giving people so much hope and success!

    Kind regards.

  11. Catherine, since you are really on top of your ovulation, it’s fine to start on day 8. I ovulate on day 11 and I start on day 8.

    The every other BDs prior to ovulation are really going to be about your schedule and willingness. The main thing is not to burn out to soon.

    Baby Dust!

  12. Going to try your plan this month after 7 months trying has failed. I was really sad today & came upon this site. I’m hoping for a BFP.

  13. Hey im new to this but i had a miscarriage in june at 7 weeks. I started researching a lot about everything n of course like many others i wanted to try again dr said i could try after 1 cycle so we tried for two months n i started to lose hope. So i came across sperm meets egg tried it this month n look whos pregnant againits kind of surreal like am i really pregnant agaim im scared nervous excited. So noone should give up hope n i would recommend this plan to every women who is ttc again after miscarriage! When its ment to b it will happen

  14. March of this year i had to terminate a pregnancy because it was a blighted ovum and then June of this year i had to terminate another pregnancy because I was pregnant in my tubes (ectopic pregnancy). My husband and i have been trying for the past 3 months with no luck. We already have a 3 year old daughter, we want a son but we don’t have any hope cause we can’t get pregnant. Should i give up?

  15. Hi there,

    On april 28, 2012 I found out I had a miscarriage – my baby was 9 weeks, but I was pregnant for 10. Then I got pregnant, and lost the baby at 6 weeks, on Nov 11, 2012. Now, on the 24th of December I had my period, very light. It just finished yesterday (the 28th). My concern is that since my last pregnancy/miscarriage my breasts have been tender. I expected (as usual) that when my period came it would go away, but its still tender! Why is that?

  16. Hi Deanna, I just had a quick question. I have 39 day cycles, and I was wondering what day you would suggest starting the smep. I dont want to miss the perfect window, but I dont want is to burn out by starting to early either. Thanks!!

  17. Hi..I am really trying to get pregnant my doctor put me on clomid, I been taken it for 3 months now still no sign of pregnancy. I am planing on giving up next month..but for this month after done with my clomid day 5 to 9.. I notice i was ovulating five days after bacouse i check my discharge it was streching out so that give me an idea that i was near ovulation. My husband and I been having sex every night for about 3 nights in a row now but we planning on stopping tomorrow and then we will be having sex one day and then rest the next day.. i really wants to get pregnant and not only am i lossing hope but hes giving up as well. But today i felt a sharp pain in my lower stomach I think its gas but not sure what is it..Do you think i have a good change conceiving this month….desperate needs of answers.

  18. Hi I ave been reading through your web site and I would be grateful if you could help me get my head around this
    I have not had a period for approx 10 weeks and last Thursday I took while cramps down 1 side of my stomach and within hours I was bleeding heavy with large black clots A week later the pain has got no easier and the blood is still pouring out of me I dont want to go to the GP as i lost a child before and I couldnt cope if I was told this again but the unknowing is nearly as bad What do you think is this a miscarriage or an extra late period
    Thanks for taking the time to replying to me in advance

  19. I had a D&C on June 13.
    still have not had a typical period. Although I had two days bleeding on June 13th.
    two weeks ago my HCG was down to 20.
    Pos OPK on July 29 (not a false pos, finally was getting neg before and after)
    Progesterone confirmed ovulation but it was only 4…
    I typically have short LP of 9 -10 days.
    Today is 13dpo.
    Is there a chance I could be pregnant? Or has my cycle just shifted post miscarriage?

  20. I think I may be pregnant but I recently bled heavily with clots that look like the eggs in it. Do you think I am pregant? I’m really scared that I am. I have not taken a test yet.

  21. Deanna
    Thank you for your website, it has helped me after recent miscarriage.

    we are now trying again and going to try the plan. My question is, is it ok to start the plan ob day 9? My hubby is away until then and now totally panicking that we will miss this month if start a day late?

  22. I had intentions of starting the plan this month, but my body seemed to just skip my period. I tested twice so I’m not prego. I’m wondering when to start now? Act as if AF came on her scheduled day and count from there? My cycle hasn’t been a set number of days so that’s where I get a little weary… It arrived May5th and June 5th and according to my phone app was “due” July 8th. Help please!!!

  23. I’m taking clomid for two months today is 9day of cycle my husband is out station he shall come 0n 13th day of cycle do I still have chances to get pregnant?

  24. My questions comes from the sperm meets the egg book. In the book you said that most women do not ovulate this cycle. What cycle were you referring to? The time after miscarriage which you recommend for us not to try because doctors might have trouble dating the pregnancy. Or is it that we might not ovulate after our first cycle?

  25. I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck.I don’t have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when i am ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a baby have conceived within 2-3 months of trying, we had a fertility test about a year ago and my womb were fine. I’m thinking it could be a problem with me but I’ve never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional drink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional drink. i know i am slightly overweight but that shouldn’t affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunt ,then i contact the man on this email: fiokporspiritualtemple AT gmail. com after few weeks the doctor confirm that i am pregnant thank you DR Fiokpor for helping us get a baby

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