Statistics

I’ve been told dozens of different statistics from various sources, including my doctors, articles, and books. Most doctors are unwilling to get into statistics, as you may have discovered. I researched this issue well and am going out on a limb because I know you want to know something, even if it may not apply to you in the end.

If you would like to look at my written sources, visit books and resources.

For most normal, healthy women in their first pregnancy, the statistics look like this:

Week of Gestation Percentage Likelihood
of Miscarriage
1-2(Before your period is due) 75% (this includes eggs that never grow past fertilization, and it would have been impossible to know you were pregnant; after implantation, which occurs 7-10 days after ovulation, the odds go down to 31%)2Before taking an early detection home pregnancy test that gives results before you expect your period, please read about the concerns with it.
3-6 10% (at 14 days post ovulation when hCG levels reach 50-80)2
6-12 5% (or less if heartbeat heard)
2nd trimester 3% (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks)
3rd trimester No longer considered miscarriage once fetus is beyond one pound (500 grams) around 24 weeks gestation. Stillbirth rate is 1%.

 

Statistics for repeat miscarriage

Situation Percentage Likelihood
of Miscarriage
in Your Next Pregnancy
If you had a miscarriage in your first pregnancy 13% chance of it happening again (up from 10%)
One miscarriage after having one or more live births 10% (no more than normal)
Multiple miscarriages with one or more live births 13% if you are under 35.
If you had one healthy child early on and later have several miscarriages in a row, you should seek testing, as your odds may have changed due to underlying health issues or the condition of your eggs or sperm.
Three pregnancies and three miscarriages 60% (you should have testing done after three concurrent miscarriages–the solution is sometimes simple and easy)1
Four or more miscarriages with no live births It’s time to stop trying on your own and seek the help of a qualified reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist. See the section on causes of miscarriage for more information on what may be causing your losses.42
Maternal age over 35 If you have healthy children or this is your first pregnancy, and are in good health yourself, there is no reason to worry about an increased risk of miscarriage. It is a fact, however, that eggs begin to deteriorate after age 35 regardless of the mother’s health, and a higher rate of miscarriage and babies born with birth defects will occur. Recommended reading if you are over 35 can be found at www.marchofdimes.com.
After your first miscarriage, your likelihood of becoming a recurrent miscarrier  20%6I don’t like this statistic, as it doesn’t match the others. But few places will give a number for this. This one comes from Miscarriage, A Woman Doctor’s View.

Statistics on Ectopic Pregnancy

 

Situation Percentage Likelihood�
of Ectopic
No history of ectopics 2%43
Tube with ectopic removed completely 9%
Tube with ectopic preserved 12%

 Even though your rate of ectopic is a bit higher when your tube is preserved, you want to keep your tube if you can. It dramatically increases your ability to get pregnant again.

97 Comments »

  Traci wrote @ September 19, 2007 at 11:35 am

Thanks you so much for stats! This is EXACTLY what I have been looking for, searching through websites for days. I appreciate your information. I am 6 weeks 5 days- keep your fingers crossed for me!

  Deanna wrote @ September 19, 2007 at 11:37 am

Fingers absolutely crossed.

  Jessica wrote @ November 21, 2007 at 1:09 pm

I am 27 years old and have had three first trimester miscarriages in two years (no children). The only thing my RE has been able to tell me is it’s “bad luck”. I know for sure the 2nd one was a random genetic problem. Could I really be this unlucky???

  Deanna wrote @ November 22, 2007 at 9:06 am

Fire your RE.

Three losses in a row is not a matter of luck whatsoever. I’m sorry he has been so insensitive to your losses and not advocating finding the problem and solving it, holding your hand along the way with comfort and strength. How difficult these last two years must have been!

Yes, something is wrong, but yes, you will find a doctor to help you traverse these difficult waters. Most reproduction problems can be overcome, even at great trial and fear, but you will get there, and your journey to parenthood, while not easy or rosy or simple, will be nonetheless as joyful, and you will learn the compassion and toughness you have gathered through the process will make you not just good parents, but the best parents.

Let me know how you are.

  Mom2b wrote @ December 17, 2007 at 1:17 pm

Thank for these stats. having suffered thru infertility, I am very anxious with this pregnancy. I recently saw my miracle’s heart beating during our first U/S and I’m trying desperately to calm myself down and think positive. These stats have helped me easy my worries. Thanks.

  Leslie Thomas wrote @ March 30, 2008 at 11:05 pm

I am so scared. I was young when I had 2 miscarriages and then I had my son. (8 years ago). Soon after my son was born I divorced and then remarried a year later. So my new and wonderful husband who is 23 and I am 26 decided to try to conceive a child. For the past 2 years (at least) we have really been ttc. I got pregnant in February and had another miscarriage in March 2008. This was SOOO hard on the both of us because we planned and were joyful about this. My doctor gave us a HCG and gave him a semen analysis and all bloodwork came out normal. The doctor said just keep trying that there was nothing that he could point out that would be causing us to be infertile. We make love at least every other day if not every day. This seems so hard. What do you suggest that would be our next step?

  Leslie Thomas wrote @ March 30, 2008 at 11:07 pm

i meant a hystosalpingogram not a HCG

  Deanna wrote @ April 1, 2008 at 9:11 am

Leslie,

I am so sorry you have gone through such a heartbreaking experience yet again.

Since you have a healthy child and this happened after experiencing miscarriages before, your doctor is correct. The only true solution is to try again. I’m not really sure why he even did the tests he did–a single miscarriage would not indicate any sort of problem, especially since you did get pregnant, which would eliminate a serious fertility issue.

Some women are more prone to blighted ovum, where the fertilized egg does not seem to grow into a baby. But they also go on to have healthy babies in between the losses. This could be due to some chemical or environmental exposure that damaged a number of eggs, or it could be a transient hormone issue that simply does not affect every cycle or pregnancy. I would guess the latter.

The best solution is to keep trying, to hold on to your faith, your hope, and each other. You have many long years of fertility ahead of you, so gather your courage and keep working on your dream of another child.

  Christy wrote @ April 11, 2008 at 8:43 am

I have recently suffered two miscarriages in 7 months after having two live births. My son is 6 and my daughter just turned 4. I can not understand what the problem is We saw the heartbeat on the last one i lost twice and the baby was doing great and doubling in size every two weeks!!

  Christy wrote @ April 11, 2008 at 8:53 am

Also, I forgot to mention I had to have D&C both times because the the first baby died at 6 weeks but I did not find out until 11 weeks. The second baby died at 9 wks 5 days , but there again, I was 11 weeks along. Both times I have not had any symptoms of Miscarriage. This last time I had a D&C, I had to be rushed to the ER 4 days later after passing huge clots and my DR rushed me up to the OR and had to do another D&C because my uterus was so full of clots!!!!! So, technically I have had 3 D&Cs in 7 months. I am going to a Perinatologist Monday to have some testing done to see if there is a problem before we try again. I am really scared right now. Please pray for us!!!

  flo wrote @ May 13, 2008 at 2:33 pm

I am curious. If you have had a miscarriage in the past before 8 weeks and just saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks and 1 day, what are your loss statistics? are they 5% or higher since you did have a miscarriage prior??

  Jess Rogers wrote @ June 9, 2008 at 11:50 am

Deanna, thank you for putting together these stats. I’m currently on my 3rd pregnancy (no live births). The first was at 4-5 weeks, termed a chemical pregnancy. The 2nd happened at 10.5 weeks, although the baby died at 8.5 weeks after we saw a slow heartbeat…I’m still getting over this one…I should have had Baby Stone last week. I’ll be 13 weeks tomorrow…all looks to be on target…I’m still scared. Mine and my husband’s family don’t understand why I’m not excited yet. They all seem to think that since I’m pregnant again and past the point of the last miscarriage that I should be happy. Well, after miscarriage, pregnancy isn’t a walk in the park! I’ve got my fingers and toes crossed for this one!

  Tash wrote @ June 24, 2008 at 6:05 pm

Sorry to hear of everyones loses.. you never truly know what or how to feel unless a miscarriage happens to you.. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past 10 months. The first was trisomy 16 a boy, I lost at 10.5 weeks… the second also a boy, nothing genetically wrong I lost at 12 weeks 1 day. I also have a beautiful little girl who is now 3 and a bit.. the advice I have been given is to never give up.. because little miracles happen every day!!! So we are just waiting for the all clear from the gyno to start trying again.. so to all the parents out there with empty arms.. keep your heads up and keep on trying even if it is hard… because you will hold a newborn in your arms one day soon.. trust in that.. I sure do!!!

  Trinh wrote @ July 11, 2008 at 6:02 pm

Hi everyone,

I recently had a stillborn birth on July 5th at 11:50 PM. I was induced into labor. My son, Timothy Michael Ho, was 31 weeks and four days. He was 3.3 lbs and 15.5 inches tall. It’s so infortunate and painful for me and my family. I have one healthy little three year old daughter. I am so unfortunate to have experience such a loss. I blame myself and no one else. I feel terrible that life would give us a baby and then all of a sudden take him or her away. It’s just so unfair. Stillborn stat is only 1%. I fell under the 1%. I feel so terrible. I’ve found many support sites online. It’s great to know that everyone is supportive of each other and pray for one another. Please, do not feel alone.

I am so scared to try ever again. This incident has made me want to grow my family. I want a big family now–perhaps a big, big one. Hopefully the universe will bless me with the gift of giving life again.

I go to the docs next week and I will ask about conceiving again. But again, perhaps I am not ready emotionally. I don’t know what I am ready for. I’m scared.

  Amanda wrote @ August 23, 2008 at 10:37 am

II am 21 years old and i had miscarryed yesterday and i am so much better emotionally about it today. I am still bleeding and am having some muscle soreness i dont know if that is normal or not. I want to try agian as soon as possible, i dont know when that will be all though my doctor has told me he wants 2 neg pregnany tests and than after that i could try agian, also within 1 day i went to 2 diffrent obgyns and i was at 6 weeks and 5 days but then the next day when i went to the other obgyn i was at 5 weeks and 4 days then 2 days later my miscarriage happened, was their a defualt in the machines or was that a sign i was going to miscarry soon. also how would i know if i needed a d&c. this was my first pregnancy, is it normal to miscarry your first pregnancy? sorry i just have had so many question and its a saturday so none of my obgyns are in so i wanted to as someone. Thanks
Any other information is also welcome. Thanks agian!

  Deanna wrote @ August 23, 2008 at 6:24 pm

Amanda,

I’m sorry about the loss of your baby.

Let’s see if I can clear up a few things. First, the sonograms. There is a margin of error on measuring babies, so if you went to different ob/gyns on different machines, they could be as much as a week off of each other. But yes, the baby does shrink after it dies, as the water is reabsorbed by your body, leaving just tissue which is easier to pass out the body without as much dilation.

1 in 10 pregnancies miscarry regardless of whether it is the first pregnancy or one later. It’s a very sad thing, but happens an awful lot.

It’s very important not to try to get pregnant again until you have a normal period, which means you haven’t bled for at least 21 days and that you bleed solidly, not just spotting, when you do. That way you know none of the pregnancy tissue is still in your uterus (this is also why they want a couple negative pregnancy tests.) You won’t ovulate until that happens anyway, and it can be frustrating and scary to try again too soon and not know what is happening.

Generally you would know you needed a D&C if the pregnancy tests refuse to go negative, or if you keep spotting blood off and on every few days, which means the body can’t get all the tissue out on its own. This happens sometimes, but not always.

Just do the best you can. It’s a hard road.

  sharon wrote @ September 16, 2008 at 4:45 pm

I recently had 2 miscarriages in 4 months. The first was a blighted ovum at 12 weeks and the last one was a chemical miscarriage at 5 weeks. My doctor encouraged us to start trying right away. I see on your website that you should wait for one period. I asked him if that was necessary and he said no as they can detect from an ultrasound how far along I am. I do want to try again but we have not even gotten the blood work results back yet. Again, he felt that we did not have to wait for the resluts and should just start trying. Anyway, I am confused about what to do. I am 33 and had a DandC with the first and a natural with the 2nd. Any opinions?

  Mindy wrote @ September 16, 2008 at 10:06 pm

I am 28 yrs old. I have 2 beautiful daughters (ages 7 and 8) I got preg with them without trying at all in fact it was completely unexpected. The girls have a different father than the man I am married to now. In Aug of 04 I had a miscarriage at 4 weeks. We were not yet married and the preg was unexpected. I didn’t greve much. I went on several forms of birth control before finally being happy with the Merina IUC. I had it removed this July so we could begin to try to get preg. In my amazement we got preg in Aug. However on Sep 13 I began bleeding and cramping. I went to the DR and he did an Ulta Sound. He told me there was not more evidence of a fetus or sack. I have never cried so much in front of perfect strangers. My husband and I are eager to begin trying again however I’m concerned that we are not compatible baby making machines since my two live births were with a different partner and my husband and I have had two miscarriages even though they were four years apart. Do I need to be worried. Should we be tested. Is it me. I guess I did forget to mention that my second live birth was very complicated. I had a placenta previa and she was delivered at 33 weeks via emergency C-Section. Im so scared and confused. I want more than anything to have another baby.

  Deanna wrote @ September 17, 2008 at 1:22 pm

Sharon, I am going to gently disagree with your doctor. Yes, they can tell how old the baby is by ultrasound–if the baby is growing well.

The problem comes when things are not going well. You are certain you ovulated six weeks ago, but the baby is only measuring four. Now you aren’t sure when you got pregnant. Your doctor thinks he should see a heartbeat, but now everything is in question.

Waiting for a cycle gives you a solid LMP to work with, and there can be no question about the age of the baby and what part of the growth cycle you SHOULD be in, not just what you ARE in. This will give you so much more piece of mind.

At 33, you have plenty of time. Give yourself a little room to get your bearings, your body to settle down, and the hormones to start clicking in the right order. You may not even ovulate this first cycle, and not trying will relieve the pressure of worrying if you are or are not pregnant if you are late.

Hang in there. It’s a long road ahead.

  Deanna wrote @ September 17, 2008 at 1:23 pm

Mindy,

I’m sorry you have been through so much. I doubt very much that what has happened has to do with the compatibility of you and your husband–such an incompatibility is very very rare (and treatable, if it does exist.)

Most people don’t realize that 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. You were so very fortunate to have your first two children so easily. I think it’s perfectly safe to keep trying, since it sounds as though both were early genetic losses, which cannot be predicted or prevented, but usually only relate to that pregnancy and not future one. Since it has happened twice, though, you might ask for basic testing to make sure you don’t have a mild health problem that is affecting your babies now even though you don’t have symptoms yourself. That’s one thing that can make the difference between healthy pregnancies and losses when the two are years apart.

Hang in there. Do the best you can.

  Suzanne wrote @ September 19, 2008 at 4:47 pm

Hi Deanna,
I’ve been meaning to email you for awhile now. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in December. It was my first pregnancy and it was tough for me and my husband. I came across your site while I was trying to understand what had happened and why. You provided a great deal of useful information that helped me through this difficult time. After a few months of grieving, getting back on track menstrually and getting a chicken pox vaccine, we were ready to try again. I bought an ovulation monitor because my BBTs didn’t seem to make sense anymore, but it wasn’t until July when we tried your “Sperm meets egg” plan – and we got pregnant that month (I am 11 weeks today)!

I just wanted to thank you for helping me through a difficult time and helping us get pregnant again – we are praying daily for a healthy pregnancy this time. You’ve helped a lot of people and I wanted you to know that you have helped one more very appreciate woman.

Thanks!

  Deanna wrote @ September 21, 2008 at 1:16 pm

Wow! Congratulations on the new baby on the way.

Let’s see, names for the baby…Dee Anna, Deann, D’Ann.

:)

Have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy.

  Christine Jack wrote @ October 7, 2008 at 8:54 am

I am 24 years old and had a blighted ovum pregnancy in april of this year, this was my first pregnancy. I had no bleeding and it was diagnosed by scan. I then had a medical evac through personal choice. I am now pregnant again I am 6 wks today have had no bleeding, but am so anxious I will have another blighted ovum, I am going for an early scan in a few weeks but I am so worried this will happen again what is the likelihood of this?

  stephanie wrote @ October 24, 2008 at 9:08 pm

I am 26 years old and had a miscarriage early this year ( 2008) and I was completley broken by the experience. I have two small girls ages 2 and 3 and I am trying for another before I am “done”. I am now pregnant again, 9 weeks 2 days and I am just so scaired!!! Every time I use the restroom I am terrafied to see blood (tmi I apologise) and I am just wondering if anybody knows the stats for miscarriage? like, at what week am I in the clear?

  Lauren wrote @ November 14, 2008 at 3:56 pm

These stories truelu touch my heart. I just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I have a healthy 4 year old son from a previous marriage and now my husband and I are so sad by losing our baby. Since Ive had one healthy baby and this was this FIRST time my husband and I tried, (we got pregnant on our honeymoon) how long should we wait to try again?? I had a dnc and Im still bleeding but I just want to get over this and try again without harming the next baby. please pray for us!!

  Danielle wrote @ December 9, 2008 at 6:53 pm

Dear Deanna,

These statistics are so much more optimistic than my GP told me. I’m five weeks, and she told me I have a 25% per cent chance of miscarriage.

This is my first pregnancy, and I was already scared, so for her to tell me these odds was quite upsetting. I thought- based on what I’d read that it was more like 15 per cent.

It’s causing problems with my husband because he wants me to be happy and excited, and I’m too scared to even think about a baby with these odds.

Why is there so much variation in stats?

Thank-you,

Danielle

  Emma wrote @ December 19, 2008 at 4:53 pm

I’m the mother of a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I had a healthy pregnancy and great (although very long) birth with her. Since her arrival, I became divorced and met a new man who I now share my life with. He and I have suffered through 3 missed miscarriages. We’re about to start trying again but I admit, I am terrified. My doctor, though helpful, feels that I am healthy and should be able to produce healthy pregnancies and children and will not offer any blood work to us because he is unsure if my second miscarriage really WAS a miscarriage (I know it was). Anyway, I’m pretty scared and just have this feeling now that I’ll never be able to have children with my fiance. Could there be some reason for our multiple miscarriages? Are we incompatible in that respect? I really need some advice.

  Denna wrote @ December 24, 2008 at 11:30 am

Please help, I was just told that I miscarriaged for a third time. I went to get an untrasound to find out if it was a boy or girl and there was no heartbeat. I miscarried 6months ago and I was 6 weeks along. I have one healthy boy who i had no problems with. Can someone please tell me if they have ever gon ethrough this. I am having a really hard time.

  Donny wrote @ January 8, 2009 at 2:18 pm

My fiancee and I suffered a miscarriage about 2 months ago (early September 08) and the effect, as some of you may know, was devastating. This was the first pregnancy for both of us. Apparently, the miscarriage happened around 7 weeks, not knowing this, and we had our first ultrasound at 12 weeks only to be given this terrible news. Now, 2.5 months later, we’re pregnant again. As happy as I am, I’m really trying to not think of it or to get to excited due to the fear of losing this one too. I feel bad for my lack of excitement, but I cannot go through that pain again. These stats are optimistic (we’re at 5 weeks) Any advice on how to cope? I’m so scared to one, lose this child, but to also never be able to have a child. My fiancee is 34 going on 35 and I know her window of possibility is closing fast. I’d like at least 2 kids and hoping for 4. Thanks.

  Hannah wrote @ February 23, 2009 at 2:47 pm

So I’m assuming that a lot of mothers typically worry about miscarrying. I have dreams about it, well.. only one. I have my fingers crossed and am saying my prayers, definitely. I am 9 weeks 2 days and am praying for this to hurry up! I want to hold my bundle of joy :)

  Daisy wrote @ March 4, 2009 at 7:01 pm

I had a chemical pregnancy at 5 weeks–does this count as a “first pregnancy” when looking at the statistics for miscarriage?

  heather wrote @ March 14, 2009 at 12:26 pm

your information is so clear and comprehensive – thank you for posting it all. i (gratefully) have had two healthy prgenancies, resulting in two healthy children ( 4.5 years and 10 months).

we just found out i am pregnant with number 3 (EDD 11.14.09). so ii’m about 5 weeks along. (no us or dr visit yet.)

what are the risks for miscarriage, and also for stillbirth, for third pregnancies when i’ve never had a chemical, ectopic or miscarried pregnancy?

i almost feel like i’m increasing my odds because i’ve only landed on the favorable outcome side. is that irrational or statistically probable?

thanks so much!

  Keyonda wrote @ May 27, 2009 at 9:09 pm

I am 27 years old and I have 3 children 2years old, 4 years old, and 11years old all born at 40 weeks with no complications. However my last 2 pregnancies have resulted in miscarries, the 1st one the babies heart stopped at 6 weeks but I didn’t find out it stopped until I was 14 weeks and the 2nd one I was 20 weeks. I’m now married and trying to concieve. How likely do you think it would be for me to have one more full term baby?

  leeann wrote @ June 20, 2009 at 11:43 pm

hi i just had a couple questions i have 2 beautiful children who are 2 and 4 and they were both unexpected and when my 2 yr ol was 4 months i became pregnant again i ended up getting an abortion at 15wks that was in march and then in june i became pregnant again and had a miscarriage in august this was my 1st miscarriage i became pregnant again in october and had a miscarriage on thanksgiving i was worried that my fertility was sacraficed due to the abortion so i asked my dr she felt my cervix and then told me everything felt fine but i am still worried what are my chances of a 3rd miscarriages and when should i really push for further testing of my fertility

  Cheryl Fleming wrote @ June 22, 2009 at 2:59 am

I completely understand the sadness and nervousness of trying to conceive and carry another pregnancy. I went through so much saddness with my loses and fear that I would never carry a pregnancy to full term. Friends, family and doctors told me to keep trying and I felt they were heartless. In hindsight, their advise was correct…….. I’m now a mother to two wonderful children 6 and 3 years old and two angels in heaven.. (No heartbeat at 16 week appointment, Michael Anna died at 14.5 weeks & Ezra died at 6 weeks.) Keep trying, God will find a way to put a child into your arms.

  Preet wrote @ September 23, 2009 at 3:00 pm

I had ectopic pregnancy in May 09 and doctors have to removed my left tube. After that my periods were normall but this month it started too soon and its almost two week I am bleeding. It was my first pregnancy, I am so dispressed and worry that whether am I going to concieve again or not. I went to doctor yesterday and she don’t know why I am bleeding, it might be I am not ovulating on time or it can be b’coz of my Thyroid. She will do Hystosalpingogram to see my other tube is opened. Fingers crossed until then.

  amanda t. wrote @ September 24, 2009 at 2:15 pm

I am 24 yrs old and am in the military. I recently(AUG,1,2009)had my third miscarriage. I am completely in the dark as to why this keeps happening to me. My husband wants to have a baby more than anything,but I am terrified to try again.Where I am currently located they dont offer any testing to help me find out what could be causing this to happen.Not to mention my job and those appointed over me couldnt be more insensative if they tried. I had 3 days to get over it and nobody who understood or even really cared(besides my husband) and my family is thousands of miles away. I am still in mourning by myself and in severe depression behind closed doors.I dont even bring it up to my hubby anymore.I am truly devastated and I just dont think I could take this pain again.At least I know I am not alone,but sadly that doesnt ease this pain.Maybe babies and I just werent meant to be.The stats certainetly aren’t in my favor. God please help me:(

  Kara wrote @ October 13, 2009 at 2:25 pm

I had a miscarriage at 4 weeks on Aug 24th, 2009 and then found out I was pregnant again at the end of September. I am now 6weeks today. Our first u/s showed a gestational sac, yolk sac, and fetal pole, but no heart beat yet. I’m so scared about going in for the 2nd u/s in 2 weeks and still not seeing a heartbeat. Now that I know there is a fetal pole have my chances of a miscarriage dropped at all?

  Stacey wrote @ November 8, 2009 at 2:20 pm

I have had 3 chemical pregnancies (2 ending at 16-17 days past Ovulation and the last a little past 5weeks while taking 100mg of Prometrium) I have 1 son (almost 4 who was conceived and carried full term no problem) I am now 36. I am confused if these early losses are considered to be “normal” as in the 75% statistic range or because my period came a couple days late is it more unusual and is there probably something wrong??

  Melissa wrote @ December 22, 2009 at 12:35 pm

If you’ve had a few miscarriages. I would get a full blood work up done. I had 4 early miscarriages found out I have 3 blood clotting factors…put me on lovenox and now I am coming along with this pregnancy: )

  Whitney wrote @ March 1, 2010 at 8:36 pm

So i was just told today i am 6 weeks pregnant. ive had an iud in for a little over a year and now want it to be removed. i would like the stats for miscarriage for my situation please.

  samantha wrote @ March 3, 2010 at 2:22 am

hi im 25 years old two days ago lost my baby at 16 weeks, im absolutely gutted beyond despair. I want to try desperately for another but cant held but think itll keep happening. Anyadvice would be greatfulxx

  Helen wrote @ March 5, 2010 at 8:04 am

I had an ectopic pregnancy in September, and preg again in Jan, just want to reassure other women who have had one that it doesn’t necessarily reduce your fertility massively. My Dr said that as my other tube was healthy and I had no underlying probs such as endometriosis or infection, any impact on my fertility was insignificant. Your body is amazing and adjusts, Dr said you are likely to only ovulate from side of tube as the fallopian tube releases chemicals that stimulate the ovary and in any case your tube can reach round to the other ovary. I hope this helps other women recovering from ectopic pregnancy.

  Rachel wrote @ March 12, 2010 at 7:05 pm

Thank you so much for the stats, I have had 3 M/Cs in the past and am now 9w5d pregnant. None of my past pregnancies went past 8 weeks so I am very hopeful! My doctor did a full blood workup for me at about 6 weeks but there was nothing they could find that would have caused the past M/Cs. I get an U/S every 1-2 weeks (I’ve had 3 already started at 6w1d) and next tuesday I’m meeting with the high risk specialist for the first time. I haven’t heard the heartbeat yet but I saw the heartbeat the last 2 U/S’s that I had! Wish me luck on Tuesday, I’m so nervous!!!

  Crystal wrote @ June 8, 2010 at 9:15 am

HI! I feel like I am a hopeless emotional mess right now. I do thank god for my blessing, a 3 year old beautiful girl who was born in 2007. When I was pregnant with her, I went full-term (even over-term) and had no complications, except during delivery. When I was delivering the placenta, my uterus inverted. The doctor was able to place it back and everything was fine. I suffered a miscarriage in Oct. 2009 at 8 weeks because the yolk sak was not growing at the same rate the baby was, therefore the baby stopped growing. We tried again and found out we were pregnant in April. I then just found out (in June) that I had miscarried again at 10 weeks. The yolk sak looked normal but the baby had no heartbeat. The doctor suggested that perhaps by protestergone (forgive my spelling) levels were to low to maintain the pregnancies and when we conceive again, they will test for that. Otherwise she said I could see a fertility specialist but I don’t really know if that’s the way to go since I have had one healthy pregnancy. What are my chances of suffering another miscarriage? Two in a row has left me in an emotional mess. After one, I was fearful everyday that I would begin spotting,etc. and it makes it difficult when those fears are confirmed. What would you suggest? Should I see a fertility specialist or just try again when it’s time and hope for the best. My husband and I want nothing more than to add another member to complete our family. Thanks!

  Jennifer wrote @ July 14, 2010 at 1:08 am

In the last 1 1/2 my husband and I have lost 4 pregnancies, 8 weeks, chemical, ectopic, and 5 1/2 weeks. We have done all the testing and our RE cannot find a reason. He is suggesting that we continue trying IVF with our frozen embryos (which look great by the way) because he says there are women who go on to have babies from this.We are scheduled for another cycle next month because we have all the embryos waiting, but it all just seems so useless.

  Ashley wrote @ July 27, 2010 at 5:30 pm

Hi, my name is ashley im from memphis, TN and at the age of 14 I had a miscarriage. I know you probably thinking low of me but I wasn’t having sex I was raped. me and my husband now have been married only a year we got engaged at prom lol, but now he is ready for a child well we’re ready for a child and i can’t conceive, I’ve tried asking my doctor what can i do but she always tells me ” oh honey your just not ready” but i am. lol gosh is it because of my miscarriage? Then my cyles are soooo abnormal like just this year i’ve only had two cycles and that was april the first one which lasted a whole three weeks, then again in june two days crazy right? so I’ve tried birthcontrol to regulate it all i got were blood clots. WHAT DO I DO?????

  Carly wrote @ August 19, 2010 at 3:04 am

Hi there, I have recently found out that I am pregnant but last month I had a miscarriage, about a year ago I had an abortion and I already have one 2 year old boy. My concern is that this pregnancy is going to end in miscarriage i’m taking a daily dose of folic acid and omega 3 knowing that folic acid decreases the chances of having a miscarriage but would you say I’m at an increased chance of having a miscarriage with the abortion and that or do you reckon my mild back pain and lower stomach pains are all normal? I may just be worrying too much. Thanks for the useful website though! =]

  NANA wrote @ September 29, 2010 at 10:59 am

So I am 8 weeks 3 days pregnant. This is my second pregnancy. My first Pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 5 weeks. O spotted twice with this pregnancy freaking me out and rushing myself to the doctors. Last week when i spotted i went to the doctors for an ultrasound saw the heart beat 128bmp and 10mm for 7 weeks 2 days. However even after seeing all of these good signs even the slightest cramp scares me. I am more stressed out then I have ever been. I get nervous every time i go to the bathroom. I think its just hard because i had a miscarriage back in April and I fear it happening again. I get cramps here and there and i have tender breasts but other then that i really haven’t experienced any pregnant symptoms. So thats not really relaxing the situation

  Kayla wrote @ October 3, 2010 at 10:18 pm

I love your site. It is very informative. I am on my 4th pregnancy (one living and healthy, 2 ectopic.) I am 8 weeks tommarrow. From the beginning of this pregnancy I was sure that it was an ectopic. I had the same symptoms as I did with the last two. However, we have had five Sonograms in a 5 week period and each time they say everything looks good. Baby is in uterus and hr of 145bpm. My second tubal was crazy. It happened 4 months ago, and it just so happened to be on the same side as my first tubal, crazy thing is that the dr. Who took care of me the first time took out 3/4th of that tube. We were devastated As to be expected. I 100% agree with every piece of information that is on this site.

  Tana wrote @ October 17, 2010 at 5:21 am

Please can you help me. I had 1 mmc, a healthy pregnancy which resulted in my DD, then another mmc, and just Friday a natural (but incomplete) mc. I think there is something wrong with me now. I bled through both miscarried pregnancies even after seeing a heartbeat (6 weeks). I am going to ask for hormone and immune system testing…you don’t mention low estrogen as a cause of miscarriage, can this also be a cause? Also I have been told I have a “non fussy” womb because I get pregnant so quickly, is this likely the reason I keep miscarrying?

  Nella Rajpaul wrote @ October 23, 2010 at 1:57 pm

I am looking for some statistics and hope someone might be able to answer for me. I have two daughters (one born when I was 30, the other when I was 34). This past January, when I was 37, I had a missed miscarriage. We were lucky enough to get pregnant within a few months after this, but at age 38, I gave birth to my son, who was stillborn (I was 31 wks pregnant) with no known causes. I am looking for statistics on the chance of this happening again. We want to try again, but are afraid of another stillbirth. It is extremely heartbreaking to go through this and don’t want to put the family (including our daughters) through this again. Thanks!

  Sarah wrote @ November 4, 2010 at 3:48 am

I would like to challenge your statistics for recurrent miscarriages of 4 or more with no live births i.e. me.
Your source says nothing in regards to these numbers. That is a very scary statistic and for people in my situation you would hope you don’t throw them out without serious thought and a real source.

  Deanna wrote @ November 4, 2010 at 8:42 am

Sarah, I’m so sorry you are in this situation. You do have to get yourself ready for the struggle, and the main point of these statistics on recurring with no live births is that you can’t go it alone anymore–women in this situation must find the very best doctor possible to help or they will have little or no success in carrying a pregnancy to term. Does it happen without help? Sure. Most likely after a prolonged period after the last loss, when the body seems to adjust or change. But that is still rare.

My footnotes show this source, which still holds up, and is fairly typical among doctors who treat only this type of pregnancy, rather than sources that are for more general pregnancies. http://www.rialab.com/miscarriages_prevented.php

And you’ll see that with many types of recurring problems, without treatment, the success rate is 0%. With treatment, it’s going to vary from clinic to clinic, and many times their success rate numbers are called into question (especially when they somehow climb higher than the national average for women without a history.)

Most books and web sites refuse to give statistics at all. (In Scher’s book, he vacillates on single miscarriages from 10% to 20% to 30%). I chose to put these up after reading all those books, and web sites, and sources both credible and perhaps padded (such as clinics) because women want to know something, anything that helps them cope, even if the news is hard. It was a choice I made, even thought statistics are just numbers and will vary from source to source.

I hope you find a doctor that is responsive to you, that uncovers what is going on, and can get the baby you want so much. Take care.

  marie wrote @ November 14, 2010 at 1:28 am

I have one boy who is 3 and had a great pegnancy with him and got prego easy and right of way. I have had four misscarages in the last year in a row. I have had testing done and everything has come back good at this point. I am going to count my blessing my son is healthy and I have him. I am at this point done and not going to have any other kids but will be happy with what I have.

  Jana wrote @ November 19, 2010 at 6:30 am

Our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage around 6 weeks, but I did not know that I had lost the baby until 8 weeks. We then went on to have two healthy boys, full term. We recently found out we were pregnant again (a surprise). My sono at 7 weeks confirmed the pregnancy and we even saw the heartbeat. I began bleeding at 8.5 weeks and my sono yesterday confirmed that we had miscarried just shy of 8 weeks

What now? Do we have a 50/50 chance of staying pregnant if we decide to try and have another child?

On a side note, I was surprised at how different I’m emotionally dealing with my two miscarriages. The first miscarriage, I was so terrifed of not being able to get pregnant and experience the joy of a baby. This second miscarriage, I long to hold my lost child. I was fortunate enough to experience the love of a child with my previous pregnancies and it hurts so much to lose this baby. I didn’t know if other women who have experienced multiple miscarriages felt the different “tug” emotionally.

I have my followup sono today to confirm that the baby passed, which I know I passed the baby yeserday. I feel fortunate to have completed my miscarriage at home and we will bury our little one. Quite the rollercoaster of emotions.

  Meaghan wrote @ December 16, 2010 at 6:26 pm

Hi All.

I just had my second miscarriage. Both ended at around 6 weeks. I am wondering if I should see a fertility doctor this time around or just keep trying. Does two miscarriages in a row mean my body can’t do it on its own?

I am feeling like such a failure right now.

  Lori wrote @ January 2, 2011 at 2:04 pm

Hi Everyone,

I am saddened to read about all of your losses but I can definitely relate. I have one beautiful 2 and a half year old son and since him I have had 2 miscarriages…both very early..6 weeks or so.

My latest m/c was 6 weeks ago. I had a D&C and just got my first period since the m/c.

My hubby and I are gonna try the “sperm meets egg” plan this cycle and see what happens. I was wondering if anyone has any success stories from trying this plan??? I could really use some positivity..haha.

Good luck ladies!

  taryn wrote @ January 19, 2011 at 12:12 am

Hi. I’m writing because back in 2007 I miscarried and did not know I was pregnant. I miscarried w/ my ex husband. I am now engaged and my fiance and I got pregnant. I was 6 weeks along and I miscarried. My blood type is O negative and my fiance’s is O positive. At the E.R., I was given a shot called RhoGam. I’m not sure if I miscarried because I never received this shot the first miscarriage or not. Also, I’m not sure if having a different partner has a factor in this or not? I used to have trouble w/ my ovaries (I had cysts almost as large as my ovaries), but at the E.R. they told me my ovaries looked beautiful and they could see no cysts. My fiance and I want to try again right away. Do you think my chances are better now that I have had the RhoGam shot and that helps prevent my body from fighting off the baby’s red blood cells if it just so happens to be RH positive? I am just so devastated at this loss. It is so hard to explain the love I had for something growing inside of me that I had never met. I just want answers. Thank you and I look forward to your feed back.

  Sarah wrote @ April 24, 2011 at 6:37 am

Hello I am 20 years old and I am now 11 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage at 19 weeks and 6 days (1 day short to be called a stillborn)!! My miscarriage was odd I had no waters and no blood and had a amazing little boy called Kai. I was only 16 years old when I lost my son and it was a different man then this pregnancy (however my ex has just had a healthy boy 3 days ago at 8.1). I refused at the time to let them do an autopsy so I do not know the real reason for loosing him. As at the time I was constipated and thought I was going to toilet when I push out a tiny foot! As a result my doctors questioned a weak cervix and are measuring my length soon to see if I need a stitch this time round. I
am terrified that history will repeat itself and would like to know if the stats are different for a second miscarriage if the first was almost 20 weeks!! My GP just thinks that it was rotten bad luck and I’ll be fine this time, but I can’t help but worry. Please help me!!

  Rochelle wrote @ May 24, 2011 at 2:39 pm

I keep reading these over and over again. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks 3 days and I will be 5 weeks pretty soon again. I just want to get to six weeks. I think then I will be able to breath easy and not worry so much. It’s weird, because 10% seems so small when you’ve never had a miscarriage, but once you’ve had one it seems like you are doomed to have another. It’s so scary! This is the last time I’m trying, I’m done being worried and scared like this, it’s terrible :(

  shel wrote @ June 3, 2011 at 4:16 am

Hi I have had a still birth at 5 months. It was the worst thing having to give birth to our dead baby boy. This was our first pregnancy and the tests done all seem to be negative. What could have caused this? Is there a chance of this happening again? Or can one go on to have a healthy baby? Thanks

  Patricia Maynard wrote @ June 27, 2011 at 7:46 am

I have 3 living healthy children, I am 29 years old and I just had my first misscarriage last month. Now I am pregnant again early one and found out I have overian cyst in both my overies what shoule I do. Should I go ahead and have an abortion before I lose this child or have my health get worse and maybe ever if the child would have deformaties or something would be wrong with the child if I could have it? Please need advise as soon as possible. Thanks

  Kay wrote @ July 1, 2011 at 3:42 pm

Hi, I’ve had 4 miscarriages in a space of 1 year or so. After my 3rd miscarriage I was given tests but they were all negative, and I was told that my miscarriages were down to badluck. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant and terrified. I am on high dose folic acid and low dose aspirin. I have never got this far before and I keep thinking I will miscarry. Even today, I couldn’t find the baby’s heartbeat with my doppler and I think I have lost it. It is horrible feeling like this. I just want to enjoy this pregnancy, but I can’t…how can I if I don’t even know if my baby is alive inside me….

  nancy wrote @ September 28, 2011 at 10:50 am

well i have reached breaking point, i have tried for a baby for over 3 years now and with all my three pragnancies i miscarried. My first pregnancy i had a still birth in early labour when i was 4 months, my second i miscarried at 3 months and my recent pragnacy i miscarried this week at 3 weeks. I feel hopeless; as i thought it would be easy for me and my partner to conceive because he is 24 yrs old and i am 23.

  Melissa wrote @ October 24, 2011 at 10:22 pm

Close to ten years ago I had a ectopic pregnancy that resulted in the emergency removal of my left fallopian tube (it ruptured). Over the course of 2-3 years I became pregnant and miscarried 4 times. It’s been nearly 7 years and I have not been pregnant. Today I took a home pregnancy test and it was positive. I went in for the Beta HCG test and will return again on Wednesday. I’m just wondering what the likelihood that this time things might be okay? Long shot…I’m hopeful but it’s sort of subdued hope.

  Gemma wrote @ December 2, 2011 at 7:55 am

I have had two miscarriages in 8 cycles. One a chemical pregnancy at 7 weeks and second at 9.5 weeks with what appeared to be a healthy pregnancy (doubling hcg and progesterone at 47) but the fetal pole stopped growing and didn’t develop a heartbeat. I am hoping that both of these were caused by random chromosomal issues and we are trying again. I am having some blood tests for low progesterone as I came off the pill and found that I had a 9 day luteul phase. This has now readjusted to 11 days with a 28 day cycle. My skin is the worst it has ever been but its not linked to polycystic ovary syndrome. The hospital won’t do the full set of tests unless I have a third miscarriage but have said that I can access progesterone, baby aspirin and 5mg dose of folic acid next time I get pregnant. I am waiting for the results of the blood tests. I am paranoid that my progesterone is low and I won’t develop a strong enough corpus luteum and will miscarry again. Its difficult not knowing if my miscarriages were random or caused by something specific. I have some progesterone cream but don’t really want to use it – I’d prefer to see what happens. I have faith that this is a natural process and I need to settle in for the long haul and let my body figure it out. At the same time, I am taking 1200mcg of folic acid and 75mg baby aspirin to do what I can and having regular accupuncture, eating, exercising well etc. What a confusing and emotional rollercoaster.

  Sami wrote @ December 29, 2011 at 10:18 pm

We recently lost our baby boy at 20 weeks over Thanksgiving weekend. It was the most tragic and horrific experience of my life. My husband and I are working through everything together and I appreciate his support so much. I want to commend you on this website. As a healthcare professional, knowing and understanding a lot causes a high level of anxiety. Your website has a way of calming me down. It’s realistic yet empathic. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are helping so many people and without this resource, I’d be in a much darker place. Wishing good thoughts and multiple babies for everyone.

  Emily wrote @ February 25, 2012 at 4:12 am

Just found out yesturday that the baby has died at 7weeks. i dont know why but am just not believing my doc. i want to go for another scan again 2day to confirm the results.
is it even possible for me to find diffrent results?

  Anxious&hurt wrote @ February 25, 2012 at 7:34 pm

In November of 2011 I suffered a miscarriage at 17 weeks. When I found out I was pregnant I was bleeding (although not as heavy as a normal period) they told me I was fine despite a mild case of bc which they decided not to treat. I bled every month when I normally would get my period, which I heard it happens in some pregnancys. Then the third time I saw blood I decided I needed to make sure. I went to the er where they felt my cervix and it was closed. I also had an u/s and found out my angel was a boy. They told me bleeding happens and to rest. If anything got worse come back. I went home and my fiancé, my mother and I started to come up for theames for a baby shower and names. I started to get a real bad cramp as I was sitting there. Then I felt a snap and I instantly felt my plug come out. We rushed to the ER and I was told it was too late. The baby had entered the birth canal and it was too late. That was approximately 3 hours AFTER they told me my baby boy was fine. Landon Robert Dunn never got to take his first breath. After testing they concluded that the baby besides being too little to survive, was perfectly normal. It made me feel like a failure because my baby boy was perfect. It was my fault. My body’s fault. I had failed him. They never really gave me an answer or a reason. They just said next time I’ll be a high risk pregnancy and that I should get a stitch to prevent my cervix from opening again. 3 months later we are still healing. It gets a little easier everyday but I will never forget my baby boy and te joy he brought to my life. Even if it was just for a short 17 weeks. Now 2 months from my due date and despite me taking birth control pills we are expecting again! I’m actually due around the same time I had my miscarriage. We are at about week 5 now and it’s so early I don’t want to get excited. I couldn’t go through that heart break again. Especially so soon. This time there is no bleeding once so ever. This being only 3 months since my miscarriage and d&c is my body ready to carry again? And if so what are the chances of carrying to full term. It happened so late in the pregnancy last Time who’s to say it won’t happen again? I just moved cross country so I’m still working on insurance issues and getting a OB doctor that deals with high risk pregnancys. I was seen at the er and everything looks good so far. They said the fact I’m not bleeding is a good sign. Are they right? Can I believe them and relax a little or is nothing safe until I’m almost full term? Please help!!! -anxious&hurt

  haleema shadan wrote @ March 17, 2012 at 2:08 pm

Hi, I’ve had 3 miscarriages in a space of 2 year or so. After my 3rd miscarriage I was given tests but they were all negative, and I was told that my miscarriages were down to badluck. I am currently 1 weeks pregnant and terrified. I have never got this far before and I keep thinking I will miscarry. Even today, I couldn’t find the baby’s heartbeat with my doppler and I think I have lost it. It is horrible feeling like this. I just want to enjoy this pregnancy, but I can’t…how can I if I don’t even know if my baby is alive inside me….

  claire wrote @ March 21, 2012 at 7:23 am

Well I myself hav had 2 miscarriages 1 last august an where I was 15 wks an had a traumatic an shockin mc an then in jan this year I found out I was expecting again which I was very very happy about bt goin 4 my 12 wk scan there was no heartbeat an the baby died @ 10 wks 5 days which was heart breakin an again I feel like a failure. I had a minor op to et the baby out lost a lot of blood bt was ok an went home the same day wiv cramps an minor bleedin! I am jus soooo sad by all this it is heart breakin 4 me an my partner an I jus want to start tryin again asap as that’s alll I want more than ever is a baby to hold I thought this tome was gonna be diffrent bt was nt meant to be ! I had my op 5 days ago an jus wann start tryin again asap an I pray to god I gt to carry my nxt baby full term good luck to all u ladys wiv ur tryin tooo let’s all keep our heads up @ these low low partys of life .xx

  claire wrote @ March 21, 2012 at 7:30 am

Any advice or stories that hav a happy endin will be d to hear as I jus need to no weather any1 else has ggone on to hav a healthy baby strait after 2 mcs xxxx

  Anna wrote @ April 10, 2012 at 4:34 pm

To Claire:
I have a happy ending story (so far). My first pregnancy (at 29) resulted in a miscarriage (for no apparent reason) which cleaned out naturally, no intervention was necessary. We were advised to wait three full cycles, but I got pregnant after my first period. Our fantastic little girl is almost 1 year old now, she is amazing, her development, both physical and intellectual, is a real pleasure to look at – she’s way ahead all other children of her age. So hang in there, girls!
Now I’m pregnant again (4 weeks), and I must admit I’m almost as anxious as I was after my first miscarriage – it is so hard to forget. I hope we have a healthy pregnancy.
God bless you all.

  A.W. wrote @ May 1, 2012 at 7:15 pm

I am 35. My boyfriend is 45. I got pregnant at the end of October 2011, miscarried around Thanksgiving (November) 2011 at 5 weeks. My cycle returned in January. I got pregnant again around April 13-15 and went to the bathroom today…blood. I am about a day shy of being 5 weeks :( This will be the third miscarriage (I had one in 2005 at 5 weeks). I want to have at least one more child, but at this point it seems like I may not be able to sustain a pregnancy. I have a 9 year old and a 4 year old, so I’ve had live births before. Just wanted to share my story.

  Dee wrote @ May 28, 2012 at 1:55 pm

Ive had 4 m/c’s in a row starting from june 2007 to may 2010. My husband and I had all the testing done after the 3rd m/c. Everything came back normal and I was told it was bad luck. Then a year later I m/c for the 4th time and I was sure I just couldn’t have children. Then in december of 2010 I found out I was pregnant for the 5th time. Started bleeding at 6.5 weeks. But the bleeding only lasted 4 days so I went in for an u/s at 8 weeks. I saw my babys heartbeat for the first time, which was something I had never experienced before. My son was born 3 days after my due date perfectly big healthy. The point of my story is. NEVER GIVE UP! (Currently 6 weeks pregnant with number 2 and extremely hopeful)

  Janine wrote @ June 15, 2012 at 12:20 am

8 pregnancies. 2 live births.
Currently 9 weeks pregnant with HB @ 170

Looking good this time.

I have had a lot of miscarriages BUT I am proof that it is still possible :) Keep your chin up guys :)

  Dee wrote @ June 25, 2012 at 12:15 am

Janine, have testing done? In what order did your births and losses come? Like m/c live birth m/c m/c..

  Melinda wrote @ July 5, 2012 at 12:50 pm

I am a mother of one beautiful 5 year old little girl. I stopped taking birth control pills because i had gained 35 pounds that I didn’t want to keep. My husband and i decided we would use the pull out method because we had effectively used it for 6 years before conceiving our daughter. However the next month on fathers day we found out we would be a family of four, and our daughter would get what she wished on the stars for, her own little baby. However a week later I started having horrible cramps and some red spotting, we went to the ER and they said my HCG was 138 so I was no more than 4 weeks pregnant. This was on a Thursday so I had to wait until Monday for another HCG check, and I waited all day dreading what they would call and say. No matter what positive things I was trying to think I already felt like the baby was gone. I never knew how emotionally draining this would be and my heart truly goes out to women who have to experience it once, let alone multiple times. All I can think of is weather or not we will be lucky enough to be blessed with another healthy child. I go to see a midwife on Monday and hope she can ease some of my fears. The part that breaks my heart the most is we told our daughter. She is ex tactic and keeps asking if the baby loves my pancakes or if its watching the movie with us. Neither I nor my husband can bare to break the news to her. :( I hope I can be brave enough to try again!!

  Kylie wrote @ August 1, 2012 at 1:00 am

Hi – I am not sure if anyone can give me some advice – my story is a little long so if you manage to make it through thank you for your time.

My husband and started IVF in 2008 for genetic testing purposes (he has a rare condition that we were hoping to not passion to our kids). At 32 and with no known fertility issues the drs believed I would be pregnant in no time. After 6 cycles, of which we only got to transfer twice due to my poor egg quality and low ovarian reserve, we had pretty much given up. After starting our 7th cycle a blood test picked my lh surge and lo and behold we conceived naturally. When my little girl was 6 months and despite fully Breastfeeding my periods returned. One month later we decided to try again naturally – my son was born 8 months later. He is now 15 months and several months ago we started ttc our 3rd – in April we got our bfp only to miscarry at 8 weeks – bubs had stopped growing at 5 1/2 weeks. The miscarriage was natural and seemed complete – bled for 10 days – after a couple of weeks I took a first response early hpt to check that my hcg was back to 0 – it came up negative – roughly when my period was due I took another test and got a feint line – testing every day for the next week the line got darker then suddenly became feint and af arrived 5 weeks after my miscarriage started. Thinking I may have conceived again and had a chemical pregnancy I went to the drs and had a bt – hcg was 0. That month when my period was due I again tested positive with the line getting darker every morning for several mornings only to then become feint and af to show up gain a few days late. So now I have had 3 early (very) miscarriages in a row and am wondering if something is wrong. I feel so confused after my history – any thoughts would be appreciated

  Dee wrote @ August 6, 2012 at 1:59 am

Well, I lost my 5th child a couple of weeks after my first post. 6 pregnancies 5 losses. I hate that this is “normal” for me and that I actually have come to expect it. I hate that I can’t be excited to find out iam pregnant like everyone else around me. I hate feeling like a dud. I hate letting my husband down (even though he would never say he was). I hate being that person ppl feel sorry for. And most of all I hate feeling sorry for myself. But the truth is, I will keep trying because I can’t give up on my next miracle. It happened once and it will happen again. Never give up and stay strong ladies, just remember you are not alone :-)

  Jamie wrote @ October 8, 2012 at 3:52 am

Hiya I had a miscarriage when I was 16 since then I had 2 children and 3 months ago I had a ectopic pregnancy they removed my left Fallopian tube and told me my other tube was unhealthy and thatbi had 5% chance of having a baby I found out the other day I was pregnant and I must be 4 weeks as that’s the only time I had sex after my ectopic pregnancy I had no pain or anything last time or bleeding and the same this time I’m so scared has and one experienced this before as I really carnt go thro surgery again thanks

  Mom2bee wrote @ December 5, 2012 at 2:50 pm

Is the miscarriage rate higher is someone who is disabled? I didn’t see anything on this site for pregnancy with disability. I am a paraplegic and just found out I am about 8-9 weeks pregnant. Nerve wracking. Just wondering if there is any facts or info I can read up on.

  tiffany wrote @ December 23, 2012 at 12:52 pm

I have had 2 live births my first was 25 weeks early during my 2nd pregnancy I bled a lot and heavy passing big clots but I still had a healthy baby boy in july I found out I was pregnant 3 yrs after I had my youngest child in july I had a dnc because I miscarried I was bleeding kinda heavy passing decent sice clots and tissues 3 months later I’m pregnant again I started spotting had a ultra sound internal 2 weeks ago measured about 6-7 weeks hr of 125-127 in still bleeding a very little my ovaries feel sore n I passed tissue bout the size of a dime I’m not bleeding as much as I was when I had my previous miscarriage or passing any clots n not in hardly any pain my ovaries jus feel sore and I always have problems with cysts on my ovaries what’s is going on? Am I having a miscarriage again? I go for another ultra sound tomorrow I’m jus really nervous and scared is this a miscarriage?

  Anika wrote @ January 16, 2013 at 6:46 pm

I just had my first miscarriage after one child.
When I brought up that my Husband and I would be trying again asap. The Dr. stated, “Well you can pretty much count on having another miscarriage because women who have had one miscarriage pretty much have a second”….
I was STUNNED! What a rude you-know-what/and callous, I just miscarriage 2 days ago. She wasn’t a OB/GYN but still! That’s what I get for being on county insurance, next time I should be able to get medicaid. I guess she also thinks that anyone over 35 shouldn’t get pregnant either, she stated, “Well you DO know you’re HIGH RISK don’t you?!?!” RUDE!!!!!!!!

  dawnlougib wrote @ February 18, 2013 at 5:52 pm

I have 3 healthy children, then last year i missed carried at just over 6 weeks. I am now just over 5 weeks pregnant and panic every single day that it is going to happen again.

  candy wrote @ February 22, 2013 at 5:34 am

I had a miscarriage at 22weeks5days in 2009 evr since I was scared then in 2010 tried again nd @ 5weeks was diagnosed with eptopic pregnancy. Then last year I went 2 da doctor they dd a scan on my uterus nd tubes nd found dat all looks normal. dis year i fell pregnant again nd 2day m 18weeks5days wat scares me is da fact dat wat if I myt miscarry again at 22weeks, gosh I just pray 2 god that nothing happens 2 my baby I’d die dis tym is it possible 2 miscarry the third tym though!!!!!

  candy wrote @ February 22, 2013 at 5:37 am

I had a miscarriage at 22weeks5days in 2009 evr since I was scared then in 2010 tried again nd @ 5weeks was diagnosed with false eptopic pregnancy. Dat turned out 2 b incomplete miscarriage Then last year I went 2 da doctor they dd a scan on my uterus nd tubes nd found dat all looks normal. dis year i fell pregnant again nd 2day m 18weeks5days wat scares me is da fact dat wat if I myt miscarry again at 22weeks, gosh I just pray 2 god that nothing happens 2 my baby I’d die dis tym is it possible 2 miscarry the third tym though!!!!!

  Justice wrote @ February 27, 2013 at 5:03 am

Hi my names is Justice,
I had a miscarriage about 1year ago, i was extremely hurt.. I did Not wait to long after to have sex i believe it was maybe two or three days after MC i wanted to be pregnant so i started trying asap my docter told me when i was ready i could try to conceive again.. But now itz a year later and im still not pregnant ;( im wondering if i damaged myself by having sex to soon after i MC? I have two children already im 25 years old ready for my third baby & itz driving me crazy… I need answers…

  Lea-Anne wrote @ March 1, 2013 at 2:46 pm

I had a blighted ovum at the end of January 5+4. This would have been my second child. My first pregnancy was perfect and I have been blessed with my beautiful daughter. I have just fount out today that I am pregnant again so soon after the last. I am petrified that this one will go wrong as well. Has anybody had any similar stories? Thank you x

  Kristin Young wrote @ April 1, 2013 at 9:57 am

I am an older mom with a long history. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 9 weeks without ever detecting a FHB. Since then over a span of 20 years I’ve had 6 successful live births. I am so grateful for these children. However, the journey has been difficult. I lost every other pregnancy up until 2 years ago. Then at 36 yrs old I experienced 5 consecutive losses.
In total I’ve survived 7 first trimester losses, 3 second trimester losses, and this November the 39 week stillbirth of my daughter.
I am now 39 yrs old, and with the same husband I conceived my first pregnancy with. We ache for our children. I am now 9.5 weeks pregnant with a child that has a strong FHB. Curious if there are statistics for women like me.
All testing has shown negative, we do have healthy children. Our loss has been extraordinary,and the statistics have mocked me.
I want to hope, but am so fearful. This child is due 11 months after my daughter’s stillbirth.

  Tina wrote @ April 3, 2013 at 1:13 am

I need prayers ! ! !
I have 4 children 14,12,10 and 8 I am only 29 30 next month but right now I’m 8 weeks and bleeding slight cramps, I don’t know how to feel as this would be my 3rd miscarriage in 11 months. My kids are not my current husbands and all of us got our hopes up so much thinking 3rd times a charm :'(

  ashley wrote @ April 12, 2013 at 11:12 pm

Had a miscarriage 1 year ago it was my first pregnancy just found out today I am pregnant again, very scared but have FAITH God will see me through.

  laura wrote @ April 19, 2013 at 12:28 pm

Ive had 3 misscariages now i had one 11yrs ago n went on to have 3 children ive now had 2 misscariages in the past six months im really frightned to try again the first ws at five weeks second ws at 9 weeks and i had even seen the heart beat at 7 weeks can any one help plz :(

  Dakota wrote @ July 21, 2013 at 2:35 am

Hi, i had a question that im hoping you can answer for me. I had my first miscarriage back on march 28, 2013. Its been 4 months since it happened. I just found that im 4 weeks 2 days pregnant. I have 3 other children ages 7,6 and 7 months. My husband and i are completely terrified that this pregnancy will miscarry like the last 1 did. I guess my question is, what are my chances roughly of another miscarriage? We’re crossing our fingers hoping for a girl since our other 3 are all boys.

  leanne wrote @ November 15, 2013 at 3:27 am

I had two miscarriages 4 years ago 9 months apart. The first one I was 9 weeks 4 days no heartbeat. The second one was 4 weeks no baby just the sac. I’m now 8 weeks 2 days pregnant I heard the heart beat the day I turned 8 weeks. The baby measured 8 weeks and the heart beat was a strong and steady 175bpm. What are my chances of miscarriage now? Come on 12 weeks hurry up somy percentage will drop.

  Ann wrote @ February 12, 2014 at 10:34 pm

Not sure if you are still responding. I have had a baby, then had 3 miscarriages. One at 18 weeks, 2 at 5 weeks. Then we had a baby. Then we had a miscarriage at 18 weeks. They can find nothing wrong. Any thoughts? We would like to try again – but am quite nervous. The late miscarriages are very hard.

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