DeannaLast year I was delighted to discover Faces of Loss. What an amazing web site and crew of women behind it.
Today I found another amazing woman out to get miscarriage and stillbirth out in the open — Debbie Howard. She is directing an independent film called Peekaboo in the UK. They are most of the way through raising the $10K needed to start production, have cast the lead roles, and well, listen to her tell it:
You still have time to contribute to the cause. Filming should begin at the end of February. If you’re looking for something to support in the name of your baby, this might be it. Go do it: http://www.indiegogo.com/Peeka-boo
Hello…I just had a miscarriage 2 wks ago and had my d&c 7 days ago…. I still feel so sad,hurt,and I feel I’m goin crazy! The 2 days I lost my baby I was in the er and the dr. Gave my husband a dr.note and he still got written up…. I feel so bad ,he would have never got written up if it wasn’t for me losing our child! I feel like I am overwhelming my husband…I can’t sleep,yesterday I though I herd my baby wispher in my ear and say mommy! I’ve had my days mixed up..in fact I called the electric and starting screaming @ my rep cause I thought he had his dates and times mixed up for my bill date! Ever since my d&c I’ve had massive migraines,blurred vision in my right eye,and I cantnot use the restroom….I’m still bleeding a little bit…what do u think is going on? This morning I had a breakdown and all day I felt tired and my body ached! I have a son who is 8 and everything was fine…I don’t understand why this baby died! What if I get pregant again and the baby dies again? What’s the chacne of that happining? Can u pls help me ..please
My baby had everything eyes ears,noes,lil fingers,lil toes,lil elbows that were starting to form…I feel alone! I even have been crying in my sleep and I’m so tired during the day… what can I do to feel better…I kinda just want to be with my husband all day and when he goes to work I just want to be alone and in bed…is that bad….I feel so drained! I want to have a baby again…
Hi,
Thanks so much for bringing attention to the topic of miscarriage. I noticed that you have a link to Debbie’s fundraising website. She and I are in touch because of our common interest.
After my own experiences I needed to believe that the world was different in a positive way because of the losses. I was driven to create something that would not have existed had I not miscarried. A filmmaker by trade, what resulted is a ten-minute short film The House I Keep, about a woman who struggles to come to terms with the loss of her baby through miscarriage. A relentless war between her internal and external life has plagued her recovery until she stumbles upon a curious symbol of hope that helps lead her back to peace.
After screenings of The House I Keep, I have been overwhelmed by the heartbreaking stories of miscarriage that women have felt compelled to share. These gatherings became transformative. Discussing the film has provided an ‘appropriate’ place to share their own stories. Their silence was broken and isolation bridged. My mission for the film is to improve the mental health of women and their families mourning miscarriage by providing an identifiable voice through the film. The film is a platform for discussion and understanding, and hence, an impetus for healing.
With the film now complete, and ready to premiere in 2011, we are doing everything we can to raise awareness about the topic of miscarriage and our film. Please visit our website at http://www.thehouseikeep.com for more detailed information about the film. If you like what you see, please join us on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-House-I-Keep/69409738707.
Anything you can do to help us spread the word is, of course, very much appreciated!
Very best,
Jhene Erwin
Producer/Co-Director/Writer – The House I Keep
My name is Treva and and I lost my son, Evan almost two years ago at five months of pregnancy. My boyfriend and I still feel a lot of sorrow because of losing him. The doctors saw before hand that my cervix had a slight opening but did nothing to stop it. I started bleeding and when I got to the hospital my water broke. The doctors that looked over my medical charts shook their heads at the medical neglect that I’d received. My sorrow is also mixed with a little anger because his loss could have been prevented. When I gave birth to him 12 hours later, he had passed away. WE held our angel, touched him, kissed him, cried over him, and told him we loved him. The nurse I had provided loving comfort despite what we were going through. She gave us pictures and a little outfit they dressed him in. Our son in buried at the cemetery. It will always hurt because there’s a piece of my heart that died with him. I know that all of our angels are waiting for us in perfect condition and health. we will see them again some day and never have to let go:) It took me along time to realize it. i have a necklace that i got made with his birthstone. birthday, and name on it. I feel that he’s always with me now because he’s in my heart. I think this website is amazing because know one knows the answers unless they’ve gone through it.
Very nice initiative, keep it up.